Pregnant for a year

[Celesse]

Its now a year and 2 days since my angel was conceived. After a 61 day gap I was pregnant again with my current baby (now 36 weeks), though that entire 61 days was spent bleeding, then watching sticks go faint, then peeing on ovulation sticks.

Feels like a very long time to be pregnant right now and not really sure where my mind is with regards it all. Part of me thinks I should be aware of the anniversaries of the lost pregnancy especially as part of the grieving process, but part of me thinks it shouldn't be important any more as right now I have a brand new baby on the way to look forward to and the dates I am creating with her are more important.

Anyone else in similar situation, heavily pregnant around the anniversaries of their angels?

 

[RaspberryK]

I will be due around the time we lost our baby and ds birthday is around the lost baby's due date.
It's on my mind less since I found out I was pregnant again, but no doubt when the anniversaries come around it'll be hard.
I don't think that we will ever forget those dates, regardless of whether we have new babies but perhaps they makes it slightly easier to bear?
I don't think that we should discount our Angel babies, they were still an important person in our lives, just the same as we wouldn't discount a friend or relative who has died. They are important to us, even if they aren't though of by anyone else.
I conceived in December, miscarried in March, fell pregnant in May and due in February... What a long time to be pregnant, I'm going to feel like an elephant.
Xx

 

[george83]

I was in the same situation as yourself not long ago and I found it very strange. I would make passing comments to people relating to my angel's pregnancy and dates and then have to explain why. I wouldn't try to forget dates etc as pp said your angel will always be a part of your life, however I have to say I found myself less emotional on those days than I expected and get caught off guard at other times (the miscarriage story line in coronation street has had me crying every night this week thinking of my precious angel).

 

[patch2006uk]

I was 36 weeks pregnant on Charley's first anniversary. I didn't do much to commemorate it, as I was already worried about the end of the pregnancy, and I felt I wanted (and still feel that I want to) be present for my living children. The way the dates fall for us is Isaac 12th Jan, Charley 12th Feb and Alex 11th March. Maybe when they get older we could do a joint birthday celebration in Feb so it's an occasion to mark all 3 dates, but I'm not sure.

By the end of my third pregnancy I'd been pregnant for 82 weeks and 4 days of the previous 100 weeks! And overall I've been pregnant for 124 weeks and 5 days of the last 4 years! No wonder I'm exhausted! And at the new baby visits I keep being asked if I'm pregnant again already because they have to check. I think I just laughed. Pregnancy is long enough, without having to repeat bits of it over and over. I imagine your first tri felt like it lasted forever!

I hope the end of your pregnancy goes well

 

[Starry Night]

I had two miscarriages in the space of half a year and then became pregnant with my rainbow only 3 1/2 months after my last d&c. I got my rainbow bfp almost exactly a year to the day I got the bfp for my first angel. So by the time my rainbow was born a week ago I had been pregnant for a year and 9 months. It really made my rainbow pregnancy drag.

I did mark angel anniversaries including the anniversaries for the babies I had lost before (my first pregnancy ended in m/c and I m/c'd my son's twin). My rainbow was also due in a week of anniversaries so it was hard to miss. I think it's OK and healthy to remember our angels even as we look forward to our rainbows. I found my grief didn't take away from my love and excitement for my new baby.

Congratulations on all the new pregnancies. I hope you all have a healthy and happy 9 months.

 

[ladyluck84]

I'm around the time I had an ectopic last year and now 29 weeks pregnant. Baby is due around the same time as my first miscarriages due date which is odd. I don't think about it as much or feel the depth of sadness I did but at those times I will think and always will about the babies I lost

 

[celine]

Yes i had my last period n april 2013, then two miscarriages without ever getting my period, so technically ive been pregnant more than a year. Im almost 37 weeks pregnant with this baby and if i have her at 40 weeks i will have been pregnant 15 months.

 

[dairymomma]

I got pg last April, found out baby's hb had stopped days before a 14 week ultrasound, D&C at 15 weeks. 9 weeks later, I got another bfp but miscarried a blighted ovum at 7 weeks (early Oct). 5 weeks after that m/c, I was pg yet again. I figured it out. Out of the last 14 months, I've NOT been pregnant for just over 14 weeks. No wonder I'm ready to be done and I still have 5 weeks left to go. Ugh. DH keeps telling me pretty much to suck it up and quit whining because "you wanted this." Well, yes, I wanted a rainbow baby but he should try being pregnant for the last year and see how he likes it...

 

[Lindsay109]

Yep, I had a mmc with a d&c, waited the one cycle recommended by my doctor and conceived again the next cycle. Rainbow baby arrived on March 31, the same day one year later that I got my first bfp.