ppl keep telling me how big my tummy is?!!!

[Teec4]

Im 24 weeks in 2 days and am starting to feel anxious and insecure about everything! I promised myself I would just enjoy every part of the pregnancy but lately its all I seem to think about and its driving me nutty!! People keep saying wow u sure ur not having twins?! And ur huge u will be so uncomfortable when u have a few weeks to go!! I laugh it off but after a while everyone commenting on it all the time gets quite upsetting!!! And I start thinking maybe my baby and tummy isnt normal!? Ive always been short and always have been healthy conscious of my weight prior to pregnancy and I weighed around 55 kgs ive put on 5-6 kgs to date and at my last ob appt she asked if I was eating enough because between visits I only gained 1kg! I eat and snack a lot I have to because even the slighest bit of hunger makes me nauseous! So my ob said the baby is taking it all?! Does this mean im having a huge bubba??? Its my first pregnancy so i dont know what to expect and im so over family and friends comments saying how big my tummy is or maybe im just over sensitive!! My mother in law asked my husband if ive had another scan yet to check how big the baby is.. her daughter has kids and had little bumps so shes comparing!not enjoying it at the moment but i am super excited to meet our little bubba!! Anyone else had this? Any advice would be great xxx

 

[JadeEmChar]

Ignore stupid people and their stupid comments, you are how your supposed to be and you are beautiful! Don't let the things people say get you down because some people just don't know when to keep their comments to themselves. Be happy in yourself and be happy that your body is doing an amazing job at growing a baby.

 

[Lilbean2]

people just dont know when to censor certain rubbush out, i was at 12weeks very bloated and i looked big, i was told oh you look like your going any day..or one guy said 'Gordon bennett you sure you arent having twins' arghhh now im 20 weeks the bloats gone ...just a small bump and now i get told oh you dont look that big! argghhhhhhhh

 

[KrissyKris22]

I've been going thru this also. Everyday ppl say omg ure stomach is huge, how far along are u, could u be having twins?? It can become annoying lol. I answer them but in my head I be talking alot of shit lol

 

[odouglass]

I've heard the same... I am 29 weeks (crazy) and some say I am big for 29 weeks and others say that I am small for 29 weeks. I say.... "if my doctor isnt worried about anything, I must be doing alright." It is tough to hear for sure!

 

[Kantny09]

I am getting the same thing! I am 5'1 and weighed about 130 before pregnancy. I started to show at about 11 weeks and now I am 16 and everyone keeps commenting about how big my belly is. I get a lot of...are you sure there isn't another one hiding in the back?! I only gained about 4.5 pounds in the first 14 weeks and don't really eat much more than normal. It gets really annoying after a while. Especially when DH makes comments about it. But at least I can snap at him and he doesn't take offense lol. Everyone else I just try to be polite and laugh it off or something. I don't think you are being too sensitive. I hate it too.

 

[Pix]

Same here. Weight gain total 4 pounds and I got asked yesterday "oh is it twins?"

No. Just one baby. Makes me self conscious. But. Hey. Baby and I are healthy so I'm ok with my bump!

 

[emeeorevan]

Don't worry about what people say. Too many people are comparing to someone they know. I'm only 15 weeks and I feel huge because I have had a notable belly since 6weeks due to bloating! Its so crazy, I can actually feel and see my bloating lessening but my actual bump growing! I was told three times today that they "can't believe what a belly" I have or that they are "surprised" that I'm showing so soon. Argh!! I'm on baby #3 and yes I had a little in the middle before but I've never been "big." I am just waiting it out till my baby grows enough to be all baby belly. I never know what to say to people so I usually just ignore them. However I have a history of having big babies. I am normally 135lbs (pre baby averge) and I have had an 8lb and a 9lb baby, I hope this one stays below 9lbs but big so I can always say "yes, I have big healthy babies!"

 

[MollyPerry]

Ignore, people used to say that to my sister. Some also used to say that she was going to have a boy as her belly was really big. But neither happened, she had a tiny little girl...

 

[Mrs Eleflump]

I get this rubbish all the time, some people think they're such experts about pregnancy, even if they've no experience of it themselves (sometimes especially if they've no experience of it themselves!). I don't know why people can't just say 'congratulations, you look lovely' and leave it at that!

I have had 'are you sure it's not twins?' 'they must have got your dates wrong', 'you're never going to make it to your due date', 'I wasn't as big as you are until I was full-term' and similar drivel. I started to really worry that I was going to give birth to a 6-month-old, so I know how it can get to you.

