Dear all,
I am sorry and I hope you would welcome me to here. I have been desperately needing someone to talk to yet mc is a taboo in Chinese tradition so I really can't find any help in where i live. Please forgive me if I don't express myself well enough.
I am married last Christmas eve and I thought we could have celebrated the day this year with our most precious little one. I had had a very smooth pregnancy in the 1st trimester, I felt energetic, happy and I had very good appetite, seemed that the hormones did nothing to me. I passed every test smoothly and every time (we have checkup once a month in HK) the doctor said our baby was very healthy. I did thought pregnancy was easy and I had never expected what happened..
On 16WD2 I felt abnormal contractions and I went to see my doctor, he told me I was having an infection and gave me antibiotics. I started to bleed that night, and then it was the start of the nightmare. At week 20 we had to make the most difficult decision to give up our baby as the water had been leaking, I had been infected and it had no hope for her to survive. If we waited, it would only put me into risk. And so, we made that most cruel decision.
The delivery was painful but I couldn't feel anything besides my heartache. I feel like I killed my baby, she had very normal heartbeat until the last moment I took the medication. I know she has been trying her very best but it is me, her mummy who failed her.
It has been a month and I can finally tell my story. I thought I was over it until last night, I had a dream that I am sth like 6 mth pregnant, I felt the baby kicking and I woke up immediately. I had been always waiting to feel the kicks before but I never had the chance, now I finally feel them in my dream...what an irony..
Sorry for the long story, but I feel so empty and lonely. Thanks for reading, at least I know I have someone in the world whom I can share with.
I am sorry and I hope you would welcome me to here. I have been desperately needing someone to talk to yet mc is a taboo in Chinese tradition so I really can't find any help in where i live. Please forgive me if I don't express myself well enough.
I am married last Christmas eve and I thought we could have celebrated the day this year with our most precious little one. I had had a very smooth pregnancy in the 1st trimester, I felt energetic, happy and I had very good appetite, seemed that the hormones did nothing to me. I passed every test smoothly and every time (we have checkup once a month in HK) the doctor said our baby was very healthy. I did thought pregnancy was easy and I had never expected what happened..
On 16WD2 I felt abnormal contractions and I went to see my doctor, he told me I was having an infection and gave me antibiotics. I started to bleed that night, and then it was the start of the nightmare. At week 20 we had to make the most difficult decision to give up our baby as the water had been leaking, I had been infected and it had no hope for her to survive. If we waited, it would only put me into risk. And so, we made that most cruel decision.
The delivery was painful but I couldn't feel anything besides my heartache. I feel like I killed my baby, she had very normal heartbeat until the last moment I took the medication. I know she has been trying her very best but it is me, her mummy who failed her.
It has been a month and I can finally tell my story. I thought I was over it until last night, I had a dream that I am sth like 6 mth pregnant, I felt the baby kicking and I woke up immediately. I had been always waiting to feel the kicks before but I never had the chance, now I finally feel them in my dream...what an irony..
Sorry for the long story, but I feel so empty and lonely. Thanks for reading, at least I know I have someone in the world whom I can share with.