Pregnant and my bf has left me.... Help

[Mumtobe 1]

Hi
I am 15weeks and my xs left me at 7week i have tried every thing with him and he dose not want to no, it has really got me down and i feel i have let baby down already....

Could really do with some help and to no things will be ok....



THANKS xxx

 

[MissWaiting]

You haven't let your baby down he has he left you and you dont have to make it work with him just for your baby I know plenty of single mums who have beautiful happy children and a lot of the time I get told by the mums their better off then with the dad. Hope this helped but remember all your baby wants is you and to love you and you love baby

 

[teal]

You've definitely not let your baby down sweetie xx

 

[Mumtobe 1]

thank u


I try and speak to him so he is in babys life, but it feels like he dont even wanna no the baby ....

would love to speak to people that is same as me...

but i no i have to get on with it ... thank u so much i love my baby to bits already xxxx

 

[loopsie]

If you have tried talking to him then you've done all you can and if he doesn't wanna know the baby it's his loss. I have a 4 week old daughter and her father doesn't want to know, doesn't even know her name or her birthday. But look at it this way- you get to raise your baby however you want, without his interferance. Being a single mum is tough but you'll be surprised how quick you can adapt to it

 

[Dezireey]

Best thing to do with him is let him be. The more you push and ask why? why? he's left you, the further he will pull away. Men, don't ask, they behave strangely and they say we are complicated?

A mother who loves and adores her child so much is worth millions more than a kid brought up in an unhappy home with two parents. We all know that the most important thing is to have someone love you, especially your mum, you will be fine. Try to enjoy your pregnancy, don't let him take that away from you aswell.

Hugs xx

 

[Mumtobe 1]

Thanks girls, it helps when u speak to people about it.. He has moved on now as well as long as my baby is ok that's all I care about xxx

 

[beanzz]

Honestly it's probably better this way than him just being in the way whilst not really being bothered about his own child. FOB never did anything for Oakley when we were together and it'd make me so angry, now that we've split up its no different for me apart from him not pissing me off because he's not there to annoy me lol

 

[RaRalalala]

My babys dad is like that in the case of not caring about the baby, was my decision when me and him finished when I was about 3 months pregnant. He was all for being around for the baby - it was all lies.

He's seen her twice since she was born and the last being when she was ten days old and he's never paid a penny for her. As far as I am concerned if that is how he is she's better off without him. Same goes for your baby and ex!

They just don't realise what they're missing and it's their loss

 

[tooyoung]

they behave strangely and they say we are complicated?

A mother who loves and adores her child so much is worth millions more than a kid brought up in an unhappy home with two parents.

Hugs xx

Dezireey, you sound like my twin lol
My post would have been exactly like yours so I'm stealing it!

 

[Dezireey]

Yeah, it's a complete bloody myth that anyone brought up by a single parent is lacking. How can they be lacking as long as they have a mother who loves them? In my opinion there are tons of people in this world who would have been far better people in society if they had not had an uncaring parent in their life and had just the one who loved them ( not saying it's always men who are at fault).

I am discovering so much as a single parent! I also think there is no need to put any labels or stereotypes on us as I have learned ( the OP is another example) that the majority of us were shat on from a great height by our partners. It's not our fault and society needs to bloody well respect that and be sensitive to that issue about a lot of single mums.

off my soap box now lol

 

[tooyoung]

That is so true. In fact, when couples stay together just for the sake of the children, they are really hurting them in the long run. Lots of kids see how their parents interact with each other and then they think that is normal. Then when the children are older and in their own relationship, they don't know what a loving or caring relationship is. If, financially, there is a way to be without a bad partner, then I so go for it. It's much healthier for everyone in the long run. Life is too short and all that blah blah blah...

 

[lil lovey]

That's how I feel. FOB left me when I was 10 weeks. I tried to work things out with him but he just refused. But eventually at 14 Weeks he was willing to try things out. At that time I was over but I really was dating him for the sake of LOboy was that the worst decision ever! It really wasn't working out. He'd always start fights, making me feel so bad for things I didn't do, not feeling loved and just was so depressed like hell! He ended things and told me he wants nothing to do with LO:'(. I would love for LO to have both parents but I guess his got only me