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Hi Everyone. I am posting my story of loss and placental abruption and I am looking for other women who have been through it as well. Looking for hope for safe and healthy pregnancies in the future.
I found out I was pregnant on the 28th of June/2007. I took two different tests that day to be sure of it. My fiancé and I were not trying to conceive but were not taking the proper precautions to prevent pregnancy. I was not drinking or had not drunk any alcohol during the pregnancy or within the 2 months prior to becoming pregnant. I was a smoker and continued to smoke (even though I should have quit). I called my family doctor in Oromocto and made an appointment to see him for my first prenatal visit. His name is Dr. Vaughn Roxborough. He has been my family doctor since birth and fallowed me through my first pregnancy back in 2002. He did the exam and said everything was fine. I was having a lot of cramping around 11 weeks pregnant and went to the Moncton City Hospital. The doctor ordered me an ultrasound and they said everything looked normal. I went to see Roxborough monthly for a few months but with winter approaching and since I lived in Petitcodiac, NB he decided I should see someone closer for the pregnancy. He referred me to Dr. Carlos in Petitcodiac and I began to see her. I had a routine ultrasound done on the 4th of October/2007 and I was around 19 weeks pregnant at that time. Once again, everything looked fine and things were going well.
My fiancé and I along with my son moved into our own place in Anagance, NB in November of 2007 and soon after I began to have inner thigh pain like I had ran a marathon or pulled the muscles. After a few days the pain was still present and I began to think that it might be something else. After a few weeks the pain spread down into my pelvis and I began to worry. I called Dr. Roxboroughs office and spoke with the nurse there named Bonnie. She told me that it sounded like I had a lot of pressure down there and that it could possibly mean I might have a higher risk of pre-term labor. Worried I began searching on the internet for the symptoms I was having trying to find out what it might be that was causing the pain. I spoke with Dr. Carlos about the pain and she didnt seem concerned about it at all. She did an internal exam which also was very painful. She asked me if I always had pain like that during any internal exams and I told her I did not. She looked a little puzzled and said I must be overly sensitive during this pregnancy. The fallowing appointment with her I mentioned the pain again and told her it was very painful for me. I also told her that I had looked up a condition called Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction and told her that the symptoms seem to point to this condition. Carlos then told me it sounded like that is what I have, and to do what the website said for ways to help with the pain. Not once was I examined or actually diagnosed with this and ended up suffering with the horrible pain for the remainder of the pregnancy.
In the middle of January/2008 I began to suffer from high blood pressure. Dr. Carlos told me I would have to be admitted and induced because of the blood pressure. She then called 2 different ob/gyns and came back into the reexamining room to tell me that the guidelines had changed and I could return home, but had to be on bed rest. She said I could still do things around the house but to make sure I rent a lot as well during the day. She explained to me that when a woman has high blood pressure it increases the risks for the placenta to detach. That scared me and so I did as she told me and also changed my eating habits to try and lower my blood pressure. My next appointment with her showed my blood pressure was still up and she told me if by the fallowing week, when I return to her office, if it was still up she would admit me and induce labor. She also did the uterine measurements and said the baby was measuring 32 weeks when he should have been measuring 35 weeks. She also told me that if the measurements didnt go up by the fallowing week appointment that she would order an ultrasound and see if she could find out why the baby would not be growing. She explained that it could just be his position in the womb effecting the measurements so I tried not to worry so much. She told me I had to be on strict bed rest at this point so I had my son, who is 5, stay with his father in Oromocto so I could rest the way I should be. That doctors appointment took place on the 31st of January/2008.
On Tuesday the 5th of February I woke up feeling ill. I was just not feeling up to par so I called Dr. Carloss office and asked if I could have the nurse there check my blood pressure. I went in and she put me on the machine and it was not working properly. Dr. Carlos was still at the office and when the machine finally got a good reading it was up more, so she seen me. She did up the paperwork and told me to go into labor and delivery at the Moncton Hospital. My fiancé took me in to the hospital and they put me on the fetal heart rate monitor and checked my blood pressure many times. The Doctor on call that night who seen me was Dr. Murphy-Kaulbeck. During my short stay in the hospital that evening they said the babys heart rate was sleepy. I was turned onto my right side because they said sometimes the baby doesnt like it when the mother lies on her back. They checked the monitor again after that and said it was a little better. I was sent home soon after.
On the 7th of February, 2008 I woke up and didnt feel well. I thought my blood pressure was up even higher and also began to feel the pain under my ribs and had bad swelling, more swelling than before. I figured I would end up being admitted that day and induced so I packed my bags before my appointment. Around an hour before we were to leave for the doctor I began to have cramping and thought I was going into labor. We got into the car around 9 minutes after 3, since my appointment was for 3:15pm and I only live 5 minutes from Petitcodiac. It was around 3:11pm when I was in the car and felt a massive gush of fluid and thought my water broke. I told my fiancé and then felt another gush and said oh yes, my water did break He then looked down and said there was blood. At first I thought mucous plug, since I have heard other people call it bloody show. I put my hand down there and when I looked at it, it was covered in blood. My fiancé pulled into the doctors office and ran in to tell them to call 911. They told him to bring me around the back of the building. They brought me into the office and Dr. Carlos examined me. She kept asking me if I was having contractions. I told her it was like I was having a constant contraction and it was very painful. The paramedics arrived and put me into the ambulance. The paramedic in back with me seemed very nervous and scared. I remember seeing his hands shaking. I delivered my son at 4:23pm via emergency c-section at the Moncton City Hospital. When I woke up in recovery I was in agonizing pain. My fiancé and his step mother, Candy was in there with me. I asked how my son was doing and all we were told was that he was in critical condition and they were still working on him. I was wheeled up to my hospital room and there I met up with my mother and father as well. We went to see Kaleb down in the NICU around 11pm and seen him hooked up to many different machines and tubes were everywhere. He was also seizing at that time. We were told he wouldnt survive even with the help of the machines and decided once they told us he was almost 100% brain dead, to take him off the machines. He passed away soon after 12am the 8th of February. I was released from the hospital on Saturday, the 9th of February around supper time, once my staples were removed. It has been a rough year for me and Mark and I am so scared of getting pregnant again. We are going to ttc this cycle coming and I would really love to hear your stories.
and have a happy and healthy 9 mths 
