Please help! :-(

[StressedMum2B]

Hello,

I'll try to cut this short... I'm 22 years old and 15 weeks pregnant. I am struggling as to what to do about my job! I'm a nursery nurse and was recently moved into a different room in September, I've hated my job ever since! That is reason one for my thinking of quitting!

Reason two...and probably the main reason, is I've struggled so much with this pregnancy so far and it just seems to be getting worse the further along I get. I'm anaemic and because of that, since day 1 of my pregnancy I've suffered extremely badly with dizzy spells, feeling faint and extreme tiredness (to the point where I'm taking two naps a day!) I've been signed off work for the past two weeks because of all of the above.

On top of this I've been suffering stress because of my housing situation (but thats a whole other story!) I've tried to work out what my money situation would be depending on which path I took now (based on the little information I have!) and I'm begining to wonder if there would be any point to be going back to work after this sick note runs out?!

Money is my main issue...trying to deal with that and my housing situation I'm getting further stressed and combining that with the pregnancy sickness I've been feeling, going into work to a nursery of screaming hyperactive toddlers, is not something that is appealing to me right now, not to even mention the fact I cant do my job properly because of everything I have on my mind.

I suffered badly with depression when I was younger...and had a very very bad time about a year ago, to the point of being monitored by the mental health team because they worried about my state of mind. I can feel myself slipping into that again, with thoughts of 'this is all getting too much/too hard' and ;i cant cope anymore'.

Someone must be able to help or offer some advice? Please! :'(

 

[Balloo]

I don't really have any answers for u but I do suggest going to ur local citizens advice bureau or job centre to talk to someone about benefits or moey unwound be entitled to? Good luck Hun xx

 

[omfgski]

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[whatwillbex]

Sorry not to sure what to suggest. Can you go to your doctor and get signed off or take holiday to take a little time out for yourself and sort some things out? Least this way you still have money coming in.

Hope every works out ok for you x

 

[StressedMum2B]

Thanks for the replies

The doctor's suggested I take another two weeks off (due to returning depression), he thinks returning to work wont be any good to me, or work, at the moment. I'm getting more and more stressed! Everyone keeps telling me things work out...when!?

I'm down to my last £30 and my pay day is still two weeks away! I've worked out that since I will have had basically the whole of the last four weeks signed off work, my next pay day will be less than half of what I would normally get! I'm worrying so much about how I'm going to pay my car tax, my bills, petrol, food, put money aside for the baby and buy my family even the tiniest of a gift for Christmas!

My housing situation, to cut short, was that I was made homeless on the 31st October...the council have put me in a run-down hostel for the homeless...with a few (literally a handful!) exceptions, the place is full of druggies, thugs, teenage lowlifes who willingly do nothing all day except play loud music in their room. The corridors constantly smell of weed and cigerette smoke. In the three nights I've stayed there I've gained a total of about 5 hours sleep due to the noise going on all night. On top of that, the window in my room is broken so it will not close, so I've spent every night in at least three layers of clothing, wrapped in a quilt with two blankets of top, and I'm still unable to sleep due to being so cold. I think I'd sleep better in my car! I've asked to be moved but they say there are no other rooms. I'm going to the council tomorrow morning to complain to them.

On Friday I had my first session with a counsellor to try to help me deal with the stress of everything I'm going through right now. She said I really need to try not to think about anything going on right now because it's not healthy for me or the baby, especially as I'm only 16 weeks...but that's easy enough to do during the day, at night...I'm actually scared just to be in that room on my own...and I've been told I'm not allowed anyone stay over with me...I just cry myself into a restless limited sleep.