Please take the time to read and give me your advice....

[babypink2010]

I haven’t been on this site for a few months,

I was in love I had my man we were settled a house/jobs/engaged and i thought we were happy me and my him were ttc for 2 years and it was a hard few years, every period made me break down and cry, and every time i ovulated he new cause we had sex more, He didn’t so much as want children but wanted me to have them,,,,and i was happy with that,

I mean we had our arguments about was it the right time, did we have enough money,, i figured i was 25 and wanted them,,, so we continued,

I have been checked for Day 21 bloods, clymdia, pcos, rubella and he had 2 x sa. We had just handed in our questionnaire to get FS appointment..

A few days later i got the worst phone call off my life so far, Cut a long story short he was sending explicit messages to a lassie on FB, I got her password confronted him and asked for his password we argued and argued,,,,,,,,,,

I wanted a child so much i crave having a baby being a mum......He was cheating on me,,,,,, How could he do that,,, I said if its just the one i might forgive you show me your FB,,,, and we argued more it was clearly not the only one,,,,,,,,,,,,

Then i got suspicious about something my sister said to me, So i guessed her password and found over 300 messages between them, i went crazy i was mad i still feel so made i didnt share ttc with many people but i did mention it to her and after all this after knowing i was trying for a baby with my man she sent rude dirty flity messgaes,,,,,,,,I cried for days,,,,,,,

He blamed it on our sex life saying it was boring and how i only want loads of sex around O,,,,,

I chucked him out, Afterwards he started chatting up my best friend on FB,

I haven’t regretted it,,, its hard but i am getting through its lonely,,, and upsetting but i would rather be alone then be with someone who cheated,,,

So the reason I am on here is because i got a letter and an appointment at our FS? Our first appointment, I swear when i opened the letter it felt like a bullet....

I feel the problem with my fertility is me, I mean i really want to check to see if my tubes are open,,, I dont want to wait till i start ttc again, Its to long a process i dont want to settle with a man knowing that am barron,,,,

I have decided to go, I had clymidia when i was younger and i want my tubes checked i am just going to say my man is ill??

What do use think, I mean i think its better knowing if its you??

What tests should i ask for? It would make me feel better knowing that the tests were done, I can’t go through that again,,,, i just want the tests to rule out infertility,,, I want children


P.s i also went out on few dates, If i were to get a boyfriend and start seeing someone whom i loved would you tell them about the problems before? If so when

Am co confused its a bad day today,,,, Any advice?

 

[Armywife84]

Wow!
Yeah, his excuse for cheating is a piss poor one. You didn't drive him to cheat, he made that decision on his own!! With your sister, how dare he???!!

I would look at the results and see what they say. If the issue is with you, then I would mention it only when you start to become serious with someone. Just to be upfront, but I'm sure they'll be accepting. Avoid talking about it on the first date, because it looks pushy and like you're shopping around for a sperm donor. Unfortunately, you're going to have to put your TTC on the back burner.

I know this isn't going to make you feel any better (just trying to look for the positives in this negative situation), but at least you didn't go on to have children with a cheating fiance.

 

[babypink2010]

Thanks for your reply,,, First date lol, I was thinking i should mention it after a few months of being with someone new,,,,

I am still angry and finding it hard,,,,, it was strange knowing that my period was coming and not feeling the way i normally do like pulling my hair out/ doing tests/Looking for signs,

With my appointment i am still going,,, just because i want a few more tests just to check so when i do decide to ttc again in a few years i will know more,,,, my main worry is my tubes just one more test,,,,

Going to say my man is ill,, Why not its my nhs i pay my national insurance,,,

I think i might be crazy but when not eh?

 

[imogenwanted]

i would go to your appointment see what there say, hope time helps xx