Ramblings about my day

[JASMAK]

Well, it all started with my "busy body neighbour" who I for some regrettable reason, decided to tell her that I was pregnant back in Oct. I wasn't feeling well that day and she had invited me over for tea. Turns out I m/c later that same day, and I think that was why I felt so ill (I always feel ill right before I m/c). Since then, she is constantly on me about things. "Am I pregnant?", "When am I going to just give up?", and the like. This morning she goes at me again, and this time the usual shit. "when, why, how" and then just laid it in to me that I should just give up and how I am crazy, and how she just had two and that's good enough for her. I kept trying to change the subject, but she wouldn't let it go. My husband was with me, but didn't say a word about it. That hurt too. I figured that he would tell her to eff off or something, but he didn't say anything to her or me until we got in the car. Then he just said that he was surprised that I didn't kill her. I was so upset that I just wanted to cry, but also angry too. How dare she? She doesn't know what this is like. It's not like I want this baby less because it is not my first!!! Is that what she thinks! How would she like it if when she was TTC her children someone told her that she was crazy and that she should just give up? Now add that with the fact that I can't even get pregnant on my own, and when I do get pregnant on Comid, I lose the baby. Surely she must know how much she hurt me. I think she knows at least a little. So, I have decided that I am going to tell her that we aren't TTC anymore. I am sorry that I ever confided in her in the first place, and I will never trust or talk to her about babies ever again. Oh...then I go home later, POAS on a digital "Not Pregnant" just to add insult to injury. Pffft!

 

[FJL]

I think if you just be really blunt with her and tell her that her comments aren't helping, that you don't appreciate being judged on this and that this has nothing to do with her it might make her shut her big mouth.

Some people just need to be told in a black and white way...ignorance!

 

[maz]

If she caught me on a bad / assertive / baulchy day, I would probably tell her to sod off, and tell her that she has no right to say the things she is saying, and that it is none of her business. But then again, get me on a quiet day and I'd probably just tell her that she was right and that we have stopped ttc.

I hate the way people feel the need to pass unrequested comments on our personal lives. Why can't people just think for a split second before passing comments???

for you ...

 

[Kitty23]

eugh I hate people like that. There are some people who are just tactless and don't mean to be insensitive and then there are other who just don't give a crap about other peoples feelings and know they are being insensitive. I think your neighbours the latter.

Obviously I havent ever had a child, but I can't imagine how upsetting it must be when people try and tell you what you have is enough. Having one child or two already doesnt stop the pain and emptyness now does it.

I'd like to think that I would tell her to eff off, but in reality I would probably nod and say we've stopped trying. Why can't people just be nice and non judgemental?! My brother in law ( sisters hubby) knows knew full well we'd been trying over a year asked me infront of everyone when I was " going to get up the duff" and that " I needed a real man to do it" wow. Such pearls of wisdom on my wedding day! It's sad that we have to keep things like ttc to people we really trust, it would be nice to ave a bit of support xxxxx