Please help, naming our child

[siegreen]

Our baby boy was born on the 22 July so is now just over a week old. Throughout my wife's pregnancy we have been unable to choose a name. Since she was a child she has wanted a boy to be called Reuben, i hate this name so we eventually settled on George. When he was born she had gone off george and emotions were running high so i agreed with Reuben, with James as his middle name. A week has passed and i cant even say his name, i just call him baby or little mucka or anything but Reuben.
I am at my wits end as this is so important to my wife and it would break my heart not to let her have what she wants but i cant stand the name and cant imagine going through life loving and caring for someone so precious and hating what he is called.
My wife says i will get use to it, but i have had 33 years to get used to my middle name and still hate it.
This may seem trivial but is causing so much stress. Is it possible for mum to call him Reuben and me to call him James.

Please help

 

[evewidow]

you can't call him a different name to what his mom calls him it will just confuse the poor lad , I think its important that you both agree on a name , can you not renegotiate and have him called James Reuben instead ?

 

[MissMamma]

Awh I love Reuben James! Sorry, not mch help. Could you call him Ben?

 

[MUMOF5]

Tough one. We agreed on a 'compromise name, and i just couldnt call my daughter it, (the compromise name was Daisy) and i was calling her everything but as it just didnt seem right, after mentioning it to my DH he told me he felt the same . Anyways we agreed to turn her first and middle names around, so she is now Madeleine (Maddie), which suits her so much better . I guess what im tryi g to say is communicate with your wife, it took us until she was 4 mionths before we resolved the issue.

 

[NGRidley]

How about calling him RJ

 

[CedarWood]

I agree - if you are not happy - settle it before it is to late. You both should like the name.
Find another choice that you both like....
I will throw a few names out there that I have in mind myself, that may go nice with James or Reuben as a middle name.
Nathaniel, Blake, Evan, Thomas.
Hope you are able to work things out.

 

[Amygdala]

You could name him Reuben but call him by a nickname, like others have suggested. Ben, Benny, RJ, Ru..?

 

[siegreen]

Thanks for all the input, nothing has been decided yet but I think we are going to try changing the order and calling him James Reuben for a week and see how that feels. I can't believe just how stressful this has been.

 

[CedarWood]

Good luck - I hope that is workable. I like the name James

 

[RubyRainbows]

I prefer the James Reuben version much better... Hope this works well for both of you...!

If not, i think it would be perfectly fine for your wife to call him Reuben & you to call him Ben, Benny, or RJ.

Most people have some sort of nickname, and not everyone calls them that... i don't think it would be confusing at all... as long as the name you call him is a version of Reuben...