Question for mummies re nights out (sorry it turned into a bit of a rant!)

[suzanne108]

When did you first have a night out since having your LO? Or since FOB leaving?

My friends seem to think its easy for me to just dump Lola on my mum so that I can go out for the night. Actually the last thing I want to do is go get drunk and if my mum said she'd look after Lola for the night all I'd want to do is curl up in bed with a book or a dvd lol, then get 8 hours much needed SLEEP!! Lola is such a bad sleeper that it wouldn't be fair to leave her with my mum especially to go out doing something I don't wanna do!!

Just feeling a bit at the moment. I feel so lonely my friends don't understand at all that my life has changed. I keep asking them to do things at weekends in the daytimes and they always say they are doing something else but free thurs night or fri night...always nights!

I can't even have them here when Lola is in bed because although her bedtime routine starts at 6.30-7 she constantly wakes up until about 9-10pm. And it isn't just a quick 5 minutes while I settle her, it can take half an hour.

I've explained all this to them but they don't seem to be taking it in.

Sorry it wasn't supposed to turn into a rant! They are just making me feel abnormal for not being able to go out?

I've kinda given up contacting them anymore because I just can't be bothered with it. But then Saturday I was in tears on my mum because I've got no friends anymore and just feel so lonely

I wish there was a bnb-er that lived near me

Thanks for getting this far!

 

[sophxx]

aww im so sorry hun! i know exactl where your comeing from with friends my friends dont bother with me at all now! have you not tryed going to the manchester meet? theres one every month?? i only live about 20 min from manchester if you ever want to meet for a look round the shops! x

 

[sweetlullaby]

Massive massive hugs hun

I know how you feel and wish there was a bnber that lived closer to me!

I've been out a couple of times but only for a few hours. Last time was a friend's house party and I was home for midnight. No one understood that I still had to get up the next morning and be a mummy!
I've had the few remaining friends I have here a couple of times in the evenings it isn't too bad but then again we have a very late bedtime that a certain little monster won't let me bring back any earlier But even then they're kind of drifting away. One actually gave me a bollocking for not replying to a text message that I completely forgot about because I was busy!
I know what you mean I get text messages from some friends and Im kind of like...we have nothing in common anymore really and don't know what to reply!
One of my friends has a baby a couple of weeks younger and even havn't heard a peep from her I text her to meet up a couple of weeks ago and she never replied lol
Then if one texts to meet up during the day for coffee with us they are ALWAYS really late etc and I end up having to change and feed before we get out anywhere

 

[miss.kayleigh]

hey hun, i feel the same as you u lost all of my mates because i'm not interested in going out anymore and none of them have babies! i would rather spend my time with lo and when he does stay i just want to sleep lol...
it's horrible feeling lonely *hugs*
i see you're not far from me though! where abouts in manchester are you? xx

 

[bloodbinds]

Yeah a lot of my friends don't really 'get it' either :-/ I have one friend who is pretty good with it a lot of the time, and understands, but she goes to uni in wales so is rarely around (is now for the summer though, yay!) but she can still be a little useless. Like when we meet up for coffee i give a time that is going to be best for Bella re naps and feeding, and then she calls me two seconds before i'm about to leave the house and says 'ohh, i'm going to be half an hour late, maybe more' - URGH!

Come live in Birmingham Suz!! We'd have so much fun!! :-D
My sister keeps asking if she can babysit, but i'm not too sure about it at the moment, for some reason Bella has started waking up in the night :-/ and even if she didnt she would need a feed early in the morning (usually about 6/7) and she won't take a bottle so she wouldnt be able to be fed! :-/ Urgh

 

[sweetlullaby]

Yeah a lot of my friends don't really 'get it' either :-/ I have one friend who is pretty good with it a lot of the time, and understands, but she goes to uni in wales so is rarely around (is now for the summer though, yay!) but she can still be a little useless. Like when we meet up for coffee i give a time that is going to be best for Bella re naps and feeding, and then she calls me two seconds before i'm about to leave the house and says 'ohh, i'm going to be half an hour late, maybe more' - URGH!

Come live in Birmingham Suz!! We'd have so much fun!! :-D
My sister keeps asking if she can babysit, but i'm not too sure about it at the moment, for some reason Bella has started waking up in the night :-/ and even if she didnt she would need a feed early in the morning (usually about 6/7) and she won't take a bottle so she wouldnt be able to be fed! :-/ Urgh

That is what drives me insane!!! I get it all the time!! Met up with a friend two weeks ago she didn't appear until half 4 in the afternoon!

 

[lou_w34]

I get lonely too, i guess its hard for our friends to understand when they are not parents... wish they would at least try though!!

We soooooo need a single mummy meet! Why cant you all live near me!!!!!


xxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

Agreed completly on a single mummy meet! We so should!! Try and do it central to everyone lol

Just think of the postives though... when our friends have babies our children will be older and we will be out and about doing our own thing while they're not doing anything lol

 

[lou_w34]

Me and suzanne had a go at looking where would be central to everyone and it is soooo much harder than i thought!

We really are here, there and everywhere!!

Maybe we could do a poll and see where people are prepared to travel too??

xxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

Yeah that would be a great idea! I'd be flying or boat either way so anywhere for me really I guess!

 

[suzanne108]

Why are we all so spread out?! Its not fair

I'm well up for a single mummy meet though lets do it!!

Pip - you're gonna have to stop telling me to move there. I might do it one day, then you'll regret it never be able to get rid of me

Dunno if I can see all the posts on here....my user CP says last reply was sweetlullaby at 12.32 but I can't see that post?!

 

[teal]

I'm also feeling that my friends don't understand. Sometimes I'll be invited out on really short notice and I can't just up and go with LO.

 

[lou_w34]

Why are we all so spread out?! Its not fair

I'm well up for a single mummy meet though lets do it!!

Pip - you're gonna have to stop telling me to move there. I might do it one day, then you'll regret it never be able to get rid of me

Dunno if I can see all the posts on here....my user CP says last reply was sweetlullaby at 12.32 but I can't see that post?!

And me!!!

 

[sweetlullaby]

Ohhh my posts have turned ghost like

Been happening to me past few days on some posts!

 

[suzanne108]

I can see it since I posted

 

[sweetlullaby]