Prenatal depression

[MadamRose]

Not sure if this clasts as a Gestational compliacation sorry if it doesn't just need some people to take to.

I went to the doctors on friday and she said i had low-mild depression. She said she doesnt really want to give me any meds as they could have effects on baby and i definightly dont want anything effecting my little one.
I've got to see her again in 2 weeks time for a follow up to see if things are getting any better/worse. If things get alot worse in the mean time i have to go back sooner. Im so scared about what will happen, or they will think im not going to be able/fit to look after my baby when its here

 

[Heavenx]

Hi, I have experienced some pre-natal depression so far in this pregnancy (not in my previous pregnancy and don't normally suffer any depression) My Dr referred me to a Mother & Baby Unit as an outpatient for some counselling, so far I've had a one to one session and am waiting for a group session to start where I'll be chatting amongtst other pregnant women experiencing similar thoughts and feelings as myself.

Please don't worry that any Dr will think you're uncapable of taking care of yourself or baby, they're not here to judge you like that. They will do an initial assessment and of course take any previous mental health issues into account but please don't worry, the Dr and any counsellor she may send you to are here to support you.

 

[MadamRose]

Ok thankyou. I also have never had any previous depression of any kind. I think it may be linked to the loss of my angel at 11weeks pregnant, before this pregnacy, makes me wonder about this pregnancy and worry, and wonder if im good enough. just hoping it can be nipped in the bud before baby is here so i can really enjoy it when my LO is here

 

[Heavenx]

Sorry that you had a loss at 11 weeks, how you're feeling now is bound to include grief of your loss, it's natural that you will worry about this pregnancy too and it's good that you recognise that you need to nip it in the bud now. Seeing your Dr again in a couple of weeks will help, see what she suggests then. I notice that you're in the Midlands, depending where you are you may be referred to the same moter and baby unit that I attend. It will work out, I know it's not nice because all we want to do is feel relaxed about our pregnancies and enjoy them, I'm still waiting to start to enjoy mine, am worried that I won't at all and worry how this may affect baby, it's a vicious circle. PM me anytime if you feel down and just need to talk. All the best with your next Dr appointment x

 

[MadamRose]

Thanks im near nottingham so it depends where the clinic is. I hope you start enjoying yours soon also. I hope that the doctor can give me other ways of dealing with it. the only thing she says last time was talking which im trying to do

 

[sciencemum]

Hello, I hope your feeling better. Try not to feel like you will be an incompetant mother after the birth, I know that a lot of women feel the same, it is a huuge change and it's okay to feel nervous.

I actually have a history of depression and mental illness and have been in and out of psych hospitals. I stopped taking my meds when I found out i was pregnant. If you can not take medication, then don't take it. The best thing I did was come off this for the baby.

If you ever need to talk, I am here. I am suffering badly at the moment and i feel bad because I should be so happy with everything. But, the most important thing is to talk and i think it helps best to talk to people in your situation rather than professionals. I have seen psychs for years and never seem to get as far as I do than when i talk to people who are similar, but then we are all different. But no doctor has a magical cure, It does come down to time and you have to fight it.

Just don't be ashamed and talk to whoever feels right. You CAN do this. We all can. Don't let depression take you, expecially not at this important time in your lifes.

 

[MadamRose]

Hello, I hope your feeling better. Try not to feel like you will be an incompetant mother after the birth, I know that a lot of women feel the same, it is a huuge change and it's okay to feel nervous.

I actually have a history of depression and mental illness and have been in and out of psych hospitals. I stopped taking my meds when I found out i was pregnant. If you can not take medication, then don't take it. The best thing I did was come off this for the baby.

If you ever need to talk, I am here. I am suffering badly at the moment and i feel bad because I should be so happy with everything. But, the most important thing is to talk and i think it helps best to talk to people in your situation rather than professionals. I have seen psychs for years and never seem to get as far as I do than when i talk to people who are similar, but then we are all different. But no doctor has a magical cure, It does come down to time and you have to fight it.

Just don't be ashamed and talk to whoever feels right. You CAN do this. We all can. Don't let depression take you, expecially not at this important time in your lifes.

Yes i know what you mean i feel like i should be happy the likelyhood is everything will defingihtly be fine with baby and i will defionghtly get to hold this baby in my arms, unlike with my angel who i lost when 11weeks pregnant. So then i get more angry with myself for feelin upset and not happy.
I think i may feel happier once i see my baby again as i keep worryin that baby wont be ok. My 20week scan in 18days will proberly reasure me that eveything is going to be fine.
Hope everything goes well for you in your pregnancy. HAve you or are you finding out the sex of your baby

 

[lily123]

Hi hunni there's a thread at the top of the forum called 'Raising Awareness for Prenatal Depression' i started it a few months ago when i was diagnosed. There are a few lovely ladies in there who are great to talk to and share experiences with x x x