Preparing to be devastated

[Amber0522]

My OH & I have just recently decided to TTC. We're both really excited about this new journey, but express ourselves differently. This is our first month trying. I have wanted to have a baby for years now, but was never with the right person or the timing wasn't right to try. I've been so excited about being given the green light to try, that I feel like I'm going crazy & feel like disappointment is inevitable. Our TWW starts tomorrow & if I get a BFN I know I'm going to be devastated. I've become obsessed with this process. I am using OPK's, Clear blue fertility monitor, Preseed, Mucinex & we've bd'd every fertile day but one. I've had friends & family members who have had a lot of difficulty with infertility & it scares me, so we figured we would do everything possible right from the start, to ensure conception. How do I prevent myself from becoming so obsessed with this & to just relax? Is anyone else in the same boat as me?

 

[Akirkland]

My OH & I have just recently decided to TTC. We're both really excited about this new journey, but express ourselves differently. This is our first month trying. I have wanted to have a baby for years now, but was never with the right person or the timing wasn't right to try. I've been so excited about being given the green light to try, that I feel like I'm going crazy & feel like disappointment is inevitable. Our TWW starts tomorrow & if I get a BFN I know I'm going to be devastated. I've become obsessed with this process. I am using OPK's, Clear blue fertility monitor, Preseed, Mucinex & we've bd'd every fertile day but one. I've had friends & family members who have had a lot of difficulty with infertility & it scares me, so we figured we would do everything possible right from the start, to ensure conception. How do I prevent myself from becoming so obsessed with this & to just relax? Is anyone else in the same boat as me?

I'm so in the same boat as you except DH and I are NTNP. I haven't done any temping, charting, used preseed or mucinex at all. I think my TWW will officially begin tomorrow as well though! I'm pretty excited for it but since I'm not certain to when I will O or if I have O'd, we will continue with every other day until AF shows up or we get a

I'm having a hard time not obsessing over the whole thing to begin with, it took everything I had to not order some OPK's or chart but I really want a relax approach to this since it's our first month of NTNP. As for this TWW, I have a feeling I'm going to symptom spot everything and I don't know how I'm going to control myself with it all.

It's nice to know we both are beginning our TWW around the same time though! Maybe we could symptom spot together and hopefully not seem so crazy. Will you be testing on the 25th?

 

[Amber0522]

Hi! It's nice to know someone else is feeling the same way as I am!! I took an opk yesterday & it was positive & also had a positive today, so according to what I've read I will probably ovulate tomorrow, which means I can test around the 26th I'm going to be the same way with symptom spotting..I'm a nurse & I feel like I know my body very well, however not good enough, because if I hadn't been using OPK's/fertility monitoring, I would have thought I ovulated a lot earlier. Are you going to test on the first day possible? I agree we should share symptoms as they come up! Here's to BFP's for both of us
(BTW.. I just found out that the Dollar Tree has both pregnancy tests & ovulation tests for $1 each, so I stocked up!! Before that I was using expensive drug store brands that did the same thing, but I was more cautious in using them because of the price)

 

[Mommieh25]

Awwwwwww. Just remember it is a process. Try not to be so hard on yourself. But this is the place to be. We all obsess!!!!!!! Just vent it all out on us!

 

[JessP]

(BTW.. I just found out that the Dollar Tree has both pregnancy tests & ovulation tests for $1 each, so I stocked up!! Before that I was using expensive drug store brands that did the same thing, but I was more cautious in using them because of the price)

I know someone is going to see this and think it's crazy but the $1 ones actually do work! I know a couple friends that got a BFP with them on first try. If it wasn't for them I'd never believe it.. I mean I've spent $15 on two tests, definitely not the way to go. Get the $1 ones for sure!
(This is random but some Save-A-Lots also carry them.)

 

[Amber0522]

Awwwwwww. Just remember it is a process. Try not to be so hard on yourself. But this is the place to be. We all obsess!!!!!!! Just vent it all out on us!

Thankyou!! It really is nice to have a place like this to vent!! I'm trying to just relax & enjoy the process

 

[Amber0522]

(BTW.. I just found out that the Dollar Tree has both pregnancy tests & ovulation tests for $1 each, so I stocked up!! Before that I was using expensive drug store brands that did the same thing, but I was more cautious in using them because of the price)

I know someone is going to see this and think it's crazy but the $1 ones actually do work! I know a couple friends that got a BFP with them on first try. If it wasn't for them I'd never believe it.. I mean I've spent $15 on two tests, definitely not the way to go. Get the $1 ones for sure!
(This is random but some Save-A-Lots also carry them.)

