pregnant after mmc - feeling so down, stressed, and lonely

[Joy84]

Hi,

I am new here and want to express my hopes for positive pregnancy outcomes for all the lovely ladies on this forum. Also, I would like to ask for some advice.

I experienced a missed miscarriage 2 years ago, which was detected at the 11-week ultrasound (baby's heart stopped beating at about 10 weeks they said). I didn't suspect at all the baby might have died as I still was experiencing all the pregnancy symptoms and had had no bleeding or cramps at all. We had had a first ultrasound at 6 weeks where everything looked perfect and where we saw a strong heartbeat.

Now I am 5 weeks pregnant (first pregnancy since the miscarriage). The day I found out I am pregnant again I felt very happy . My husband and I really wanted to get pregnant again and we both really can't wait to have a baby. However from the second day on I don't feel any happiness about my new pregnancy, I just feel this intense fear that I will have another miscarriage. At some moments I am even convinced that this baby has also already died. I didn't notice the baby dying last time, so why would I this time It makes me really paranoid and makes me feel like I can't trust my body... I don't have anyone to talk to except my husband as friends and family didn't/don't understand my grief related to my miscarriage and my fear of loosing another baby.

Has anyone been in such a situation or any tips on how to copy with my feelings? I would really appreciate just anything you have to say!

 

[cliqmo]

Yes I understand your fears, I think stacks of ladies will on here

Try to focus on this being a whole new pregnancy and force your worries to the back of your mind- early worrying doesn't help at all xx

 

[filipenko32]

I understand! I think it is really really hard but you just have to keep thinking that it is really really unlikely that anything bad will happen - I am in the minority. You only have a few more weeks to go before you clear 12 weeks, keep thinking like that. x

 

[christine1986]

i feel the same i had 2 healthy pregnancy's Alisha and Harley with my ex partner with no problems, with my husband we lost our first at 7 weeks, fell again after my first period and had our son Jackson with no problems, then lost our little boy Peter at 17 weeks (he had died at 14 weeks) and fell again after my first period so hoping this will be a healthy problem free pregnancy just so nervous, both excited and scared of my 12 weeks scan but have to try and think positive kids help me smile as they think my bloated belly is big mc's hahaha they can believe that for a while yet untill well after scan xx

 

[Lesley22]

Hi i am new here too, just wanted to say Joy i know exaxctly how you feel, i had a mmc in march which was detected on ultrasound. I am currently 9 weeks pregnant again but so scared as the symptoms i had have gone away just like the first time. iv'e got my 12 week scan in 3 weeks just cant wait to get there and see if everythings ok, ive had lots of cramping today too. Hope everything works out for you.

 

[3boys]

unfortunately i know exactly how you feel hun, I had a mmc in march which was discovered at nearly 13wks we had also previously seen a strong hb. When i found out i was pregnant this time i felt joy for about 1 day and then the panic set in. My gp was great and sent me for 3 reassurance scans and each one would reassure me for about 2 days and then the panic would start again, i was convinced i was going to lose this baby and i would get really annoyed with my hubby cos he was so positive. But he was right hun and my baby is doing great, once the movement started i felt much more positive, I also read that your chances of having 2 mmc in a row is about 1% and that also helped me. I know its hard but it is best to try and stay positive hun! x x x

 

[Tisiphonie]

TOTALLY understand. I had a stillbirth last June and since then have had two MMCs. Pregnant again I'm about to go for my first scan at 7+1 and I'm freaking out. It's hard to get past these feelings, but we have to. I keep thinking that this little bean deserves all of my love and as many good emotions as I can give it, and it's not fair to think that it's already passed on when chances are it is alive and healthy and waiting for us to give birth and hold it. Thinking of you!!

 

[Preciousone]

Can I pop in and ask how you are all doing ? I'm booked in for a D&C tomorrow ;( x