Please enlighten me...

[hollyw79]

Did sex hurt after your first time being with your other half after a miscarriage?? I bled on my own for 5 days and then had a d&c a week ago. I "wanted" to be with him last night but I know there is a 2 week timeframe so I am going to wait.. but part of me is afraid that it will hurt.. would you mind sharing???

 

[nicb26]

Hiya, no it didn't hurt at all. We dots while I was waiting for d and c, and I had to get dh to stop because it felt really weird, kind of like he was hitting on something (not sure if that was psychological or not). We then dtd a week after d and c, and it didn't hurt at all.

I'm really sorry for your loss x

 

[babyhopes2010]

if never hurt however ur cervix can be a lil tender so just take it easy.it really helped me feel close to dh making love.sounds silly but i felt much better after lol

 

[hollyw79]

thanks

I *AM* nervous about it.. I feel like I emotionally "need" it .. and physically too but I am just afraid for some reason!!!

 

[babyhopes2010]

i found i was scared of getting pregnant straight away,im ttc now but it just didnt feel like i should be having sex after losing my baby if that makes sense?

 

[essie0828]

Dh and I dtd soon after my surgery as well. It helped make things feel normal again. Dont be afraid, although there are mixed emotions at times, Bd'ing is what starts the journey.

 

[hollyw79]

yes, it definitely does babyhopes2010 .. I am just worried about it physically hurting hopefully not!

 

[vonz]

i know what u mean holly... im also alittle afraid to be intimate still. im still spotting after my d&c on 21st feb, and have some brown discharge... is it normal?

 

[babyhopes2010]

if u still spotting dont bd,as ur cervix is still open and it can lead to infection x

 

[iluvbump]

Did sex hurt after your first time being with your other half after a miscarriage?? I bled on my own for 5 days and then had a d&c a week ago. I "wanted" to be with him last night but I know there is a 2 week timeframe so I am going to wait.. but part of me is afraid that it will hurt.. would you mind sharing???

I was sore for about 3 times after now it doesn't.. I think it was case it had been a while though xx

 

[hollyw79]

Thanks ladies!!

vonz~ the brown discharge is normal... I am a week and 1 day out and still getting some. I saw my doc today for a check up and he said it's normal. ((SIGH)) I hope it goes away soon!

 

[vonz]

hey holly, u mentioned that using OPK is good. are the ones u used midstream ones or test strips/non-midstream ones? and how often do u test? do we have to test them at the same timing daily? what if the kit shows we are ovulating while we r in the office? sorry for the many questions... trying to find some hope in the midst of the lost.

 

[MsJMouse]

Hi Holly - this is a good question i was wondering about this as well. Had planned on maybe dtd last night but i am back to spotting (a little heavier today) so still waiting and wondering if it will hurt??

 

[hollyw79]

MsJMouse~ I am waiting for the spotting to stop too. (SIGH) It's been 9 days since my d&c .. so I know I'm probably expecting it to stop too early. I had an internal exam yesterday at my doc's and didn't feel any discomfort so I am hoping that means that it will be the same with my DH... but I will have him go slowly the first time I am sure. I am nervous! I am hoping next week some time! Fx'd!

vonz~ It doesn't matter which type of OPK you use- I've used both- and I've used 2 different brands @ the same time to see if one was more reliable and they all worked the same. When you get the + .. it means you need to as soon as possible as you could ovulate anywhere from 6-48 hours later. Once you get your +, have sex daily until 1-2 days after the surge is gone. The egg can live 12-24 hours- so even if you have ovulated- you can STILL catch the egg after the fact.. so that's why it's good to still for a day or 2 after.

I know the very first morning I got a + on an OPK- I left work early! haha.. I didn't get preggo that month though! You WILL start to see a general pattern hopefully and learn when you are close to ovulating as for most women- it's generally around the same day each month, give or take a day or 2... and then you want to try and like 4 days before to 2 days after ovulation. I am a HUGE advocate of doing it daily during that window- no more than 24 hours apart to maximize your chances. Definitely let me know if you have any other questions!