I really couldn't believe it when I first heard it, but the OPK's work way better than the strips I bought at the drug store & I could just stock up because of the price! I did feel a little ridiculous carrying a basket of 15 OPK's & 5 PT's though..lol I haven't tried the dollar store PT's yet, but I'm sure they all work the same way!

 

[crazycatlady5]

I was going to ask if they are just as good!

I may have to try them out!

 

[Akirkland]

Hi! It's nice to know someone else is feeling the same way as I am!! I took an opk yesterday & it was positive & also had a positive today, so according to what I've read I will probably ovulate tomorrow, which means I can test around the 26th I'm going to be the same way with symptom spotting..I'm a nurse & I feel like I know my body very well, however not good enough, because if I hadn't been using OPK's/fertility monitoring, I would have thought I ovulated a lot earlier. Are you going to test on the first day possible? I agree we should share symptoms as they come up! Here's to BFP's for both of us
(BTW.. I just found out that the Dollar Tree has both pregnancy tests & ovulation tests for $1 each, so I stocked up!! Before that I was using expensive drug store brands that did the same thing, but I was more cautious in using them because of the price)

How exciting! If I don't end up with a this cycle I will end up getting some OPK's and temp just to see if I do ovulate. I had what I think was EWCM on CD 14 for me, so hoping that's a good sign that I do in fact O. So thanks for the tip that the dollar store has them for a dollar and it's good to hear they work.

I haven't decided when I will actually test, I know I want to wait until I miss AF but at the same time it's going to be so hard to not POAS as soon as I can. AF should be arriving on or around the 25th and since I nanny I will be busy that weekend, so if she doesn't show up by that evening on the 25th I think I will be testing then.

Good luck with your two week wait, there are tons of threads in that area to symptom spot with others.

 

[Amber0522]

I think I'm going to end up testing for sure..Just don't know which day..because..I keep taking OPK's looking for negative so I can pinpoint exactly when I O'd. I keep getting positives. I've read that sometimes it can mean you are dropping more than one egg. I'll just keep dtd until I get a negative I guess. My fertility monitor is still reading high also, so I don't know if it's multiple eggs, or just a long LH surge? Any thoughts? Also, If you're planning on this being a relaxing stress free try, you probably don't want to get involved with OPK's yet But they're a great option for when you're ready!

 

[Caseyren]

Hi there! We are TTC our 1st and this is the 1st month trying. I'm so excited and also very nervous. I started using OV tests around day 20 just in case and have been ever since, Just got my smiley face today (D27) we BD days 22,24, and 27. We'll do it again tonight and tomorrow!!! We also use pre-seed. I've heard so many success stories from it so I thought we should give it a try! My TWW will be right behind you guys.

I know this is our 1st month trying but I am an impatient person haha I know I need to relax. I decided not to tell anyone we're TTC so I thought I could find friends on here to talk to!

 

[MarriedAndTtc]

I feel the same way! My last test was October 2014 bc af didn't arrive and of course it was a bfn! Now I don't even want to test after the tww bc I'm afraid of the disappointment & my co-worker just told me this morning she got a bfp and not happy about it! *sigh* Baby dust to ALL!!!

 

[meg_bellamy]

Don't worry I bet I will be the same! I've snuck into these forums to see what's happening in here since I will be TTC #1 in a couple wks! I have been waiting for this for soooo long I am sure I will be OBSESSED and also devastated if I don't conceive first month haha.

 

[laura109]

The worst thing you can do is get obsessive. Its nature and its natural. So if you are fertile then you WILL become pregnant. It rarely happens first month. Took us 3-4 months. I did track stuff but i never checked cm or used any special lubricants. Your body already has everything it needs to conceive and carry. Its rare you csnt get pregnant. My sister in law has just had a baby girl in november. Ivf. But she has her baby. I am currently 37 weeks with my daughter.

You need to just enjoy and relax. Take folic acid and have sex! If in a few months time your not pregnant then try some extra bits and bobs but to be honest i think there abit of a money spinner. Your worrying on your first month of trying.

everyone around me took 3-4 months on average.

also i do recomend an app on your phone to make sure your tracking your periods. They will give you an expected ovulation date but id personally give or take a couple of days each side.

i had sex at different times of the day and fell pregnant quite easily when i look back.

although i felt like you... scared. Theres no reason you cant have a babu so get ready for the next stage of your life. Before you know it you will be huge and have a house full of baby stuff. Im just sitting around waiting for labour.... if only i knew a year ago where id be now xx