I'm 29+1 now (ticker is out slightly) and had a growth scan on Thursday and measured by the midwife yesterday, and baby is measuring spot on, and my bump is measuring exactly 29 weeks. I've been exactly the right size all along, and am following the 50% curve in my chart exactly. So I just tell people that my midwife and obstetrician think I'm the perfect size for how far along I am, and that generally shuts them up. Luckily baby is growing well - I am high risk and am having regular growth scans to make sure all is ok, so if there was a problem, people would be getting a real piece of my mind when they come out with this nonsense!

I think with me the thing is that I'm quite short, and my bump grew really quickly between 22-25 weeks, so it probably did look massive to some people, but I just remind them when they comment that pregnant women do get bigger and it's supposed to happen, and yes, I will be huge by my due date, but I am supposed to be, and their comments aren't helpful (this last depending on how well I know them).

 

[emeeorevan]

Ahhh..... My own GRANDMOTHER made a comment today. Keep in mind she is not senile, and my doc just mentioned that if I don't start gaining weight soon he might get worried.
she grabbed my belly and "oh, that is not baby! Its all fat! What are you so bloated!?"
Arghhhh!! Really! From my own family! And I am the smallest person in my family! I'm still a small/medium is all maternity and most other clothes!!

 

[clucas1988]

I have got the same because I showed early. I showed around 9weeks and the whole world commented "it's twins" "you must have awful tummy muscles" "you can't show this early" yes I can Thankyou very much, my midwife says I'm normal, and now I'm 5 months I've kind of slowed down growing and now I get "you look small for 5 months!" Keep your comments to yourself we are pregnant hormonal women leave us to get fat we are growing a human you'd be big too if you did! Rant over lol xxxx

 

[emmi26]

Ignore it I'm 15 weeks I have a bump already knew I would have my little man was 11lb 5 oz and tore my stomach muscles so this time they have just let go lol bump straight away
Wait till your nearly due and people start with haven't you had that baby yet ?
Seriously when your pregnant people think they can say what they want when !!

Emma

 

[princessatmey]

am the one paranoid about my bump lol 3rd preg an am 19+2 an swear an size i was when delivered other 2 lol hope dosnt mean big bubs as other 2 were under 7ib. I didnt notice bump til maybe month ago. No1 commented though, uterua in notes is measuring 3+ weeks ahead though?. My prev pregs ppl were elous as was so small an neat lol when 8months sum1 shocked when told i was prego lol. I cant wait til scan on mon(week) an see wht it says.

 

[amanda111308]

I have a friend who is a fair amount shorter than I and both of her pregnancies her boys stuck straight out because her torso was short and there really wasn't any other direction for the baby to go! Lol she got such ignorant comments all the time! For me (6 1) I never had a ginormous belly because I have a very long torso so my bump even at full term with my son was never insanely large like my friends. Ignore people they just don't know what to say and feel like they should comment so something stupid always comes out! My own mother said I am worried about your baby you look so small for full term! I talked to my doctor and he basically told me to tell her to shut up LOL I miss the doctor that delivered my son he was so great at keeping my worries and emotions at bay.

 

[junbait]

I'd say just ignore them. I had my first comment on my bump size over the weekend. I was asked by a friend's mom who is visiting how many months along I was and I told her 6 and she exclaimed saying I don't look that far along. I politely smiled and said thank you, I've been exercising and trying to eat right. I also told her the doc was happy with my weight gain and the baby's growth.

 

[Teec4]

Thanks for your comments and replies!!! Nice to know im not the only one dealing with ppl who dont think before they speak! As long as we know eveything is ok thats all that matters ☺ xxx

 

[cncem]

Nope,there is absolutely nothing wrong with you or bubba, don't listen to that crap at all. I got my first "your too big" comment the other night. I was at a birthday party and a lady told me "wow, I can't believe you have 3 months left, your so huge you look like you'll have her any day now" or something along those lines. Since it was a friend of a friend of mine I didn't want to offend her so I explained that every woman is different and even every pregnancy and how you carry your baby is different. When I was pregnant with my son I never looked really pregnant, just big and round all the way around, looked just very overweight. Shrug it off and don't let it get to you. On the other end of the spectrum are women who look small and people make the comment that they are too small and baby must be small and then the preg woman has a complex about it and is all worried. I wish people would just keep their comments to themselves.

 

[butterfly80]

I get this and spoke to my midwife who measured me and I was 3 weeks ahead, I was then measured a few weeks later and was exactly what I should be. Bumps change depending on baby's position and unless they are experts ignore them. I bet your bump is gorgeous so enjoy it, before you know it baby will be here and we will all miss our bumps xx

 

[Mrs Cupcake]

i keep getting this too, but im actually getting a bit worried about it and looking forward to the midwife checking me in a couple of weeks.

my friend who is due 2 months ahead of me is smaller than me. my mum has said so too. i feel so uncomfortable and big for this stage of pregnancy and connot believe i have so far to go!