PND Support Thread

[rubyrose]

Thanks really helps just talking about it. Will mention all the hiccups and stuff to the doc he will get them guaranteed after every feed and he really winds himself up. Thanks for your advice will be back on this thread and catch up maybe help other people a bit to x

 

[Abblebubba]

Feeling so low today, couldnt be more on my own.
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[Jkelmum]

Feeling so low today, couldnt be more on my own.
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xxxx

Ive had bad day today ive not eaten not got dressed shouted at oh been acomplete evil cow i just seem to put my happy face on until i blow then i am so angry with life i dont understand

 

[elm]

everyone xxx

I've not been here for ages, not because the depression went away but when I read what other people are going through it makes me notice it more when I feel the same way... hope that makes sense?! Just popped in to see how you're doing and to recommend cbt, I'm finding it really helpful - very hard work but I'm slowly chipping away at things. Got over my driving phobia by slowly exposing myself to it and drove on the motorway last week - then got all depressed because I wasn't happy about it....!!!

to you all xxx

 

[JayleighAnn]

Hi...I know I posted a while back saying I thought I just had the baby blues and felt a lot better but can I come back please? I think I was just lying to myself as I felt a bit better and then crashed a few weeks later but was scared to admit what I know it true

I feel so low I can't cope. I see my HV on Thurs and I'm going to finally admit to her that I think I have PND

 

[bumpsmum]

its natural to feel things are ok only to feel worse I was the same I stopped BF'd as was stressed out big time and felt ok and over the worse then it came back ten-fold. Speaking to your HV will def help, even if its just to help you air your thoughts. I tend to ramble, get my thoughts all jumbled and go off on tangents, I kept apologising but HV just let me take the conversation wherever it went which really helped.

I explained about my anxiety about going to baby clinic and crowded places in general and for the next few weeks she's going to weigh Matthew at home (he's prem so still weighed weekly ) and do some baby massage with us.

You know there is generally always someone around here to chat to if you feel you need it, feel free to PM me anytime x

 

[jenny_wren]

aw jayleigh i felt the same way i lied to
everyone for months until one day i cried
so hard i picked up the courage to ring the hv
and it was the best thing i did now im getting
the help i need you'll feel much better just talking
to someone about it and getting it all out of your
system and if you do have pnd then you get the
help you need too

good luck
you know where i am if you wanna chat hun

xx​

 

[JayleighAnn]

Thanks girl. I just feel so low all the time. Getting out of bed, cleaning tidying and making myself look human are just such chores, I do it so people don't see that really I don't wanna get out of bed in the morning.

I feel awful but I can't cope. I'm home alone all day with Halen and then sometimes at weekends if OH has a gig with his band and I just can't do it. He cries 24/7 the only time he doesn't cry is if he is feeding every 1-2 hours or sleeping (which is getting rarer by the day) I feel myself loosing my rag with him so easily and I have to walk out the room and cool down. I just dunno what to do

 

[Abblebubba]

Aws JayleighAnn i really feel for you, bottling things up is what i did you know i thought i was ok, i thought i was getting better but it comes back with a vengence.
Yesterday i finally ralised that im useless.
Ok so i woke up, and i fely horrible i hadnt dressed my son in couple of days my mum had done it for me before i woke up.
So i said to my mum 'im going to dress tyler this morning' so she sais 'Fine do what you like you want to do it all yourself do it' see im in a wheelchair so she helps with tyler a lot.
she put him down and went down stairs, i got all tylers clothes together and then realized the nappies were down stairs so i put tyler in his cot where he couldnt fall out ect. and went downstairs i then asked my mum to go get tyler and bring him down as i cant carry him safely down the stairs.
she says no you wanted to do it all yourself you do it.
tyler was then crying upstairs for 5 mins when she finally decided to go get him.
She put him down for me to dress inbetween calling me a stupid cow, usless ect
Then when i was dressing him he was just screaming he hated me. i know he did

i was crying my eyes out trying to dress him and i was heartbroken that he was just crying, he was hungry and i just felt usless.
My mum came in and picked him up and told me i cant look after him properly all by myself so i shouldnt try, said hes beter off without me.
I was silenced and fell apart inside i love my son to bits and i try sooo hard for him, i cant do everything on my own no, but i do try with all my life.
I dont want him to hate me.
This probably sounds so muddled up but im just soo upset.
I feel inadequate and usless after all i went through to bring him in this world and im hardly any use to him.

Sorry to moan at you all i just feel awful.​

 

[JayleighAnn]

Aww hunny no your not useless! That's really uncaring and nasty of your mum. He was probably crying because he knows your stressd out and picks up on it

 

[Abblebubba]

I know and im sure she didnt mean it but it hurt alot.
and because i am so upset these days i just dont know what to do. ​

 

[JayleighAnn]

I know and im sure she didnt mean it but it hurt alot.
and because i am so upset these days i just dont know what to do. ​

I don't know either hunny. Maybe speak with your mum and say that you are his mother and yes you need help with him, not being belittled or hateful comments directed at you xxx

 

[JayleighAnn]

I did it. I spoke to my HV who agreed it sounds like PND. She suggested I go speak to my doctor but also that she will come to my house weekly for me to talk to her n let my feelings out, she's passed my number onto a lady who coordinates a PND support group called Mums in Mind and the nursery nurse at my sure start centre who works with my HV is going to come to my house once a week for a few weeks and do baby massage and bonding stuff with me so I can bond more with Halen.

I feel a bit better for telling her and will go to the doctors tomorrow morning

 

[Abblebubba]

Well done for telling someone hun
Thats a really hard thing to do and admit i know
but you did and we are all proud of youuuu
Take care x​

 

[bumpsmum]

really pleased they are being so supportive, my HV was out today to weigh Matthew as baby clinic makes me so anxious and ill, she also started baby massage which was FAB, you will find it very relaxing and help you bond with Halen x

 

[jenny_wren]

aw hunny you're not useless honest
my daddy's disabled and he struggled bringing
us up and i felt so sorry watching him try and
be a daddy and getting annoyed that he couldn't
do everything a daddy should especially with my
little sister by then the illness had gotten to him
but i dont begrudge him for that i admire the
fact he tried so hard and so will your son one day ...

it was horrible of your mum to do that to you though
she should understand most of all

and jayleigh well done for telling someone
it's hard i know but you're through the worse of
it now good on you hun xx​

 

[kmh2009]

ive been in a psychiatric ward for the last 8 days....im out now but going to spend 3 weeks with my parents xxx

anyone who knows me on facebook ,please dont mention this on there

 

[asacia]

Welcomeback KMH. Did you find it helped? Have you got a Care Plan sorted now you are out?

 

[asacia]

How is everyone today?

I wondered if anyone has any experience of taking antipsychotics?

 

[Abblebubba]

Thankyouuu for all your kind word everyone, its nice to know im not alone in how im feeling. I know being a mummy can be a struggle at the best of times + i have never been one to wollow on about my disability.
I like to be seen as a equal therefore i try not to let my disability effect me.
But just lately i cant help it, i see other mummys carrying there babies around the lakes and the park, and i cant even push my bubbas pram .
I just want this feeling of pure lonliness to go away. I feel anger, i feel emptiness + i cry at the drop of a hat, and i cant stand it because i keep saying to everyone im ok.. when i know im not.
But i will be sitting there and OH will say 'whats wrong with you? why do you sound so moody/depressed' and when i say im ok he says ' you dont look it' and then it makes me think am i ok?....
Hmm right well i confused myself writing that, so god knows how you guys reading it are getting on... LOOL
KMH, Welcome back, i hope you are feeling a bit better hun, did it help?
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