Pregnant after loss and scared!

[scaredblobb]

Hi Everyone
I am hoping to be able to gain some support/reassurance from people on here as it is too soon to be able to tell anyone I know that I am pregnant!
We lost our baby at 4 1/2 months earlier this year. It has been a really tough few months and a day doesn't go by when we don't think about him. It was my first pregnancy and wasn't planned at all which I also feel a little guilty about.
Anyway, today I realised that I hadn't yet had a period and have been extremely tired the last few days. I wasn't sure if this was just stress but thought I had better do a pregnancy test in case...........................the first test I did was a cheap one and there was a faint line so I then bought a clear blue digital test which says I am between 1-2 weeks pregnant so very early.
I am feeling a mixture of emotions. I am so excited but on the other hand very nervous and scared. We have been told that our loss before was not genetic at and unlikely to happen again but I still can't help but worry
On top of this we are due to fly in a couple of weeks....
Am I just worrying myself Unnecessarily?
Any help/support would be greatly appreciated

 

[zoe93]

Sorry for your loss!

I think that you shouldn't be worried since you mentioned your loss was not genetic. I had a molar pregnancy and had the d&c done in february 6 2012 and the doctor told me i should NOT get pregnant until the next 6 to 12 months at least. Today im about 5 weeks and a half pregnant, meaning i got pregnant 4 month after the d&c and i run a 1 to 2% chance of losing this pregnancy which does worry me, but so far so good... i feel the same way you do, with mixed emotions! i think you should schedule a dr. appointment and start taking your prenatal pills! i heard you cant fly on an airplane 6months pregnant so you should be fine for now!

 

[wookie130]

It is so normal to be afraid...pregnancy after loss is a scary thing. This is my 3rd pregnancy in a year...I've miscarried two other babies in a year's time, and now I'm a tiny bit pregnant with my 3rd. I have no living children, and I'm 34. I can't help but wonder if my time isn't running out, and if I lose this one, I may just lose my mind.

One day at a time. Sometimes it's moment by moment that we need to get through.

 

[Preggies]

I had a 2nd trimester loss at 17 weeks february 28th of this year and got pregnant again by april 28th. I don't know what happened to him. My doctor told me it wasn't necessary to wait, so I figured I would try again immediately. Everything is good so far except for the worrying. I'm actually thinking about seeking professional help because my mind won't stop. However, I know I really shouldn't worry, especially since every doctor visit has been just fine. All you really can do is wait =(

But your chances are good. I wouldn't fly on the airplane if I didn't have to, just in case. I heard curing the first trimester it is not good to fly. Even though nothing is proven, if something did happen you would always think about it and that sucks.

I'll be praying for your baby.

 

[Ttc1at34]

Hi all,

Hope you don't mind if I jump in on this thread...

I am so happy to be able to say I am finally pg; however, I am so afraid of what we will find at our first ultrasound in two weeks.

Long story short, I had a BO diagnosed at 11 weeks, took three months, a D&C and a shot of methotrexate to end the pregnancy. TTC for another four months, ended up in fertility treatment and was just told that DH's swimmers had 1% morphology. Just when we received the IVF info packet in the mail, I got my BFP after a round of clomid.

Now I am almost 5 weeks, on prometrium and praying praying praying that this one is the real deal! It was so hard for us to go through fertility treatment...I think my heart would break if we ended up back at square 1.

For those of you past the first U/S, how did you get through those first few weeks? I am trying not to become pessismistic, but I am afraid that if I get my hopes up I will be even more destroyed if we do not see a heartbeat

Thanks in advance for your advice, ladies, and wishing all of you a healthy nine months :

 

[Skydust]

Hi there, I am pregnant after a mc a baby then another mc; Both mc ended in D&Cs and both ended around 6-7 weeks. I have a scan booked in for Friday but I am so worried for another lost heartbeat, with mixed emotions the early road ahead is just a worrying one.. its hard hun, but maybe you will have a sticky bean this time. All the best xx

 

[gumb69]

Hiya,
I think we are all in the same worry boat.It's just awful, i just wish we could click our fingers and all be ok. This is my 8th pg, i've had 6 m/c's. i'm 7 weeks pregnant and had a scan last week and there was a heartbeat but my hcg levels aren't rising properly, so i'm a freaking wreck!! have another scan on saturday. The stress can't be good for us.

Wishing you all healthy and sticky babies.I don't think the worry ever goes away x