jade1991
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Hi everyone, this is a bit of a sensitive post and well I'm not really sure who to speak to so I thought here would maybe be the best first step.
I had postnatal depression with my first, it never really left for about 2 years, but I've always suffered with anxiety and low self esteem. When I was pregnant with my daughter I was absolutely fine, happy, I don't remember feeling down or sad really. My midwife this time has said that around 35 weeks I'll speak with a specialist in PND as to try and avoid it this time.
However, I'm experiencing the signs of it now. I think this is classed as prenatal depression? I mean I've never found it easy admitting I'm feeling low. So it's not really something I'm confident in really telling people even the closest to me.
I want to firstly say that this baby is more than wanted. I'm happy, I'm excited, I'm thrilled for my daughter to have a sibling, thrilled for my OH as it's his first baby and he thought he couldn't have children. So it's a blessing. I don't for one minute feel that I don't want this baby so I don't want people to think that. I just feel, exhausted, drained, I'm having problems switching off at night and staying asleep. I feel sad all the time and I literally could not pin point why. I have absolutely no energy for anything and everything just feels like an effort. I cried for hours last night because OH said that he feels like I'm down and he doesn't like seeing me like this. But I just can't explain it. A lot of it is my own insecurity. When I was pregnant with my daughter my ex was horrible, not interest, told me I looked disgusting and he didn't find me sexy anymore. So I have major issues with the way my bodies changing but I don't know if that stems from him or if that's just because I'm an insecure person.
My OH is fantastic. Literally amazing. He loves me, he does everything for me and he constantly tells me how hot I am. But I just think nothing he can say will ever make me feel secure about my pregnant body.
I'm not sure whether I need to maybe admit this to maybe a doctor or midwife. But I'm scared of being told im depressed and feeling like a failure, again.
Sorry girls I know it's a long post but if you got to the end. Thank you for reading x
I had postnatal depression with my first, it never really left for about 2 years, but I've always suffered with anxiety and low self esteem. When I was pregnant with my daughter I was absolutely fine, happy, I don't remember feeling down or sad really. My midwife this time has said that around 35 weeks I'll speak with a specialist in PND as to try and avoid it this time.
However, I'm experiencing the signs of it now. I think this is classed as prenatal depression? I mean I've never found it easy admitting I'm feeling low. So it's not really something I'm confident in really telling people even the closest to me.
I want to firstly say that this baby is more than wanted. I'm happy, I'm excited, I'm thrilled for my daughter to have a sibling, thrilled for my OH as it's his first baby and he thought he couldn't have children. So it's a blessing. I don't for one minute feel that I don't want this baby so I don't want people to think that. I just feel, exhausted, drained, I'm having problems switching off at night and staying asleep. I feel sad all the time and I literally could not pin point why. I have absolutely no energy for anything and everything just feels like an effort. I cried for hours last night because OH said that he feels like I'm down and he doesn't like seeing me like this. But I just can't explain it. A lot of it is my own insecurity. When I was pregnant with my daughter my ex was horrible, not interest, told me I looked disgusting and he didn't find me sexy anymore. So I have major issues with the way my bodies changing but I don't know if that stems from him or if that's just because I'm an insecure person.
My OH is fantastic. Literally amazing. He loves me, he does everything for me and he constantly tells me how hot I am. But I just think nothing he can say will ever make me feel secure about my pregnant body.
I'm not sure whether I need to maybe admit this to maybe a doctor or midwife. But I'm scared of being told im depressed and feeling like a failure, again.
Sorry girls I know it's a long post but if you got to the end. Thank you for reading x