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Please help I'm so confused ! !

Livnewmummy

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Hi guys. My names olivia! Please do not judges
On my thread please read and try to understand.

I had the coil after December 11 fitted, by April 2012 it was causing me to have terrible periods and cramps and heavy bleeding.

I was admitted to hospital with PV bleeding and had that coil removed on the 30th may, I can't be 100% when my period was proof
To removal of the coil but it I started bleeding around the 25th of may, 5 days before the removal of the coil, the doctor gave me a 6 week course of medication to stop my periods, After listening to friends and not asking my GP I was convinced the pill acted as a contraception and had unproctected sex with
My long term partner, I stopped bleeding after 2 days of having the coil
Removed and carried on the pills for no longer then 3 days as they were giving me terrible stomach pains, myself and my partner carried on having unprotected sex using the pulling out method! (I
Know not clever) I found out after a pregnancy test around the 17th of July I was pregnant. I told my partner instantly who was not happy and asked me when will I be booking in with the clinic to have the baby terminated, something which I was not going to do!! It caused a lot of tension of and stress and he had no interests in the pregnancy unless it was to ask if I had booked in with the clinic. I decided that this man of two years whom
I own a home with is not for me and not who I though he was, especially after him having his mum phone me and tell me how he needs to let his buissness take of before a family is made. We have split up but while I save up to now rent my own place closer to family we had stayed in the same house, even tho
I have been so excited over the fact I am carrying a baby and that I won't struggle on my own it's been a horrible experience not being able to enjoy it because I cannot speak to him about it, now like
I said I found out I was pregnant around the 17th July and were now on the 16th September and I have only just booked my
Midwifes appointment for Tuesday, I have just been scared to confirm
The pregnancy I think and I little still in shock, I have a bump nearly and my boobs have grown in size a lot, I've been from sick as a dog to now
Feeling full of life. All I have done to make sure my baby is there is keep taking the tests, as I Said I'll be in to see my midwife on Tuesday and hopfully she will get me a scan ASAP, I'm just so confused on how far i am and my due date, I've been told my friends and family I'm
Anything from 15 weeks to only 8 weeks. Please help!!

Thank you for reading mummy's!! Xxx:cry:
 
Hi sweetie,

Try not to get too upset or stressed during your pregnancy. I spent my first three months after my partner left me crying and crying but now I wish I hadn't as a woman should enjoy her pregnancy not dread it or feel sad all through it because of some stupid man. Look after yourself, be kind to yourself. You don't need a guy who won't support you when you need him the most. I soooo wish sometimes men could spend a day as a woman who has to go through abortion to see what it's like. Thankfully I have never experienced it but the way men just say 'oh get rid of it' without even thinking about what that entails is so wrong. Idiots. They need to all get vasectomies or their willies chopped off if they can't take responsibility for their actions.

Once your baby is here, your ex partner will be unimportant and you can give all your love to your little one, like we say many times on here and it's very, very true ......HIS LOSS!

hugs xx
 
Thank you, I have worked out my due date on the calendar which says I am
Due around the 4th of march, this is judging by the first day of my last period..which makes me around the 15th week mark. I'm
So confused :-(
 
You'll be confused for a while, it's normal and the hormones will mess with your head too. There's a lot for you to think about and I recommend getting yourself organised with all your baby stuff at the latest after the 24 week mark as later on in your pregnancy you won't feel like or be up to sorting out the nursery, going shopping for baby clothes etc. Ask your midwife all the questions you need, she is there to provide emotional support too so don't be afraid to tell her your circumstances.
 
Thank you so much. I have friends and family to
Help but they all live abroad and are always away with buissness am I feel so alone and confused as you said! I noticed your picture hun, how did you find bringing a baby into a
Family with doggies! I have of my own which I rescued from there all between 2 and 5 now and range from medium to large!! Xxx
 
Oh my dogs are wonderful with the baby. So protective and loving ( as you can see lol)

They are not allowed alone with baby and won't be until he's much older but they are two lovely labradors and they try to snuggle him like he's their baby. Most dogs are lovely with kids but they don't know their own strength and a friendly strong waggy tail can knock a toddler over so never leave baby alone in a room with them for long as this harmless thing can happen.

p.s it is hard being alone and a mummy but baby will keep you busy and make the effort to go to baby classes and local groups and you will make new 'mum' friends who can provide great support. I have three lovely new friends since being a mum and we help each other out with babysitting and equipment, clothes etc
 
Thank you so much! I will let you know what my doctors say tomo and what my
Midwife says on Tuesday ! I have also just rang a 24 hour midwife line who
Will call me back soon and help me work out my due date to
Stop me being so anxious ! Xxx
 

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