Potty training help please!

[pb921124]

My DD will be 19 months next week and has been growing interested in the potty. My DH and I decided to give potty training a try and it was off to a great start. Within the hours on the first day she was peeing in her potty with prompting and by the day two we were able to go for quick outings with no accidents. During this time we would have her in pull ups while potty training.

At the end of day 2 we switched to completely bottomless to encourage her to initiate potting without prompting. She still was doing a good job of peeing in the potty with prompting and only had two accidents all day. When she would have an accident I would tell her pee pee goes in the potty no pee pee on the floor and have her help me clean the mess. Then we would continue to play.

During the end of the 3rd day my DH came home early and was watching her while I was in the kitchen he was putting batteries in one of her toys and failed to react to her try to tell him she had to potty by doing her pee pee dance. She peed on the floor by him and that's when he noticed. At first he started telling her good job but I told him that he should say pee pee goes in the toilet so then he repeated that to her. Now she refuses to pee on the potty. She holds her pee and will run into another room really fast to pee. If I'm not quick enough she'll pee on the floor but if I'm right behind her she'll hold it until she gets another opportunity to ditch me.

She says uh oh if she pees on the floor so she understands that that's not where it goes but she won't go on the potty anymore. After the incident with my DH she would freak out and cry if we put her potty. Now after spending time reassuring her and reading and playing with her on the potty she will sit on it but she wowon'tn't pee.

Also I should note that when she first started potty training she would only pee in the potty if we left the bathroom. We'd crack the door and wait to here the potty sing and almost as soon as we leave she would pee. Now she won't stay on the potty long enough for us to leave as soon as we leave she gets up and says done.

I'm not sure what happened or how to fix it.

 

[Zephram]

Honestly, she's very young, I would simply wait until she's older. Give it a rest completely for a few months until she's older. Keep the potty as a fun thing in the meantime but it doesn't sound like she's ready at the moment.

 

[staralfur]

It sounds like peeing on the floor in front of you guys has become stressful for her. I would take a step back, I think the last you want is a negative association with potty training, especially at such a young age.

I'd maybe keep the pull-ups on her when she's at home and explain that if she needs to go pee she can ask to go to the potty instead of peeing in the pull-up but don't push it. If she pees in the pull-up just let it be. If she shows interest in using the potty again then pick up where you left off.

 

[SarahBear]

At any age you can expect regressions. This is especially true at this age. I'd suggest putting her back in diapers and ignoring accidents (except to change the diaper as soon as you're aware of the need) and praise potty use and continue trying your best to respond to her potty signals. I'd also put her on the potty during diaper changes. When you feel she's more reliable again, remove the diapers. My son is 21 months and used to use the potty more. He's coming back around to it, but we're not going to ditch the diapers at this stage of the game. He doesn't use the potty than many times during the day.

 

[pb921124]

So I wanted to come back and give an update because I'm always curious as to how things work out with other posters...and maybe this will be helpful to someone else out there. After being totally discouraged at my DD fear of peeing after having such success the first couple of days of potty training, I decided to give it a break and pick up after the holidays. About a week ago we decided to start back up with potty training from the beginning and hoped she had forgotten about whatever caused her to freak out at the potty. Unfortunately her fear was still there. I knew she wasnt afraid of the potty, using peeing in the potty. After scouring the Internet for help again, but this time I came across a post on another board where ano there mom was having the same problem and responder suggested the bathtub method. For this you put the potty in the tub and fill it with warm water to cover the child's feet and this is supposed to help release the pee. On try number one my DD started to pee in the potty but got up half way through. I was so encouraged because this was the farthest we had gotten since the first days of potty training in the beginning. The second time she jump up as she felt herself peeing but I was able to get her to sit down and finish.

By the second day we had no problems with her using the potty and she would actually pee in the potty before the water even started. We're currently on day six and we only use pull ups for naps and night sleeping. I was afraid that she would have difficulty pooping in the potty because I didn't want to put the potty in the bathtub for poops as not to encourage pooping in the tub. After a couple of accidents on the floor, which I would tell her gently that poop goes in the potty, the next time she jumped up and ran to me and I was able to place her on the potty where she went poop with no problem. Since then we haven't had any accidents and she holds her pee until being placed on the potty goes with no problem. She also has graduated to being able to hold her pee and poop with pants on and going out for short outing with no incidents so far...Although I do expect they will happen as part of her learning. She is still peeing with the potty in the tub but we plan on transitioning the potty out the tub this week. I'm so elated because I knew she was ready and capable of being potty trained but honestly had no clue how we were going to get her passed this hurdle. Now we're definitely on our way to having a potty trained kid.

Thank you to all the posters who responded with advice. I appreciate you taking the time to help with my situation. Again I hope this can be helpful to anyone out there who runs into the same situation I did.

 

[SarahBear]

Congratulations and good luck with your future progress