Pregnant after a MC - cautiously excited - anyone else been through this?

[laramommy2B]

Miscarried last year in October, at around 6 weeks and now 8 weeks 3 Days pregnant.
It's stressful, probably because, like me, you get flashbacks from last time. But you have to remind yourself a few things that I always think of when I start feeling panicky:

1. Things happen for a reason. I don't know if you have felt the same way, but my m/c has taught me a billion things I needed to learn and opened my eyes towards a lot of things I had not seen before. I am honored and proud I had the chance to carry that angel soul within me for a while because it made me change in many ways.
2. Nature is wise. If something goes wrong inside your belly, you can be sure that nature will take care of it and that it's in your best interest. It is painful to have an early m/c but it's worse to have a special needs baby.
3. Instead of focusing on your 25% chance of miscarrying, think that you have a 75% chance of having a beautiful, healthy baby.
4. Distract yourself: listen to that music that makes you feel good, nurture that relationship with daddy (baby feels it all, believe me), love and cherish your state (so many women have to FIGHT to get pregnant and it is an oh so painful situation...), love yourself, make yourself look pretty... Just think and feel good.
5. As I have already recommended on another post, I listen to Abraham Hicks Speeches and Workshops and they teach you SO much about life... It gives you a different perspective on it, makes you more open minded and accepting. You learn to let go and let things happen; and that is when you manage to feel free and light.

Good luck mommies,
Love,
L.

 

[laramommy2B]

Zero Symptoms does not mean anything bad, please don't worry.
Just like mommies with morning sickness shouldn't worry about it being something else, dangerous to the baby, you do not have to think that anything is going bad.
I'm sure your baby is perfectly fine.

Doing Pregnancy Tests, though, does not mean anything either. If you miscarry, your hCG levels will still be high for a few weeks, and since today's home pregnancy tests are really sensitive, it won't tell you whether the heartbeat is still there or not.
A pregnancy test confirms the presence of pregnancy hormones in your system, and they are present until you miscarry and even then there is still the possibility of a false positive, since the only thing the test tells you is whether there is hCG or not.
Don't know if you understand what I mean.

Just stay positive and trust your body. It has kept you healthy, it has made you pregnant, it is very wise.

Love,
L

 

[SweetPotatoPi]

I have definitely been highly concerned, to say the least, that I have had very vague/almost non-existent symptoms lara. With my boys I had all day/all night extreme nausea and fatigue from 5 and 6 weeks respectively until around 20, 21 weeks. With my m/c hardly any symptoms and my brain can't help but make the connection. I will have a severe breakdown (a good one) if I find that my baby is still alive when I finally get a scan.

 

[laramommy2B]

I have definitely been highly concerned, to say the least, that I have had very vague/almost non-existent symptoms lara. With my boys I had all day/all night extreme nausea and fatigue from 5 and 6 weeks respectively until around 20, 21 weeks. With my m/c hardly any symptoms and my brain can't help but make the connection. I will have a severe breakdown (a good one) if I find that my baby is still alive when I finally get a scan.

Every pregnancy is different, even when it's the same mommy, and you are still extremely early. It would surprise you to hear that many women in my family had no symptoms at all, and still had very healthy, big babies, in fact.
Symptoms just show how your body is reacting to the hormonal changes, and that really depends on who you are, how many pregnancies you've had, etc.

During baby number 6 my mother's boobs were never sore, never got bigger and in none of the six pregnancies had she been sick. And we are all fine and here today.

Give yourself a chance, don't be negative. Just think that god and nature know what they are doing. And I don't know about you but I'd rather miscarry, then see my special needs baby struggle through life.

I know how hard it is. We've all been there. You are in my prayers.
Keep us updated, so that we can all have that happy breakdown with you.
Love.

 

[Nina83]

I'm trying not to be to concerned I don't have any MS or very sore boobs. I'm tired a lot, bloated and crampy, but that's about it.
I know previous pregnancy I didn't have either, and we saw the HB, so I'm not sure it had anything to do with no symptoms. I also know that MS doesn't always kick in until about 6 weeks or later.
I guess you don't really hear about woman having no symptoms, maybe the first timers are looking for them or something. Usually you only hear about the complaints. I think it might be a big mistake- because pregnancy is so associated with symptoms, throwing up and MS, whoever might say they feel perfectly fine would be looked upon by the pregnant as... below them. Not sure I put that all right.

About the HPT... Before, I took one about every few days to calm my nerves. What a rookie I was... Too naive. Little did I know that when I breathed a huge sigh of relief at 7 +4 at the +HPT, my baby's HB had already stopped.

 

[SweetPotatoPi]

I agree Nina that a symptomless/almost symptomless pregnancy is considered an oddity and it would be nice to see more of a balance. Reading about how women who throw up or have severe nausea tend to have better outcomes as far as avoiding m/c certainly adds to the unnerving of it all. But then I read from women who were still having severe symptoms and thought things were fine but baby had died weeks ago and others who lost symptoms and panicked to go on and have healthy, happy babies in the end. It's really awful and difficult to try and not compare what's going on with one's body at this moment with what's going on with other women around the same time or even in our own previous pregnancies. I think we see the m/s=healthy, growing baby so much, I mean just pounded into our brains since we first realized long ago what pregnancy was, that it is almost impossible to deviate from that line of thinking. Even when you try the anxiety is still lurking.

 

[SweetPotatoPi]

And yes, I have severe flashbacks about what happened during my m/c...