question about wierd cycles..............

[littlesara]

hi. ok ladies, i've been on here before, i'm the one that had like a 100 day cycle! so, anyways, here's the recap:

i finally had, what i thought was my AF in Dec, but it only lasted 1 day, no need for any protection, so light. so I went ahead and counted that as a new cycle, and took Soy from CD3-7, and then after about 10 days, i felt, what I thought was O pains, around 12/30, so on 12/31 we , and we did several times within those 2 weeks, so here I am, on CD31 I guess, AF was due yesterday. and no AF!!! again, all tests are BFN again, and yes, due to my age, 43, I may be peri-meno!!!! so anyways, my question is? can I take something, herbal/natural, to relieve me of my stupid hot flashes, that won't interfere with a possible PG, since i don't know if I am or not?? when I take Provera, i never get my AF but my hot flashes disappear!!! but I don't want to take that, just something natural. also, i walk about 2-4 miles a day, and I have yet to lose any weight! I'm sure it's hormonal imbalance that is making me retain weight. but if I could post a pic, i look, in my stomach and lower stomach area, i look about 4 months PG! no kidding! everybody is commenting on it and asking me "what's up?". and I have no good news to tell them. Hubby and I have agreed that we will keep trying till I turn 44 and that's it. so what do I do??? count any bleeding as a new cycle? even if it is only spotting? and take something herbal for my hot flashes? cause I'm going nuts!!!!!please advise thanks........................

 

[littlesara]

finally got the pic uploaded. here is a current pic, so hopefully someone can help me with advice, or suggestions. thanks so much.

 

[tx614]

I would make a doctor's appointment and just try an ultra sound. I had a friend who swore she was pregnant but all the tests kept coming back negative and she only had spotting also. She went to the doctor and his test also said negative but she insisted on an ultra sound and sure enough there was the baby's heart beat. I think the doc would rule in or out if you are pregnant and even if you aren't you can talk to him about your irregular cycles and he may have some good advice or know what to take! Hope this helps! Babydust to you!!

 

[littlesara]

thank you so much for your quick reply! i really appreciate it. it means alot to me. my hubby just doesn't understand what i am going thru right now. but you ladies do. so that means alot to me. yes i will contact the doc. again, unfortunately, i have the worst benefits, so they won't do an ultrasound at all. not even a blood test. everything has to be cash if i want that. so i will do some research. do you know of any herbal/natural stuff to take to stimulate my AF/and get rid of my hot flashes?

 

[tx614]

From a friend I have heard Chinese Angelica, Parsley, and ginger help! I have also heard that exercise helps. I haven't tried either though.

I also found these on the web:
https://www.sisterzeus.com/delayedmen.htm
and
https://www.livestrong.com/article/96353-herbs-make-menstrual-cycle-come/