Partners age?

[Deethehippy]

I am 37 in february and unfortunately me and my partner (aged 45) just lost a baby (i have a scan tomorrow to check the miscarriage is complete)

I know that women over 35 have higher risks of various genetic defects and less chance of falling pregnant so quick BUT does anyone know how my partners age may affect things?

Should we seek a doctors assistance before trying again do you think?
I'm not sure i could go through MC after MC (had another one when i was younger too)

 

[Jolinar]

Hi, I'm really sorry to hear of your loss. Unfortunately age is a factor for both men and women with regards to difficulty conceiving, birth defects and genetic issues, this page might interest you:

https://www.mothers35plus.co.uk/older-fathers.htm

It might be wise for you both to get checked by the doc. Good luck!

 

[Omi]

Hi hun,

Firstly, so sorry about your loss!

In answer to your question, the only thing i would suggest is for him to go to his GP and request a SA (sperm analysis). Its very easy to do and would be a great help to rule out any problems with him. The reason i mention it is because men are 50% as likely to have problems as women, that is not to say anything is amiss with him but its a sure way of ruling it out and more peace of mind for you (and less invasive and less expensive than tests performed on women).

Im sure you are both fine and speaking as someone who has been there twice I know how devastating a mc is, i can relate to your worries.

May you heal quickly and all the best for the future!

Omi xxx

 

[Deethehippy]

Everyone is so nice on here - thank you!

 

[maybethisit]

so sorry for your loss my husband is 44, I think statistically it makes a difference but that doesn't mean that in any individual case it will affect you - I think sometimes unfortunately miscarriages just happen, devastating as it is, but statistically most people then go on to have a healthy pregnancy next time round. I have two teenagers and had a miscarriage in between their births - I was 23 and my then-husband was 34! After that I went on to have my son, who was conceived about 4 months later (and we waited to try again!). xxx

 

[BabyAddict]

I am 35 and he is 40.

 

[ciarhwyfar]

I am 42 and my partner is 35. We are hoping to conceive our second together (my third) very soon as both of us are now 35 and up.

 

[40s Gal]

So sorry for your loss.

I'm 43 and he's 46. It's something I thought about. He wants to keep trying for another six months or so. I'm ok with either outcome, but when we decide to give up, I will go on birth control. I'm pretty sure that will be a really sad day for me. The older I get, the more I worry about complications.

 

[PG5K]

i am 26 and my DH is is 44. It does make me worry because of his age. I have read websites that say there is more of a chance of complications and sometimes there isnt.
Im hoping that due to my age that it will help us.

We are going to start ttc soon.

 

[sarahincanada]

oh Dee Im so sorry to hear you had a miscarriage are you doing ok?

it could be worth a trip to the doctors and ask them to do a sperm analysis. because I am 38 my doctor has sent me to a fertility specialist. the specialist told me that 10 months is not unusual for someone my age, but sent me for a sono and hubby for a sperm analysis. might be worth it for you to have some tests, my thinking is that at 38 Id prefer to know if anything is wrong now.

his age might have something to do with it, but you do read of men much older than him having healthy children so Im sure its just a small risk and he might be completely fine.

is he the father of your 2 other children? (sorry if that sounds rude, its just theres many different people with different marital situations on here)

hopefully 2011 will be a good one for you both, take care

 

[princessjulia]

im so sorry hun 4 yr loss im 41 n my hubby 43 we had all tests they sed theres nowt wrong we asked if age was factor he said not really a lot of couples wait til later on for children hope that helps

 

[future_numan]

I am 38 ( where did the years go) and DH is 42 !

 

[sargmel]

I am 30 and partner is 48. His counts were low and motility low...so I was worried as the months went by...but in the end it took a year to conceive...so it is possible! Just may take longer. Worth doing the sperm analysis up front so you're not wasting precious months! Even if his counts are low...give it a year. If he has none (or close to none) then you know to go a different route. Good luck!

 

[_Vicky_]

So sorry for your loss - cant add anything else to the above but didnt want to read and run

ps I was 36 and oh 29 when we conceived xx