Pink_Witch
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i was wondering among other things -do you make up a packed lunch for your 16+ or do they make their own/take money etc
Our 16 year old (17 in may) seems to prefer being treated like her younger brothers and sisters instead of being treated like a young adult and its driving hubby and i nuts!! and nothing we say to her seems to make a bit of difference!!.
This morning for example she was leaning against the wall in the front room coat and shoes on,bag over her shoulder ready for college at 8.20-so hubby said to her-'why dont you go?' "i havent got to be there til 9.10" was her reply,so he said 'well how long does it take you?'......."half hour" she said........so hubby said to her about going instead of leaning against the wall waiting for us to tell her to go- go in the rec and have drink or something if you get there and its a bit early......"ok, thank you" she said......thank you WTF???!!!
She rarely eats breakfast off her own back...but if she sees her younger brothers and sisters (10,9,6) have cereal shell ask for it, but otherwise she doesnt bother.
We have been saying to her for a year about getting herself a little part time job, but unless you actually take her over town and point out job ads in the shop window,and tell her to go and ask she just doesnt bother!! I know its hard to get a job-but its even harder to find one if you just arent bothering to look for one-they wont come knocking on the front door for you with a job offer!!
By the time i was her age i had a part time job all day saturday and sunday and was earning my own money as well as doing a full time catering course!! (not 9 til 3 ,3 days a week and 2 days placement like she does!!) mine was 9-5, 4 days a week and the other day was either a 7am start or a 10pm finish!!
Instead of looking for a job during the summer holidays she was happier to go off to the playscheme with the other kids........sorry but for me if i had been the only 16 year old there on the 1st day i wouldnt have gone again but it didnt seem to bother her one bit, that all the other kids her age were either working or out with their mates!!
At night we say to the little ones about 7.30-8pm come on its bed time.......the 15 year old makes it look to the little ones like he is getting ready to go up, but doesnt and he plays on the xbox with his dad til about 9-10 but she trots off quite happily to bed with the little ones!!
She has eczema for which she has cream etc for it-but unless you tell her to put it on she doesnt bother, she only showers if she is told,brushes her teeth if she is told etc. I dont even have to tell the little ones what to do all the time!!
We saw her best friend in the shopping centre the other day,she is 3 months younger than dd is and we didnt recognise her-she has a job as a full time travel agent apprentice and she looked so smart and grown up its only because she spoke to us first that we knew it was her!!
I really dont know why she is like this-i know i certanly wasnt as immature as she is at that age, and it is really driving us nuts-she will only do something if you tell her to do it and even then you have to give her step by step precise instructions otherwise it doesnt get done right...........her 15 year old brother is the total opposite of her you can tell him something once and it will get done right 1st time-which is a major acheivement as he is dyspraxic, so he has had to work harder than she ever has to get where he is today!!!
Out of all the kids she is the one you have to baby the most and its getting to be a right pain in the a$$ !!!!!
we have tried asking her if there is anything wrong, is she unhappy etc etc, even my best friend has tried talking to her-but she insists everything is ok
are anyone elses 16+'s like this???
goodness me this turned into quite an essay...give yourself a shiney if you got this far xxx
Our 16 year old (17 in may) seems to prefer being treated like her younger brothers and sisters instead of being treated like a young adult and its driving hubby and i nuts!! and nothing we say to her seems to make a bit of difference!!.
This morning for example she was leaning against the wall in the front room coat and shoes on,bag over her shoulder ready for college at 8.20-so hubby said to her-'why dont you go?' "i havent got to be there til 9.10" was her reply,so he said 'well how long does it take you?'......."half hour" she said........so hubby said to her about going instead of leaning against the wall waiting for us to tell her to go- go in the rec and have drink or something if you get there and its a bit early......"ok, thank you" she said......thank you WTF???!!!
She rarely eats breakfast off her own back...but if she sees her younger brothers and sisters (10,9,6) have cereal shell ask for it, but otherwise she doesnt bother.
We have been saying to her for a year about getting herself a little part time job, but unless you actually take her over town and point out job ads in the shop window,and tell her to go and ask she just doesnt bother!! I know its hard to get a job-but its even harder to find one if you just arent bothering to look for one-they wont come knocking on the front door for you with a job offer!!
By the time i was her age i had a part time job all day saturday and sunday and was earning my own money as well as doing a full time catering course!! (not 9 til 3 ,3 days a week and 2 days placement like she does!!) mine was 9-5, 4 days a week and the other day was either a 7am start or a 10pm finish!!
Instead of looking for a job during the summer holidays she was happier to go off to the playscheme with the other kids........sorry but for me if i had been the only 16 year old there on the 1st day i wouldnt have gone again but it didnt seem to bother her one bit, that all the other kids her age were either working or out with their mates!!
At night we say to the little ones about 7.30-8pm come on its bed time.......the 15 year old makes it look to the little ones like he is getting ready to go up, but doesnt and he plays on the xbox with his dad til about 9-10 but she trots off quite happily to bed with the little ones!!
She has eczema for which she has cream etc for it-but unless you tell her to put it on she doesnt bother, she only showers if she is told,brushes her teeth if she is told etc. I dont even have to tell the little ones what to do all the time!!
We saw her best friend in the shopping centre the other day,she is 3 months younger than dd is and we didnt recognise her-she has a job as a full time travel agent apprentice and she looked so smart and grown up its only because she spoke to us first that we knew it was her!!
I really dont know why she is like this-i know i certanly wasnt as immature as she is at that age, and it is really driving us nuts-she will only do something if you tell her to do it and even then you have to give her step by step precise instructions otherwise it doesnt get done right...........her 15 year old brother is the total opposite of her you can tell him something once and it will get done right 1st time-which is a major acheivement as he is dyspraxic, so he has had to work harder than she ever has to get where he is today!!!
Out of all the kids she is the one you have to baby the most and its getting to be a right pain in the a$$ !!!!!
we have tried asking her if there is anything wrong, is she unhappy etc etc, even my best friend has tried talking to her-but she insists everything is ok
are anyone elses 16+'s like this???
goodness me this turned into quite an essay...give yourself a shiney if you got this far xxx