please help

[garcia99]

Hello all, I'm 14 and 16 weeks pregnant. My parents have disowned me because of this and I'm renting a room on my own for now. I don't go to school anymore and its been hard finding a job to support myself. The baby's father is very supportive but we are still very inexperienced and afraid.. My bump is visible now and I've grown a whopping 13 inches since I got pregnant. Its getting very tiring and I don't know what to do. It feels just so new and we are like two lost sheep on this journey. I've only been to the doctors once since I got pregnant because we are really saving everything we've got. should I just continue on like this or should I spend and seek help? Money is very tight at the moment but I'm worried about my bump and my health ):

 

[garcia99]

Just got back from a doctors check and I found out I'm having triplets. Even more worried about my finances now. Should I try to speak to my parents about it?

 

[Koifish]

First glad you went to the doctor and found out.

If you think your parents will listen then yes I would at least try to talk to them. What about fob and his parents? Other relatives?

See if you have a multiples support group in your area. Try to also apply for any type of assistance you can if your able to (not sure on age restrictions where you are). Maybe a women's center can help?

I know that finances can be hard and it's a struggle sometimes but this is a high risk pregnancy and you really need to do the recommended check ups and get to a specialist. There are many risks with multiples for them and you. You want to watch them closely. Also you should expect for them.to arrive much earlier than a singelton.

Make sure your taking your prenatal vitamin and eating good. You want to take it easy it will get harder as you get further a long but it will be ok! I don't have triplets but I am currently carrying twins. I know I've had things to work through and if I didn't see my doctor I wouldn't have known about things that needed to be watched. Don't let the high risk scare you its also very exciting!!

If anything ever feels not right it's best to phone and ask about it.

I hope you are able to work things out with your parents it would be a shame for them to miss out on this and there grandchildren.

Otherwise take care of yourself and there are plenty of sections here to ask questions or get advice as you move along.

 

[skyesmom]

that's a really tough situation to be in, with a singleton let alone triplets. at such young age you need extra medical assistance anyway, even with normal pregnancy, even more so with multiplets.

if i were you, i'd talk to OHs parents, your parents again, other relatives and as well to either a women shelter/help center, planned parenthood or school councilor (maybe of your boyfriend's school, if he is still studying). i am sure in your situation you'd be granted some help, especially since you're underage and disowned by your parents.

have you considered living with your boyfriend or at his family's house, considering your situation? it would not only spare you the rent money but you'd also have a more consistent support system.

 

[Jen_xx]

Natural triplets? Wow, that's rare. Congrats.

 

[garcia99]

thanks for all your advice guys, I've just spoke to the fathers parents after another visit at the docs today and after seeing our three little babies they decided to allow me to move in with them! They probably figured raising three of their grandchildren would be overly taxing on the both of us. They seem more excited than we are!

 

[skyesmom]

thanks for all your advice guys, I've just spoke to the fathers parents after another visit at the docs today and after seeing our three little babies they decided to allow me to move in with them! They probably figured raising three of their grandchildren would be overly taxing on the both of us. They seem more excited than we are!

Those are SUCH great news! you really really need their support, triplets are a rare blessing but are no joke in terms of pregnancy, so good to have them on board.

Maybe they could also help you get some other kind of help, ie. fix you a health insurance of some sorts as you are a high risk pregnancy now and you'll need to make more trips to doctors than usually.

 

[AnnieMac2]

Garcia, I am so sorry for your stressful situation. I am happy to hear the father's parents are helping you.

Are you in the US? You should look into eligibility for applying for WIC assistance. Organizations for homeless youth might provide you with some direction. While you currently have living arrangements, these organizations will know of resources that you can tap for healthcare and financial support. I also think that in many states, parents abandoning a minor/not providing basic care constitutes child abuse/neglect. I am not sure what financial obligations they have to you, but it is something you might look into. Although, consider what the repercussions could be about reporting them, as CPS might get involved and you do not want to be removed from your boyfriend's home. What your parents did was horribly wrong. But do make use of the financial resources out there.

I wish you the best!

 

[DoubleTFun]

I wish you the best of luck! I am happy that you found someplace to go and are thanking his parents every day for taking you in. I didn't realize until I re read it that you are 14. Just stay strong and lean on those that are obviously caring for you! I hope you are able to come to a solution with your parents. I can't believe they kicked you out when they should have been supporting you. You are going to be a stronger person after all of this! Don't be afraid to look into whatever assistance that you can get. It will be necessary to support you and your babies!