Please don't think I'm a horrible person...

[Hels_Bells]

I had a girl doing the same thing to me for a while. Granted, I am not a mom yet either, but we were trying for 7 months - which meant plenty of research, etc. Either way I didn't think she was in any position to be giving me advice. It's just annoying.

 

[Hevalouaddict]

i was watching glee with my sister in law who has no children and its the one (if you watch glee?!?) where quinn and half a dozen other pregnant girls (who look like there carrying triplets judging by there bump sizes) are bouncing around, singing and dancing... i happened to mention i didn't think it was possible to bouce around like that at around 8months preg let alone bend over to tie your shoe laces and she starting having ago at me! saying her friend does the irish jig every night...she's 8 weeks pregnant!!! not months. people like my sil stress me out, i can barely climb the stairs and im not even 6 months yet. grr... sorry for ranting on your thread. i completely know how you feel x

 

[sjwebb]

No need to apologize, thats what the thread is here for I would never try to patronize someone if I hadn't ever even been pregnant. She has no clue whats shes talking about.

 

[Hevalouaddict]

i think us very hormonal pregnant ladies need to be left alone... if i want pregnancy advise i'll ask other pregnant mums not my sil who thought she was pregnant because her back hurt! (she doesn't have a boyfriend either so unless she's the virgin mary i don't think she's having kids any time soon) being pregnant has given me a new found hatred towards idiots...

 

[sandilion]

Oh I know exactly what you mean!!! I have a woman at work who is a lot older than me but has never had kids, nor ever been pregnant and ever since she has found out about my pregnancy she talks to me like i am a little kid! Telling me how i need to raise the kid, what to do what not to do, and also comments on what im wearing if she feels im not 'rugged up enough' ....

Another apparent work 'friend' (who also hasn't ever been pregnant yet but is older than me) asked me how i am going with it all, i told her that i have had a rough time with MS but i am coping and at least it's possibly a good sign the baby is ok... she laughed at me and said "Oh geeze you believe all the wives tales? I would think it would mean the opposite actually" and i just looked at her dumb founded... who the hell says that?!?! I was so offended she had the cheek to think she had the right to say to my face "I don't think your pregnancy is healthy" all because i have MS. I had a strong feeling that day that she most likely is hoping it doesn't work out for me...

I have found it can be a vicious world for pregnant women. Another girl i thought was a friend at work has turned so cold and nasty towards me since i have got pregnant. It's so clear as day she is ridden with jealousy! All she'd ever talk about is that she never wanted children, but with her nasty reaction towards me i think it's the opposite.... maybe she can't have kids...i don't know! But something is definitely not right with her. It upsets me being at work and seeing her glaring at me so hatefully.

Pregnancy definitely triggers odd reactions in other people depending on where they are at mentally i think. Im just closing off now with people at work and not being open to talk about it with them anymore. There are too many wolves dressed up as lambs in the pregnancy world.

 

[luckybreak]

My hormones are raging the littlest thing just sets the the f*&^ off. I'm so tired of being patronized by other women. Especially women who have NO children. This girl on my facebook is sitting here telling me that if its a girl then I'm going to gain horrible weight, and I'm having horrible morning sickness and she keeps telling me "oh it will go away, it seems like its forever but after the first trimester it will go away" UGH! Its like listen, I have a child already. I know what the fuck is going to happen. You don't even have a child so don't sit there and give me advice on pregnancy and labor. Then she tries to tell me how she was in the room when someone gave birth so now she thinks she is a fucking know it all. UGH!!! Sorry for the rant. I just want to tell her off but I don't want to be mean.

you dont need the stress if she is nobody important time to unfriend her, you dont owe her an explanation.

 

[amotherslove]

pretty sure she's just an idiot. not the hormones talking.. since telling people ive gotten "i think it's unwise to keep it" "you shouldnt co-sleep it'll make your child emotionally dependant." "oh you cant be having M/S yet, youre only five weeks" (this was said while i was vomiting...) "you cant have a positive test this early (well then bitch whats these two little lines?? hmmm?) and sooooooooooooooooooooooo much more unwarranted advice. so frigging annoying.. if i didnt ASK, dont give me advice.

 

[DollPosse]

Oh how can you not love people like that? lol

I group those people in with a woman I know who thinks that she knows everything about babies and children now because her son is 6 months old. Yes apparently since my daughter is 5 that means I am old and I no longer know anything about babies so my suggestions are worthless. lol

I know women who have had their first child and would try to tell me I know nothing about pregnancy or childbirth... because you know pregnancy and childbirth are so much different now then they were 6 years ago.

These types of people do annoy me obviously but I have found that there seems to be a trend with many first time moms that they are experts on everything, but it seems in general people think they are experts on everything... yes I know I am mean. lol

 

[sjwebb]

I am so glad I have you girls to talk to. Its driving me insane. Its like if you've never had a baby let alone, been PREGNANT, shut up and don't give me advice. I just want to scream sometime.

 

[Coleey]

Ugh! I know how you feel chick, some people really need to take their heads out of their own arses!!
xx

 

[no drama mama]

I'd rip the bitch to shreds but I'm not a fan of being the bigger person