Positive Thinking

[LouOscar01]

So after yet another loss (chemical this time) I am trying my best to think positively...

From this chemical I have learnt that
1. My right tube is not blocked.
2. My cervix isn't blocked with scarring.

Looking at my cycle on Fertility friend this cycle matches very closely a cycle that I had in June that I thought may have been a chemical.

So that means that with 6 ovulations I have fallen pregnant 3 times. So I don't have a problem GETTING pregnant. Just staying pregnant!!

Anyone else in this position? Anyone got any positive stories?!

2 chemicals at 4 weeks and a missed miscarriage at 10weeks.

 

[Amygdala]

I've not been in your situation exactly but I think the fact that one of your losses was quite late is reassuring for the future (although very painful of course). Because they're so different, I'd think that they are just random bad luck and that when you get pregnant again, you have a good chance of catching a healthy egg and sperm this time.

Btw, I don't know if this helps you but it did me. I read that a lot of miscarriages start with a healthy egg and a healthy sperm but the cells divide "wrongly" so the embryo isn't healthy. Somehow I find that reassuring because it means that it's just random bad luck in the process and not based on either of you having "bad" eggs/sperm.

Best of luck for a healthy pregnancy really soon!

 

[lilesMom]

I've had 3 mc and
One poss chemical last cycle
But hve one son.
I've had some testing
Docs reckon its bad luck
Due to chromosome mismatch like amygdala said
So I just keep my fingers crossed for good luck this time.
Hopefully u get a keeper next cycle.
Hugs x

 

[lilesMom]

I'm also taking 5 mg folic acid all the time
Going to take baby aspirin this time too.
As advised by docs
Best of luck xxx

 

[LouOscar01]

My GP just mentioned taking the low dose aspirin. I've just been for a load of blood tests (11 vials!!) including tests for antiphospholipids so we'll see what results I get. Going to pay for private Natural Killer Cells test next week.

 

[lilesMom]

Id say they r prob the blood tests I had done too.
3 came back borderline , to be repeated
But most likely fine.
Wasn't long after my mc so prob off from being preg
The biggies all came back fine.
I didn't know u could test for the natural killer cells.
I wonder why they don't include that in the tests.
Hope urs come back fine too x

I half wanted them to find something small
That could be fixed.
But Dr in hosp said of tests come back ok
Its much better.
Cos then its bad luck
And odds r very much in ur favour for better luck next time
Xxx

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi Lou

I have also had three losses but not so close together. They all happened over 19 months. But like you I can fall pregnant but can't stay pregnant.

I have just started the testing process so no positive story to share I'm afraid.

Love the thread name. I named a thread this too back in the summer as I find that positive thinking really helps 😊

Hopefully we both get out rainbows and we have just been super unlucky.

 

[hmmohrma]

Hey! I needed to find this today. DH and I have had 3 MC in a little over a year. The first was very sad, but I knew it was common and was not overly worried. The second we thought was great until we went to the 9 wk scan and found no heartbeat. I struggled for months before being ready to try again. The third MC happen during the school day (I teach second grade.) Our OB referred us to an RE, and we LOVE him! We also love our OB, but he was honest enough to say we had passed his level knowledge. After one more blood test, we learned my thyroid antibody (not the one that causes Hasimoto's Disease) is raised and causing my immune system to attack my thyroid. The thyroid is still normal, but RE thinks it is our problem. I also had tissue left in my uterus that was surgically removed in December. This was the second month of TTC again with the addition of daily thyroid meds and baby aspirin. We've been pretty positive, and we are happy to have learned my egg supply is huge and we both had normal results on chromosomal karotyping. My foster sister had a baby (unplanned, of course) last week, my students were a little off today, and then I saw a pregnant girl at the end of the day. It was rough and the first time I've been emotionally unstable about this in a couple months. I guess being back to TTC brings it all back up. We are sooo ready, and I need to be a part of a group that understand what I've been through and will keep me positive! Our lovely RE ASSURES us we WILL have our own child.

 

[lilesMom]

I've been a bit teary last two morns.
I thought I was totally over my mcs
But your right, ttc again brings it back up
But its not a bad thing as such.
There was obvs some bit unresolved in me
So its good to deal with it
Best of luck in ttc xxx

 

[LouOscar01]

hmmohrma I am a teacher as well. I think this makes it harder because you see mothers and babies and pregnant mothers every day!!

All my tests have come back fine so far. I have PCOS and have read conflicting reports about the link to recurrent miscarriage. For me I think it is probably just PCOS causing it all...and I don't know how to fix that!

 

[loeylo]

LouOscar - I remember you from WTT. I have had three losses, all different (mmc @6.5w, mmc @8.5w, and an ectopic at 5w)I had testing at the end of 2014 which came back normal. They assured me that it was just bad luck and that I have a good chance of taking my baby home next time. She is now lying on me trying to fall asleep. My losses all seem to be bad luck!

 

[Trying4first1]

Wow quite a few teachers on here. I also teach and I must admit that it can be hard some days to see all of the happy families and you wonder when you will be a mummy and if you ever will be.
Recurrent MC leaves us in such an awful place as half the time they can't find anything wrong.
I guess we whist need to pray that it was all bad luck

 

[loeylo]

Ps I am also a teacher, lol

 

[Trying4first1]

Lots of us about!

 

[LouOscar01]

I'm thinking of quitting because my heart isn't in it. I'm depressed and keep having to take time out after the miscarriages. I'm thinking of doing supply instead.

How do/did you cope with work after miscarriages? Did you have time out? Did management understand?

 

[LouOscar01]

LouOscar - I remember you from WTT. I have had three losses, all different (mmc @6.5w, mmc @8.5w, and an ectopic at 5w)I had testing at the end of 2014 which came back normal. They assured me that it was just bad luck and that I have a good chance of taking my baby home next time. She is now lying on me trying to fall asleep. My losses all seem to be bad luck!

Aww congratulations!!! I'm so happy you got there in the end!! Hope I can too!

 

[Trying4first1]

My work have been fab through my losses.
I would say this time though I have been left to get on with it more and people dont really know what to say. But overall has been ok.
I do find I don't perform as well at times as I feel That I have too much on my plate. I have so much to do but don't have the motivation to do it all. I also find I get tired quickly and I just want to relax.
Not the easiest of jobs to be in when you suffer with RPL but I guess it keeps us busy at least

 

[hmmohrma]

My principal and colleagues (that know) have been great. I have been lucky enough to have a principal that has let me go to my RE appointments and leave school early without being docked several days this school year. The kids actually keep my ind off of the sadness, but it often hits on my long commute to and from school.