but how do you deal with a boss who isn't supportive?
I told my boss what happened (sent an email that stating I was having a difficult time with the news and would need a couple days off and would appreciate some privacy to grieve. If he needed me to email/text) and he emailed back that he was sorry, but it more like he had to say it than mean it. He called the next day to see when I was going back to work. When I called him back to tell him I was going to need a few days off he said okay than started questioning me, what happened, etc. I've only been at my job for 5 months and my boss is a man, so I'm not comfortable talking about such personal things, but especially right after and when I said I wasn't ready to discuss it. I was crying on the phone and it just wasn't comfortable. He said to be back at work on Monday. This was Friday, so Monday I'm back at work and he's calling me making sure I'm working, "not MIA" and asking me again how I'm dealing with it.
I feel like this is very insensitive and that he's making things much worse.
All this past week he's been calling making sure I was working and "riding me" which is making my life even more miserable because I feel like I'm supposed to be all normal again and I'm not. I didn't talk to him all Thursday and he sends an email that I'm not communicating enough with him and for me to call Friday am. I send a response and call him Friday as instructed but he didn't answer so I left a message and he never called back. Today (Sunday) I check my email as I had some computer work to finish and he sent me an email at 8am that I need to explain my low work volume and lack of communication last week and cc'd his boss as if he's trying to document my lack of performance/dedication.
I'm afraid that I'm going to get fired, and am now completely worried about trying to keep my job and also grieving over the loss of our baby. We feel that life starts at conception, so losing our baby is very hard. I worry that it will start a pattern like it has for so many other women, I worry if it was something I did, if there is something wrong with me, etc. Now I feel like I can't think about any of that because I can't screw up at all with my work.
help!
I told my boss what happened (sent an email that stating I was having a difficult time with the news and would need a couple days off and would appreciate some privacy to grieve. If he needed me to email/text) and he emailed back that he was sorry, but it more like he had to say it than mean it. He called the next day to see when I was going back to work. When I called him back to tell him I was going to need a few days off he said okay than started questioning me, what happened, etc. I've only been at my job for 5 months and my boss is a man, so I'm not comfortable talking about such personal things, but especially right after and when I said I wasn't ready to discuss it. I was crying on the phone and it just wasn't comfortable. He said to be back at work on Monday. This was Friday, so Monday I'm back at work and he's calling me making sure I'm working, "not MIA" and asking me again how I'm dealing with it.
I feel like this is very insensitive and that he's making things much worse.
All this past week he's been calling making sure I was working and "riding me" which is making my life even more miserable because I feel like I'm supposed to be all normal again and I'm not. I didn't talk to him all Thursday and he sends an email that I'm not communicating enough with him and for me to call Friday am. I send a response and call him Friday as instructed but he didn't answer so I left a message and he never called back. Today (Sunday) I check my email as I had some computer work to finish and he sent me an email at 8am that I need to explain my low work volume and lack of communication last week and cc'd his boss as if he's trying to document my lack of performance/dedication.
I'm afraid that I'm going to get fired, and am now completely worried about trying to keep my job and also grieving over the loss of our baby. We feel that life starts at conception, so losing our baby is very hard. I worry that it will start a pattern like it has for so many other women, I worry if it was something I did, if there is something wrong with me, etc. Now I feel like I can't think about any of that because I can't screw up at all with my work.
help!