My BF (for the last 15 years) is getting married when I will have a very young baby (10 weeks). I am bridesmaid but since i've told her i'm pregnant I feel like I'm an inconvenience and that i've done it on purpose to ruin the day. I can't make the hen party for a start but that seems to be the least of my worries at the moment. I've already been told that the 'no children rule still applys even to me' and that 'if the dress doesn't look right, i won't wearing it' - (for my own good of course cos i wouldn't want to feel 'fat and unsexy'!) So as it stands I feel like i've had an ultimatium and that is in a nutshell 'You can be my bridesmaid if you don't bring your baby and you fit into the dress'. I'm so upset and don't know what to do. The pre-pregnant me would say 'stick it!' but the mard hormonal me just wants to keep everyone happy.