Babydaydreams
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Hi
I lost my baby son at 21 weeks unexpectedly after my cervix shortened. My waters popped and he came minutes later. I didn't experience any kind of labour and only had pressure and general achey feeling before hand.
Well that was 9 weeks ago and we are due to see the head consultant next week for the postmortem results and hopefully some clue of why this happened and how to prevent it next time. I am literally dreading the appointment. The worse possible thing will be to hear that there was nothing wrong with my baby and that my body just ejected him for no reason. I feel so much guilt and so much anger too. I was at the hospital 24 hours before (being seen by same consultant) and no warning that anything was imminent but equally no offer of an emergency stitch or anything.
I have 1 or 2 questions to put it mildly!!
Please can someone tell me what there experiences were of this type of appointment. I am worried we will be rushed in and out and my concerns will be brushed under the carpet.
I am so heartbroken and fed up of everyone. I went back to work this week and just can't concentrate. I just want to speak to someone and find out some answers. No-one said anything to me the whole time I was in hospital (3 days) and I have had zero follow-up once I came home. I just feel abandoned and empty.
I lost my baby son at 21 weeks unexpectedly after my cervix shortened. My waters popped and he came minutes later. I didn't experience any kind of labour and only had pressure and general achey feeling before hand.
Well that was 9 weeks ago and we are due to see the head consultant next week for the postmortem results and hopefully some clue of why this happened and how to prevent it next time. I am literally dreading the appointment. The worse possible thing will be to hear that there was nothing wrong with my baby and that my body just ejected him for no reason. I feel so much guilt and so much anger too. I was at the hospital 24 hours before (being seen by same consultant) and no warning that anything was imminent but equally no offer of an emergency stitch or anything.
I have 1 or 2 questions to put it mildly!!
Please can someone tell me what there experiences were of this type of appointment. I am worried we will be rushed in and out and my concerns will be brushed under the carpet.
I am so heartbroken and fed up of everyone. I went back to work this week and just can't concentrate. I just want to speak to someone and find out some answers. No-one said anything to me the whole time I was in hospital (3 days) and I have had zero follow-up once I came home. I just feel abandoned and empty.