Please tell me you all do this!

[jw1555]

I am driving myself crazy! I cannot stop googling miscarriege symptons and convincing myself that maybe I have had a missed miscarriege. I have no reason for doing it, I'm 15+3 and everything has been fine so far, no cramping or anything of concern. I am just so paranoid that something could go wrong. I know most of the symptons like MS disappear in the second tri yet I still panic when I have days feeling good and not so pregnant. I'm terrified of going to the midwives for my 16 wk appointment incase they tell me something is wrong. I don't think I will ever relax!

 

[cupcaker]

First pregnancy I was similar I guess, I did a lot of looking up "the chances" of MC week on week. So I knew at most stages what my risks were etc, but I have not done this type of thing with my second.

During my first pregnancy I had no morning sickness in the first trimester (it appeared a bit in the second) so again, I was worrying something was not right. Plus lots of people going on about how bad you feel in first tri and I wasn't actually feeling THAT bad...everything sets you off. I'm so much better this time.

 

[Mushymilkfor2]

The most worried I've every felt this entire pregnancy was right before I stated to feel him move regularly. Which wasn't until recently. They say it's so much more relaxing in second trimester, but in the beginning it wasn't for me. Everything is just so irregular, it's hard to know what's alright and what isn't.

I do know that from now on there will always be some worry or fear for your baby. If it's not one thing is another. Best you can do is enjoy that at least he/she is in the safest spot from this point on.

 

[lilmonkey86]

If you look at my history on my computer I googled MMC at least daily until my 20 week ultrasound and I had ultrasounds at 8.5, 12 and 16.5 weeks, even that didn't put my mind at ease, i would see my bean wriggling around like crazy on the screen and 20 minutes after my ultrasound i would be googling miscarriage and convincing myself it was happening, it's very normal to be concerned, just try to keep telling yourself that your chance of a miscarriage after 12 weeks is so low. I am alot less concerned now due to the fact that my little guy is the karate kid so he makes me well aware of his presence constantly lol. if your MW or OB have given you no reason to be concerned I would try to stay calm!

 

[Nikko88]

I've moved beyond looking up miscarriages to still births. Yes, kind of morbid but also reassuring in a weird way.

I'm also a fiction author and have been writing quite a few zombie maternity stories.

Go figure. Guess my brain just needs to imagine the worst.

 

[RileysMummy]

Step away from Google!! X

 

[MummyToAmberx]

^ Agree. No i dont do this.

 

[calm]

I don't do this myself, but using a doppler also reassures me that my babies are okay X

 

[tickledpinkkk]

I've been doing the exact same thing basically this entire pregnancy. When the baby starts moving regularly, it's a huge relief. However, like another lady mentioned... I too then start worrying about things like stillbirth and SIDS. I've always been a worrier, but I try to keep faith that everything will be alright

 

[jw1555]

Ah thanks ladies, it's so reassuring to know I'm not the only one!! I will try and step away from google from now on!

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

I think from the moment we get our bfp we're just destined to worry over LO forever

Up until my 12 week scan I was chronically googling and looking up charts and percentages, it was shameful. I have a doppler now so I take a listen when I start to fret really bad. Although every ache and pain I get nervous, but that's what bnb is for

 

[Pussy Galore]

Pregnancy can be a very worrying and stressful time...

Invest in a doppler... it has made things much less stressful for me!

 

[Selaphyna]

I was never like that when pregnant with my son, but this pregnancy I have been so paranoid something is wrong. I have no clue why either. Maybe because I really want this child since I always wanted at least two kids, and I know after this I'm done. It's also been 12 years since I was pregnant last. So I stress inbetween appointments that something is wrong. Though when Pickle moves or I can feel Pickle right up against my belly button, it helps alot.

 

[Mild Mango]

I was constantly worried about mmc up until my 12 week scan. At that scan, my midwife told me that my chance of mc at that point was less than 1%. Seems a little low to be believable, but it still makes me feel better. Plus if you consider most miscarriages involve cramps and bleeding, mmc at this point seems highly unlikely.

Now I've moved on to worrying about rare genetic abnormalities (I don't get the panorama test results back for another week or so). After that, I'm sure I'll find something else to worry about.

Every once in a while I start to freak out (especially when I hear about someone having a 2nd tri mc), but then I just use my Doppler and instantly feel better once I hear that little heartbeat!

Just try to remind yourself that most pregnancies end up just fine. You're only pregnant for 9 months, try your best to enjoy it! Don't let worry ruin it for you!

 

[TracyMol]

never googled it but I often wonder if im really pregnant. And this is my 3rd pregnancy!

 

[GillandJamie]

Google is the devil lol, what did we ever do without it?? As if pregnant woman are not crazy enough without being able to google every possible symptom that we get...I am just as bad but this is my 5th baby I think that I have definately learnt to relax a lot xx

 

[jw1555]

And I'm sure even after the baby has arrived we will spend the rest of our lives worrying about our children lol! Glad to know I'm not alone! Where is the best place to get a Doppler from?

 

[RcdM]

I think from the moment we get our bfp we're just destined to worry over LO forever

This! As soon as you don't have to worry about one thing anymore, there's something else to worry about!

And yeah once you're into the second tri, you start to feel better but the baby is still too small to feel anything, so you start to forget you're even pregnant! But it won't last long! Soon you'll be having kicks and karate punches in your vag or in your ribs. However I am thankful for every kick and punch because it reassures me he's fine.

 

[nikkie122]

I have done this and find it harder for me not to worry as I had my son at 31 weeks last year and he was stillborn. I'm so scared it will happen again. But like others said you just have to enjoy the time and think positive.