Protection From Abuse

[112110]

I have NO idea where to post this so I'm posting in a few places

Okay basically I want to file for a pfa against FOB for LO and I. I am afraid that if I file for one and it somehow is denied that FOB will get even worse like how he was when we were together.

Can someone give me an opinion? (I live in PA)
When we were together I wasn't allowed to have any form of communication with anyone except him. He would call me at random times and just scream at me for hours. If I didn't text back within 10-15 minutes he would get mad at me.. He would force me into sex even if I was crying and saying no or shrugging him off. When LO was born he smoked pot in the bathroom. He came to see LO 3 times while his month stay at hospital. He smoked/smokes pot every day, and deals as well. He has a criminal background and is apparently on probation. He doesn't pay his child support, his Granparents do (it even says so on the agreement). A little before we broke up we were arguing and he stood in my doorway looked me in the eyes and told me 'I'm going to beat the living shit out of you'. I have never told him he is not allowed to see LO. He didn't see him at all until this summer when I contacted his Grandparents and they set it up. I take LO to his Grandparents house (where he lives) once a week and LO and I stay for 2-3 hours. He is 19 I am 17.

He texted me on the 13th of November and I'll enclose the conversation in a spoiler.

He will be in blue, I will be red. Also for confusion sake Danielle is his girlfriend of 1 month [she is also on probation apparently], Brayden is our LO, Dillon is my boyfriend of 7 months, Pap = Grandfather.

Spoiler

'I think Danielle should be allowed to see OUR son if your boyfriend can be around him'
'I think nah'
'You're completely unreasonable, please explain why '
'There are plenty of reasons why, but really I do not need to explain myself to you. '
'You kinda do, because he is our son, so stop being a selfish bitch and explain thank you.'
'Otherwise, we're talking to an attorney if something doesn't change '
'You can hardly call him that. A father maybe, a parent not at all. You know nothing. Thank you.'
'I can barely call him that because of YOU. I don't want to hear it. And either way I'm bringing my girlfriend around him sometime, it's only fair. If not, we'll see an attorney'
'LOL you're funny. good luck wasting your grandparents money on an attorney in which you will lose. sad huh.'
'You get your fucking child support, I have rights now too. So keep denying him from me, please.'
'Denying him from you? Please tell me when I did this.'
'Okay we will see good luck you ugly bitch.'
'Exactly you have nothing to say. Thank you for going our of your way to try to make Brayden and my lives hell hope she's worth it!'
'You're very welcome, I plan on trying to make yours hell and pap just confirmed we WILL be seeing an attorney. See you later, bitch '
'Okay have fun! Bye '

He has been posting things about me on Facebook which I got screenshots of which I will also put in a spoiler. He is a pathological liar, none of what he is posting is true. I have made 3-4 status updates in the past 7 months none talking shit on him.

Spoiler

https://i349.photobucket.com/albums/q368/lyzzbaby/loganisgay.png
https://i349.photobucket.com/albums/q368/lyzzbaby/faggggggg.png
https://i349.photobucket.com/albums/q368/lyzzbaby/fag.png

 

[DukesAngel]

wow. This guy sounds like a piece of work. What is the current custody agreement?

 

[Laura2919]

Well I think sometimes you both wind each other up so you or him need to learn to stop. I cant see it being him because he sounds like he is hell bent on making your life hard. Just ignore him, keep all the screenshots and messages and let him take you to court. You wont lose against him. All those nasty comments and him saying he will make your life hell. They dont look good.

 

[JA1988]

Firstly I would delete and block him from facebook and any other type of instant messaging like msn etc. Keep the communication to bare minimum as it is clear you both just rile each other and it is in no way productive. In regards to his gf, unless she is proven unsuitable to be around a child, he has every right to introduce her to his son but it should be a gradual process and only if he sees his relationship with Danielle being long term. Similarly I would say the same in regards to Brayden spending time with your new bf. If he wants to take you to court, let him, as long as you are not actually refusing access then you have nothing to worry about. I would just make sure you have a set visitation schedule in place, put it in writing and if fob doesn't stick to it then you can prove you tried. His comments are uncalled for and immature and clearly not much is achieved from conversations like the above so just cut the communication out and leave the ball in fob's court in regards to sticking to the contact schedule.