Random non-ntnp question

[LilMiss_91]

Does it bother you if your oh watches porn?

I know to a lot of people this will sound really stupid, but I'm not comfortable with my oh watching it. To me it's kind of like perving on other girls which I believe you shouldn't do when you're in a relationship. I always think the point of porn is to put yourself in that person's place, and basically imagine yourself in that scenario, obviously with the other person.

I don't feel like I'm allowed to feel this way I feel really stupid for it

 

[me222]

hi LilMis..I'm sorry no one has responded to you as yet.
Of course it's wrong. Why do you feel like you shouldn't feel that way? It's lusting after another man/woman when you should only desire your husband (or in a man's case, your wife).

 

[LilMiss_91]

Hi me222, thanks for replying to me, was starting to feel a bit alone on this :/
Because I know a lot of men (and women obvs) watch it regardless of their relationship status. My oh argued about it yesterday and he doesn't see the problem in it, he thinks normal and doesn't understand my point of view I'm insecure enough about my physical attractiveness without knowing he's watching "perfect" girls in that kind of way

 

[Enasy]

I don't see the harm in it. My partner and I watch it alone and together all the time. It's just a movie. If u see someone watching a war movie u don't automatically think they are going to go join the army. It's just a bit of fun just cos your partner is watching porn doesn't mean he wants to go else where

 

[MommyNikki]

Okay---My personal view on it is....if we are watching it together because we are BD'ing and wanna spice it up, Fine. If I am on the computer and see porn in the history...not cool.

Guys will be guys tho...just as long as its a once in a while type of thing...if it gets to be too much, i would voice how you feel.

 

[Girly922]

I'm with you lilmiss_91 on this one. I'm insecure about my appearance and just really don't like the thought of OH watching it alone. We've never watched it together, call me a prude, but it's not really my thing. I have friends that watch it with their OHs, I have nothing against it. I just feel porn doesn't have a place in our relationship.

Does that make sense?

 

[ReynoldsV]

Hey ladies. This looked interesting. My DH and I have had problems with my physical appearance, (well he does) because I am a little overweight. He doesn't love me less, he just wants me to be in shape. I have argued with him. He is right, but he shouldn't even think it. He feels bad every time I bring it up. Anyway, he doesn't watch porn. Not that I know of anyway. We are together ALL the time and he never does. I have asked him if he wants to, and he says "sure" but isn't much for it. This was my attempt at spicing up the sex life. Anyway, I guess what I am getting at is, if he watched if before you guys got together, it may just be customary for him. Strange as that sounds. I have done research, and a lot of the time, it doesn't mean they don't love you. It just means that they like the "solo" thing. So long as he isn't degrading you or neglecting you, I don't think you have anything to worry about.

You may want to try a different approach. Ask him if he would like for you to watch it with him. Another thing you could do is suggest that you do what you are watching. It could get him more interested in you than in the porn.

I understand the whole jealousy thing because of insecurities. I've been there. It sucks. If he does it, you could do it too. If he catches you. Respond the way he does. In a way, he will get a taste of his own medicine. If its not affecting your sex life/marriage, don't be sad girl. If porn isn't your cup of tea, try coming to an agreement with him. Or look into it yourself if you are curious. I was always against it. I looked into it because my DH told me he had seen it and it was "just what guys do" and it wasn't that bad. You can find "nice" porn. Lol sounds crazy I know! But its not all bad and disgusting. There are things like Kama Sutra.

I hope I helped a little.