Potential marriage problems after baby???

[Laylagirl]

Take what I am going to say with a grain of salt because I do not know you and I do not know him.

From what you say he could either just be joking or it could be a sign that he is going to be a cruel manipulative person.
Him saying those things are big flashing lights to me because most (not all) people who say things like them are being manipulative and trying to get you to feel guilty when you take care of LO or feeling guilty when you dont have sex. This is a danger zone because you are a SAHM and I assume you are finacially dependent on him which mean if he does become emotionaly abusive(more then he already is) you will be stuck with no place to go and stuck with a child to think of.

Thats just my opinion and take it with a grain of salt.
Sorry about typos

I actually do agree with you! I feel that he feels he has control of
Me right now bc I'm a SAHM and need him
Until I have baby. He also says things like "don't change once you get liberty and go back to school" I know he has big issue problems bc of his ex but I feel like I've proved to him I'm NOTHING like her! I can't help but think sometimes to get out now before it gets worse or to that possessive stage

I have an EX HUSBAND who used to say the same things...he did not want me going to school...he wanted me to be dependent on him completely...he used to tell me if I wouldn't dtd he would get it elsewhere and if I wanted to go somewhere with MY FAMILY members, I had to do sexual favors....it was terrible... I never once regretted leaving that *******..

I can't tell if your hubby is serious with his words or not...so I can't say for sure if he sounds manipulative...but sometimes when people say things as a joke, it's something they have thought of...but if he is seriously putting expectations on you for how things need to be after baby comes, I'd have a sit down talk with him. About your feelings and concerns....he shouldn't be putting pressure on you right now as you're pregnant...no one knows for sure exactly how things will be after baby comes...we can make plans, but there are no guarantees they will go through...so many things can change...you just have to do what you can... Try not to stress about it...I hope he is kidding...