pregnant after a mmc

[aw1990]

So I'm trying not to post about it in first tri because i dont want to scare anyone but im terrified! In October i had a mmc, I had no pain or bleeding, the sickness was still there my tests stayed darker than the control line, (even on day of the scan), my only symtom was a horrible gut feeling! I hadn't slept in 2 days over it my brain was screaming 'my babys gone' I've no idea how i knew but i finally had to book a private scan, I was 11+ weeks but the baby had stopped growing at 7weeks, the sac was still growing and physically my body hadn't caught on yet, it was the longest 9days before i had a d&c and its taken us 6months to ttc again! So now I'm pregnant and terrified! Its totally ruined first tri for me! Nothing that should be reassuring is! X

 

[xxmyheartxx]

I've not being through a mmc but I've had 4 losses including an ectopic back to back and I'm feeling the same, I'm petrified of loosing this one and I'm trying to remain calm and try and enjoy it, it's so hard, I don't have any advice really, I just know how you feel

 

[aw1990]

Thanks lovely! Theres not anyhig anyone can say really! I just had to get it out! I've bought a few bits and planning things which i hope is a good thing as i didn't at all the last time as it just didnt feel right, ahhh fingers crossed for both of us! Xxxx

 

[sjg28]

I had an mmc in August, just like you had no sign that anything was wrong until we went for our dating scan and the baby had no heartbeat, they think the pregnancy had ended only a few days before. We fell pregnant again in January and all the way through I have been unable to really attach to the baby or even believe that everything will be OK so my husband and I have just stayed really detached and not told a soul. Yesterday we had our dating scan and I was terrified and an emotional wreck all day, we were even called into the same scanning room as last time which was awful. Thankfully everything was fine and there was baby wriggling around and heart beating good and strong. I feel like today is the first day of my pregnancy and I can finally start to bond with my bump. I understand totally how you feel and I wish all the best for your pregnancy.

 

[Dana_Scully]

My first pregnancy was a mmc. Baby stopped growing at 6 weeks, and around 9 weeks I woke up and I had lost all my symptoms. It's very hard not to worry. I've got hg with this one, and I still worry I could lose him/her. We've got to let go, there's nothing we can do about it. Big hugs!

 

[aw1990]

Thanks ladies, Im sorry you have all been through it too! Its so hard! xx

 

[pinkpassion]

I've had 2 mmc and my symptoms weren't as strong as with my living children and I also had the gut feeling! I called it the feeling of doom! It's terrible and hard to enjoy first tri after something like that!! I'm sorry. This time I haven't had any "symptoms" but no bad feelings and baby is fine, so every pregnancy really is different!!

 

[kitkez]

Hey. So sorry for everyone's losses. I had a miscarriage in January. I started bleeding at 15 weeks but turns out my boy had died just after our 12 Week scan. I too had been worried during the time. Which was weird as I'd had 2 healthy pregnancies previously. I remember my friend saying you can relax now after the scan and I replied 'not just yet'?? I tried to find the heart beat 4 days after the scan on my Doppler and couldn't. Tried not to worry. But I never did find it again. We don't know what happened. We will have the results of an autopsy in 2 weeks but I don't think there will be anything. Which on one hand is good cause it means there's nothing that would be likely to cause it again.

I'm 5 weeks pregnant now. Sometimes I feel calm and other times really worried.

My husband and i, I feel are more bonded already with this pregnancy. Discussing names etc. Something didn't feel right last time. And he never bonded with the pregnancy before. No belly touching or anything.

Anyway praying this little one goes full term and I can stay calm till 20 Week scan lol. One thing that bothers me is knowing the 12 Week scan isn't going to give me peace of mind. I'm looking forward to 16 Week midwife where they listen for hb. That's my first milestone past my previous mc x