I am currently 18wks pregnant, i have a 5 yr old boy and our daughter was stillborn due to cord prolapse in March this year - i got pregnant naturally 4 months later which was surprising seeing as i had fertility issues.
Our daughter had no fluid which was detected at 20 wk scan and large kidneys, suspected Polycystic kidney disease but genetic results were negative. She would have died after birth but we didnt get to find out due to cord problems during labour that caused her to die inside the womb.
Im so glad to be pregnant again, 16wk scan ws fine, 2 more wks left till we find out if this is the same thing again or not. So nervous and so stressed!
I actually have a PPC appointment 1st a day before the 20wk scan - on this PPC they do a scan internally to check cervix as i went into prem labour last time - they do an abdominal 1st to check HB etc, so im hoping same again next time and i find out then if there is fluid or not.
Im thinking of private scans but dont want the dissapointment.
Im already preparing for the worst so i can deal with the worst case. But at the back of my mind i have niggling questions of how i will cope if baby ok. Obviously i will be happy and i know nothing will replace the daughter we lost but i still wonder if i will bond with this baby and what if i expect it to be a girl and it turns out to be a boy. I know i am hoping for just a healthy baby thats all but these niggles do worry me cos im not prepared for the birth of a healthy baby mentally as im too worried to be prepared incase somethng goes wrong during labour even if baby healthy. Anyone been to same worries and overcome them? how?
thanks.
Our daughter had no fluid which was detected at 20 wk scan and large kidneys, suspected Polycystic kidney disease but genetic results were negative. She would have died after birth but we didnt get to find out due to cord problems during labour that caused her to die inside the womb.
Im so glad to be pregnant again, 16wk scan ws fine, 2 more wks left till we find out if this is the same thing again or not. So nervous and so stressed!
I actually have a PPC appointment 1st a day before the 20wk scan - on this PPC they do a scan internally to check cervix as i went into prem labour last time - they do an abdominal 1st to check HB etc, so im hoping same again next time and i find out then if there is fluid or not.
Im thinking of private scans but dont want the dissapointment.
Im already preparing for the worst so i can deal with the worst case. But at the back of my mind i have niggling questions of how i will cope if baby ok. Obviously i will be happy and i know nothing will replace the daughter we lost but i still wonder if i will bond with this baby and what if i expect it to be a girl and it turns out to be a boy. I know i am hoping for just a healthy baby thats all but these niggles do worry me cos im not prepared for the birth of a healthy baby mentally as im too worried to be prepared incase somethng goes wrong during labour even if baby healthy. Anyone been to same worries and overcome them? how?
thanks.
so sorry for the loss of your little girl
my daughter was stillborn last year we never got any reason for it whatsoever i am pregnant again and really nervous i hope all goes well for you at your next scan hun xx
