Random OH rant...not mine :)

[ovetta2001]

I just had to randomly rant about the amout of times I've read on these forums about peoples OHs not wanting to be in the delivery room because they have a low pain/blood tolarence, don't want to see their partner in pain...blah blah blah.


I think I would smack my man if he tried that on me...

If it was only that easy for us! After already going though over 9 months of pregnancy woes then we may have to do it without our OHs too.

I so wish I could just be like:
'Yes dear - I know exactly how you feel. I think I might just sit this one out too and just pop in after the baby is born'

 

[Emma&Freya]

Id go mad if my OH done that to me.

If he did, Id have my Mum in with me and I would make sure he had no news until baby was born.

Takes 2 to Tango!

 

[JohnsPrincess]

Lol, when I hear things like that it drives me crazy. My Dh would never attempt that, in fact, he enjoys medical things, lol.

 

[ovetta2001]

My OH doesn't get 'blehhh' about stuff like that. He is more curous than anything which sometimes is annoying when he is there for my PAP smear and is trying to look at what the doc is doing...

 

[Sherileigh]

I saw this on baby story once, the guy had to leave when she was getting her epidural. And then when he so bravely entered the room again while she was in labour, she was soooo concerned about him as he was playing the whole thing up, sitting down, head in hands. It was pathetic!!
I complaint about it on my status on FB! lol.

 

[JohnsPrincess]

My OH doesn't get 'blehhh' about stuff like that. He is more curous than anything which sometimes is annoying when he is there for my PAP smear and is trying to look at what the doc is doing...

Mine is the same way. LOL. He's like, "Well, I've never seen something like that!!" Very curious. But it's fine, I don't mind! LOL

 

[BackwoodsBarB]

yeah, i can't understand that either. my BF was asking way more questions during the u/s then i did. i was just amazed at seeing the baby for the first time, and he was a complete chatterbox.

i can relate about the curious/annoying behavior, tho. he was riveted during the internal exam....i can only imagine how he's going to be during the delivery. lol.

 

[Zodiac]

When I had my daughter the nurses had actually asked my husband to step out of the room when they gave me the epi (wasn't my husband yet...actually this was 14yrs ago) anyway....

My husband is very squimish about blood, pain, surgery, etc... But he will do the same thing with this delivery that he did with the last. Stay right near my head and don't look down!!

 

[SeaThreePeeO]

I have to say that I have been lucky with my DH as he comes over all faint during blood tests. Yet he was there when our daughter was born via elective c-section. At one point when they had difficulty getting the canula to take for my IV fluids, it looked like he might need the smelling salts. But he got through it.

Also when we lost our baby in February and I heamorraged quite badly, he really stepped up and was amazing. Called for the ambulance and helped the paramedics. He told me later that when he finally got home after I was kept in over night he finally came over all woozy and had to lie down.

 

[tlh97990]

my OH has told me that he wasnt going to be in the room when i had LO and i told him he was either in the room or he'd be dead because I don't get an option and created just as much of this little girl as me so he will be there. he says he was just joking and would never just miss it since its both of our first and most likely last but i told him id have him tied down because i aint going through it alone!

 

[Amethyste]

Lol, My OH doesn't particularly like hospitals and the view of blood but even at 9 months pregnant and in labour I would drag him to the delivery room myself and tie it on a chair next to me if he tells me he want to wait outside! He doesn' have to look if he doesn't want (he said he won't, lol) to but i don't think i would forgive him if he isn't in the delivery room without a VERY VERY VERY good reason.

 

[Torontogal]

Ummm.. am I totally alone in NOT wanting my husband with me? He has never even seen me going to the washroom, let alone this. I feel that if he was there I would spend the whole time being worried about his feelings whether he was grossed out/faint/feeling bad for me, whatever. Basically I would feel compelled to just sit there nicely during labour and keep sweet for him and I would not really be free to do whatever I need to do (get into undignified positions, make noise, whatever). I would basically be much more concerned about him than I would be myself, and I think this is one time in my life where I need and deserve to be free of such concerns.

I am really sad about the trend toward having husbands in the delivery room, I want mine in the waiting room where I feel he belongs and where he would have been a few generations ago. But in this day and age I feel like I don't have a right to keep him from the room so I am torn. If he opted out I would be SOOOO RELIEVED! I don't want anyone that I know there, just the midwives.

 

[Housewife83]

Ummm.. am I totally alone in NOT wanting my husband with me? He has never even seen me going to the washroom, let alone this. I feel that if he was there I would spend the whole time being worried about his feelings whether he was grossed out/faint/feeling bad for me, whatever. Basically I would feel compelled to just sit there nicely during labour and keep sweet for him and I would not really be free to do whatever I need to do (get into undignified positions, make noise, whatever). I would basically be much more concerned about him than I would be myself, and I think this is one time in my life where I need and deserve to be free of such concerns.

I am really sad about the trend toward having husbands in the delivery room, I want mine in the waiting room where I feel he belongs and where he would have been a few generations ago. But in this day and age I feel like I don't have a right to keep him from the room so I am torn. If he opted out I would be SOOOO RELIEVED! I don't want anyone that I know there, just the midwives.

I'm not too fussed about having my OH in the room either. As far as I know he isn't squemish, but he isn't the ideal birthing partner either. He isn't assertive enough and tends to go along with what he is told. I want someone with me who will communicate well with the midwives and fight to get attention for me if I need it.

So I'm having my Mum. I know she is good in these situations because she's had a baby and she's assisted at a few births so she knows what to expect. Plus I figure she's already seen me shit myself so there can't be much of an issue there!

OH will be there but if he wants to step out of the room he can.

 

[Torontogal]

Haha, glad I'm not alone then. In all likelihood hubby will opt out, fingers crossed. It crossed my mind to have my mom there for some of the reasons you mentioned but my mom is a bit hyper-critical so I'm afraid I would get a lecture about how I'm not pushing right or something!