I am 37w3d and decided to check for dilation. My doctor said at my last appointment that I am 2cm dilated, but I wanted to see for myself. I read that your cervix is at the end and is soft like pursed lips that you can slip a finger in. When I tried to find mine, I reached way far back and it felt as though my vagina was never ending. I felt around everywhere but could find nothing. Then I noticed a rough patch that was a ring inside my vagina, tight like a rubber band, that I could squeeze 3 fingers through(maybe more). Is this my cervix and why the heck does it have a hard border? I don't think it is because everyone says it should be soft. What does your cervix feel like when dilated? Is it open like a mouth or closed lips that can stretch to fit more fingers? Will there be a wall directly after you poke through the cervix or more squish? Can you reach too far and pass the cervix? I don't get it at all! Can someone explain with details how a dilated cervix feels, the rim, inside and out?!