please help!!!! asap

[littlebabyboy]

hi girls. i'm new. 17w5d along. havent much time to chat and will tell more about myself at a later stage. just need to know...

HOW DID YOU TELL YOUR PARENTS???

ive been trying and trying but freaked myself out too much and now look how far i am and not said anything!

im 22 so not that young but only with my boyfriend a year next month. my mum and sis have ha suspicions and asked me but i always denied it and now i'm worried that my mum will go mad that i lied to her several times.
please help girls. gonna tell her 2nite hopefully.

any miracle ways to do this? what did you all do and is there someway its easier? i know she'll be ok after, i'm just worried about intial reaction. boyfriend is gonna do most of talking!!

please let me know asap so i have some advice before doing this as im super scared!

oh found out its a boy last nite and have a pic so hoping that may help a little!!

 

[cupcake]

hun if you have a good relationship with your mom, even tho u deceived her you can explain it was only out of fear and you have been wanting to tell her and are sorry that you have not said something sooner. she might be a bit angry at first but im sure shell get over it. you have a boyfriend who you have been with for a year, it sounds like youre in a happy relationship and like you said you are not so young. people may be surprised but im sure in the end your family will pull through for you. take a scan pic with if you have one coz they might want to see and just be open and honest. good luck!

 

[Blob]

Ha ha i said would you like to see something and i showed them the scan photo and it kind of made it all ok cos they were more looking at the pic. That would be my advice if you dont want to just come out and say it. Ha ha ha!! Good Luck!!

 

[Becki77]

Hello, hard isnt it?!!
I just told my mum i had something shocking to tell her and blurted it out! Then cried lots and lots so she was fine and just kept trying to make me feel better!
Good luck xx

 

[leeanne]

Oh honey, you must tell her. You might be worried all for nothing and her reaction may surprise you. You are, afterall, 22 years old!

Good luck and hope everything goes well!

 

[nikky0907]

You shouldn't have lied to your mom.
She asked you fankly and you should have talked to her.
If she asked you several times then it won't be such a shock to her and she won't be that upset about it.
You're not a baby,they'll help you,but it's important that you guys start dealing with the pregnancy as soon as possible...
Just sit her down and tell her.She probably won't be that surprised...

Good luck!

 

[polo_princess]

Just tell her the truth, she will aprreciate it much more than you lying hunni. Whatever her reaction is, if you lie of hide it she will think that you cant talk to her

I text my mum at 6am with a pic of my BFP sayin "mum this means im pregnant doesnt it?" But i have a very very good relationship with my mum

 

[Serene123]

Firstly, congratulations on your boy and your pregnancy.

I found it easy to tell my mum. I knew she'd be mad and upset but I also knew she'd love me even if I murdered someone. Also, I told her the day after I found out. I knew it'd get hard if I left it. I made her promise not to get mad or hate me first too lol. She didn't, she just cried..

 

[leeanne]

Did you speak with your mom last night?

 

[Serene123]

I'll tell you exactly how I did it seeing as I'm bored lol.

I did it over the phone, not because I couldn't tell her to her face, but because I was at my friends for a week and I didn't want to leave it that long. I text her and said there was something that I needed to tell her. She called me and asked me what it was. I said I couldn't tell her because I was afraid of her reaction. She said I could tell her anything. I made her promise not to get mad. She promised. I told her. She didn't believe me at first, then, she did. She cried for a while, two days before she stopped completely I think, then she was just fine. Now she's the most excited nan-to-be on the planet. She knows I did what was right for me, my boyfriend and my baby. I wasn't being stupid and I told her that. She said I've ruined my life and I had to explain to her that it wasn't ruined I had just changed it. Yes, I made it slightly more difficult, but since when has anything easy been worth doing?

 

[nikky0907]

I'll tell you exactly how I did it seeing as I'm bored lol.

I did it over the phone, not because I couldn't tell her to her face, but because I was at my friends for a week and I didn't want to leave it that long. I text her and said there was something that I needed to tell her. She called me and asked me what it was. I said I couldn't tell her because I was afraid of her reaction. She said I could tell her anything. I made her promise not to get mad. She promised. I told her. She didn't believe me at first, then, she did. She cried for a while, two days before she stopped completely I think, then she was just fine. Now she's the most excited nan-to-be on the planet. She knows I did what was right for me, my boyfriend and my baby. I wasn't being stupid and I told her that. She said I've ruined my life and I had to explain to her that it wasn't ruined I had just changed it. Yes, I made it slightly more difficult, but since when has anything easy been worth doing?

Thats a great saying in the end!Might become my new mantra...
Don't you just hate it when people tell you ''you ruines your life''?What does that even mean?What makes one life ruined?You ruin your dress when you accidentaly rip it or spill something unwashable on it because it can't be worn anymore,it's no longer a dress.The only way one life stops being a life is when you die...and thats clearly not a situation here...

Sorry...rambling...

 

[Serene123]

No one has told me I ruined my life apart from my mum lol. I guess she's the only one who could speak her mind on the situation.

 

[NatalieB]

^^
Sorry to be nosey
But how old are you?

Just curious

 

[Serene123]

18

 

[NatalieB]

Ahh right

 

[mBLACK]

Wow so many people like to ask you how old you are Toria. Just blurt it out. Honestly. That may be the only way you'll ever get it out to your mother, but FIRST apologize for lying to her, it will make her more understanding. There are several ways you could tell her, via phone, internet, txt message or just in person, I recommend you tell her in person seeing as you'll get the best reaction out of her. I just told my grandma when I got pregnant (she's my legal guardian). She didn't get mad at first until she took me to get a test and then she was a little.. misplaced. But the thing is they won't stay mad forever, never happens, maybe a couple of days. Good luck telling your mom.

 

[Serene123]

I think it's because I act like a middle aged woman and look like a 10 year old..

 

[mBLACK]

I know what you mean, better to look young than to look old though!

 

[nikky0907]

I think I stumbled upon atleast 5 threads where people ask you how old you are Toria...In the most random situations....
Well,my parents were the only one who told me that I ruined my life but I don't think there is one person of our age pregnant who hasn't heard it atleast once...

 

[wantababybump]

I think I stumbled upon atleast 5 threads where people ask you how old you are Toria...In the most random situations....
Well,my parents were the only one who told me that I ruined my life but I don't think there is one person of our age pregnant who hasn't heard it atleast once...

When I got pregnant the first time (November when I found out) I went to the docs to get it confirmed but she wasnt my usual doc and when I went to pee in the cup she looked at my hubby and said "Congratulations your life is now over". I was shocked and appalled when he told me she said that. I never had respect for her from the very beginning (because of previous stuff unrelated to pregnancy) and even dreaded having to see her but now I really dont like her and dont respect her one ounce. Thank god for this pregnancy I have a whole new doctors office to go to. My parents were excellent when I told them about my pregnancy but I did it in a cute way.

I gave them a christmas tree ornament each that said "With love to grandma at christmas" and "with love to grandpa at christmas" and wrapped them in boxes and all we said was "we bought you christmas tree ornaments!" and told them to open them...my mom was shocked almost like she didnt believe what she was reading and my dad just said "Hmmmph congratulations!!" I started to cry and mom jumped up rubbed my belly and said "We're having a baby!!" She then went on to tell everyone she could. This pregnancy I just told them over the phone as she already thought I was pregnant again and she is just as excited!! PS...I was 20 (am 21 in May)

Goodluck littlebabyboy Im sure they will be fine and they are going to love you just the same and they will love their grandson so much!! Let us know how you get on!! xo