Pregnancy after 5 losses

[Sandie_Cali]

Hi Ladies,

I am pregnant after having 5 losses, I am scared as heck and need an outlet and felt this was the place to talk.

I am about 7 weeks pregnant, the saw a hb at 5.5, but I am constantly scared. Does this feeling ever go away enough for me to enjoy the pregnancy. I am on constant mom patrol with concern and worry.

My symptoms have been nausea, bbs sore, bloating I look 3 months pregnant, exhaustion!!! I have not felt any cramps nor twinges down stairs and this is what is scaring me, more like worrrying me!! I have not had any bleeding neither. I did have d/c just once it was white cm with very light brown.

I am so scared!! I want so badly to go and see if everything is okay.

When I had my scan the girl was new and put the monitor right infront so that I could not see a thing. At first I felt that something had gone wrong and they did not want me to see. But I found out later, the tech was green and could not distinguish the yolk sac from the gestational sac. And she could not see the heart, the senior tech had to be called in and said, do you see that flutter there, that is the baby's heart, I did not get to see it though, then I got the estimated date of delivery.

I feel so vunerable right now and wish I could see my baby again for reassurance. My next scan is not until June 22nd, that feels like an eternity!

 

[summer rain]

Hi sandie

I hate it when they use unqualified people for the scan, I had this for my 18 week scan in one pregnancy and had to be recalled. I can only imagine your worries, but your strong symptoms sound like a good sign. Roll on your next scan! They sent me my appt today and it's not until the 17th June.

 

[hb1]

Hey Sandie - no wonder you're scared you have been through so much, I am very sorry for your losses. Hope you don't mind me asking - with your previous pg how far did you get? I doubt the fear will go away but getting past the stage that you mc before might be a good emotional milestone for you. Mine is 7 weeks - I have a scan booked for then.

If you are really stressed would your dr get you another scan? or is a private scan out of the question - like you say the reassurance will help.

Hope the fear eases soon

hx

 

[Sandie_Cali]

Hi sandie

I hate it when they use unqualified people for the scan, I had this for my 18 week scan in one pregnancy and had to be recalled. I can only imagine your worries, but your strong symptoms sound like a good sign. Roll on your next scan! They sent me my appt today and it's not until the 17th June.

It feels like an eternity!! I wish they would recall so I could get a good glimpse of my little one. All I got was a blurry pic with no yolk sac and a little blurb. I know there was a yolk sac because when the girl went to measure it, she was going to try and measure the gestational sac. The senior tech said "Noooooo that is the gestational sac, the yolk sac is the small circular one with the baby" OMG!! It was like as if it was something foreign to her and she studied it!!

Well on my next one I am going to make sure to have the senior tech because it is for my nucal testing, and I dont want anything going wrong there, nor mismeasured.

But I still worry.

 

[Sandie_Cali]

Hey Sandie - no wonder you're scared you have been through so much, I am very sorry for your losses. Hope you don't mind me asking - with your previous pg how far did you get? I doubt the fear will go away but getting past the stage that you mc before might be a good emotional milestone for you. Mine is 7 weeks - I have a scan booked for then.

If you are really stressed would your dr get you another scan? or is a private scan out of the question - like you say the reassurance will help.

Hope the fear eases soon

hx

My mile stone would be 7 weeks too, I found out last year at my 10 week check. I think that is a great thing to do, an emotional milestone, I like that.

I think I can get another scan, but would have to be cramping or bleeding and I dont have either. I could try to see if they would just for piece of mind.

You guys are awesome, thank you! It feels good to talk about it freely. Thank you

 

[lauraperrysan]

Just wanted to off you some hugs. Try to be positive, everything sounds great at the mo. I'm now 25 weeks pregnant after 5 losses in a row, so 6th time lucky for me and hopefully you too! It can be down to bad luck as no cause were really found for mine. Good luck Xx

 

[Smiler13]

Hi Sandie,

Know how hard it is, am nearly 24 weeks after four early losses, the first 12 weeks were very hard. In my area they will scan ladies who have had three consecutive m/cs at 8 weeks as well as 12 (I had scans at 6, 8 and 12 weeks, which helped with the milestones etc.), so it might be worth looking into that. Other ladies have paid for private early scans, though some people might prefer just to wait for the "standard" 12 week one and keep fingers crossed.

Best wishes for your pregnancy, hang in there!

 

[Bumparoo xXx]

Hi Sandie,
Congrats on your pregnancy!!
I know how you feel, I found out I was pregnant in December after 2 losses, the most recent only being in September so I was scared as hell!!
It too took me a long,long time to relax as I was constantly panicing that sonmething was wrong, I'm much better now Im further along then Ive ever got before but if baby has a lazy day Im hell to be around!!!
Everything sounds like its goin well for you atm, so well done, and good luck with the next scan!! Make sure you get a super picture as a keepsake!! You deserve it hun! xx

 

[Wantabean]

Just wanted to off you some hugs. Try to be positive, everything sounds great at the mo. I'm now 25 weeks pregnant after 5 losses in a row, so 6th time lucky for me and hopefully you too! It can be down to bad luck as no cause were really found for mine. Good luck Xx

i too think its 6th time lucky!! i have lost 5 bubs and cant believe how great things are going at the moment!! i am really scared 2 so completely understand how your feeling i am so scared to relax and enjoy this pregnancy but im starting to get there. i really hope things go well for you huni and keep us updated. masses of sticky for you!!!

 

[dizzy65]

hey i was like you at the begining so scared to be happy about my pregnancy scared the minute i got happy things would change and id have a m/c .. im still scared of loosing my LO..

 

[iow_bird]

Hi

Once you get past the 12 week mark things should begin to get a bit easier; I had five losses before this pregnancy, I'm now at 17 weeks and am beginning to relax a little. Still have worried moments though!

Take care x x