Pregnant after T21 miscarriage ... So anxious!

[JakesMummy]

Hello!!

Have been a member for a very long time, just don't get the chance to come on here often, due to kids!!

I have just got a BFP, but instead of feeling so excited, I am incredibly scared!!!

Bit of history, my Firstborn was absolutely perfect, next pregnancy was a MMC (no reason given) at 12 weeks, then my beautiful daughter came along, and we so wanted a third. So my precious pregnancy went off without a hitch, morning sickness etc and all was well until the scan. Our baby had a 1 in 2 chance of Down's syndrome. Baby also had abnormalities not compatible with life. We were devestated and made such a hard decision to interrupt pregnancy.

So here I am today, newly pregnant and obviously concerned that this baby may have something wrong with it.
We had our bloods taken to be karyotyped to "rule out Translocation Downs". I have done ALOT of research, and I am praying neither of us is a carrier. It's highly unlikely and something they want to omit, so then we can discuss with a genetic counsellor what happens next. This pregnancy was a complete surprise and I AM very happy but also worried!

I wish I had the results from blood test before we conceived, as my anxiety would've been less, had I known!

I will be having an Amnio after scan, regardless of results, so I can continue on, feeling less worry.

My dad passed away last year and then the trauma of what we went through. I would love a huge glass of wine!! I wouldn't, though, don't drink anyway!

Has anyone been through this anxiety after having a Trisomy baby? Or even being scared of it happening again?

Sorry it's long, I haven't got it off my chest for a while xxx

 

[Vicki_Cream]

Sorry for the difficult decision you had to make, I haven't been through this personally, just wanted to offer you hugs! xx

 

[JakesMummy]

Thankyou x

 

[halullat]

I have no experience but just wanted to wish you good luck with your results and also say congratulations! x

 

[JakesMummy]

Thankyou x

 

[beabee]

Hi there, we also lost a baby to T21 last year, and are pregnant again (5w3d). I'm not feeling anxious yet but I'm sure I will in time. We'll be getting a CVS test at 11 weeks. We lost the baby at 18 weeks last year and it was so devastating so I feel compelled to find out sooner this time if there might be potential loss. I know it can happen twice in a row, but it's super rare, so I do think the odds are in our favour

 

[JakesMummy]

Hi beabee. I'm about 5 days behind you �� I'm ever so sorry you went through a similar situation, it's heart wrenching. I agree it's super rare for this to happen again, it would really be a case of Translocation if it were to happen again. I'm 28 so when it happened. It was completely unexpected!
I'll be having either CVS or Amnio too, whatever the result. I need to be certain!

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Looks like we are in this together!

 

[twinmummy06]

We didn't lose a baby to a trisomy, but lost our daughter to triploidy in March this year (3 full sets of chromosomes and incompatible with life also )

I have only just begun to relax (well as much as anyone can post loss) after the 20 week scan came back showing a healthy baby.
It's very emotionally draining trying to be positive about going through pregnancy again, whilst fearing something's going to be be 'wrong'.

 

[beabee]

Booked for a CVS on Dec 12th. I think it normally takes a week for the results so fingers and toes crossed. It would be a lovely gift to tell our parents on Christmas Day. I'm sure bad memories from last year will resurface when we have the test though so just willing time to go fast so it's all over. Will be wishing you best of luck too

 

[JakesMummy]

Thankyou. We've just had some good news. Our chromosome results have come back, after being tested for translocation, and they have come back
As completely normal!! So relieved. It means the T21 was a fluke. Rare, one off.

 

[viccat]

Fantastic news!

I am waiting for an amniocentesis next week, after combined testing at 13 weeks gave me a greater than 1 in 5 chance of T21. It's an absolutely awful time, and I know that if I ever get pregnant again, I will be asking for CVS as early as they can do it.

I feel so stupid that I didn't do that this time, as I am 39 years old

 

[JakesMummy]

I'm so sorry your having to make the decision to have invasive testing. It's such a nerve-wracking time. I have read ALOt of positive stories online about the 1 in 5 chance proving to be a normal chromosome baby. Mine was 1 in 2, basically they said they were positive it was but they couldn't 100% confirm with the scan.

When will you be receiving your results? I have my nuchal scan in 3 weeks, and I'll be honest, even though my odds go back to base, it will be terrifying for me as the 12 week scan has always bought doom and gloom for me, apart from my two kiddies!

I'm here for a bit of virtual hand-holding whilst you go through the testing xx I'll be having the cvs, regardless of results x

 

[viccat]

Thank you so much for the offering the virtual hand holding. I feel like I hijacked your thread!

I totally understand what you mean about being terrified. I'm not sure I'll ever be pregnant again, but if I am, I already know I will not be able to relax until a proper diagnostic test is received.

So....... how far along are you, and when can you get the CVS done?

 

[JakesMummy]

I am almost 10 weeks and am meant to be having the cvs straight after nuchal regardless of results. HOWEVER, I have started to get a pink discharge tonight and my symptoms are going so really not that optimistic!! Can't bloody believe the bad luck I have had. I'm going to push for a scan at the EPAU tomorrow, as it started at 1pm today and has stayed the same. I'm not expecting to see a heartbeat, I'm afraid

 

[viccat]

Oh I am so sorry to hear that. Try to stay positive though, and make sure you relax and stay hydrated. I had a heavy bleed at 10 weeks, which I was convinced was the start of a miscarriage, but baby disagreed. Bleeding does not automatically lead to a miscarriage, so I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for a good outcome

 

[JakesMummy]

Thankyou viccat. It's reassuring to read others stories. I've come to the conclusion that if I expect the worse, and it's a good outcome, well, that'll be a nice surprise. How are you feeling today?

 

[viccat]

Thankyou viccat. It's reassuring to read others stories. I've come to the conclusion that if I expect the worse, and it's a good outcome, well, that'll be a nice surprise. How are you feeling today?

I work exactly the same way - although occasionally I find uninvited optimism sneaking in

Today I've been very distracted from work, but have got a hectic few days coming up, which should help keep my mind off Friday's test.

You?

 

[JakesMummy]

This is the problem. I'm a SAHM so have a lot of time to worry. If I keep myself busy,I'm old and if I surround myself with people, it keeps me occupied!!

Do let me know how you get on xxx

 

[beabee]

Just thought I would update this post as I know I find it useful reading threads where you can see the final outcome. Firstly JakesMummy and viccat I hope both get (or had) good outcomes from any tests you might've had. I had a nerve-wracking CVS just before Christmas (at 12 weeks). When I called them for the results a few days later my hands were shaking, I felt sick to the stomach. I almost didn't believe it when they told me we were all clear this time. I kept asking "are you sure?" All I could remember was last years phone call when they told me the opposite. A really stressful thing so my thoughts are with anyone who has to go through these tests.

 

[JakesMummy]

Thankyou for updating! It's always good to get to the end of a thread and see what happened.

Unfortunately for us, I started bleeding at 11.5 weeks and found out we had ANOTHER missed miscarriage, so had an op 4-5 weeks ago for ERPC. Gutted!