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Sorry ladies just need to vent my feelings!!!

Had a lovely day yesterday, had chatted explained to o/h that I wanted to feed Olivia as long as she wanted and he was totally supportive!!!

Went to visit o/h dad and step mum after lunch, just chatting about Olivia when convo turned to feeding. Step mum in law pipes up 'we have been thinking about how Olivia feeds..... (erm ok) and we believe you should start dropping the breast feeds for formula as Olivia wil have teeth soon' : saywhat:

I just laughed at the time but it is really winding me up now!!!!

 

[Serene123]

Everyone always suggested I stopped. They do it even more now...

The best one is just to act shocked like you thought you never had to stop (got that off Samantha )

 

[wishingonastar]

i'm sure you already realise it but it's completely YOUR choice when you stop BF. Just nod, smile and take it in one ear and out the other as much as you can

Cheeky mare...it's your blimming baby!!!

 

[Logiebear]

Silly cow is all I can say. How dare she? What the f does it have to do with her how you feed your baby!! Bet she bottle fed her kids!!

 

[Mervs Mum]

'We've been thinking.....' I dunno if I should be or

Nah lets just go for

 

[mari72]

certainly when it comes to babies everybody else seems to think they know better than the new mum and they all seem to be quite vocal about their superior knowledge!! My mil told me that i had to think of everyone when i told her that i hoped to bf ellis until at least a year!! As far as i am concerned i only have to think of Ellis and myself-although if she continues waking up 4 times a night she'll be lucky if she gets booby milk for 6 months (only 3 weeks to go) ha ha

 

[Blah11]

how rude.

I'm approaching the 6 month mark and am starting to receive the 'when are you stopping?' comments I just say when she self weans. If she stops tomorrow I'll be devestated but go with the flow but if shes still BFing at 18 months then thats fine with me too


p.s. why are they so concerned about your boobies and her teeth?! Not as if they'll feel it IF she bites!

 

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Thanks Ladies,

Everyone in my family seems to have an opinion on breastfeeding, even though none of them have ever done it

My o/h step mum has never had her own children and though she is the most supoortive person around sometimes she can be overbearing with her comments.

It just makes me mad that where ever I turn someone has an opinion on how I feed my child. My mum wanted me to stop breastfeeding when Olivia was goin through a growth spurt as she seemed to think I wasnt filling her . I have nothing against formula and when I return to work, if Olivia is still havig feeds in the day at creche she will be having formula then.

I think she seems to think that because Olivia is drooling lots that she is teething and that she may bite me when they come through (I will cross that bridge when I come to it lol).

One friend of mine commented on how randomly Olivia fed through the day and said that I would have more of a routine if she was bottle fed. I explained that I didnt mind Olivia having no routine in the day as she has just started sleeping from 9.00pm until 6.00am and that was why she fed so much through the day. She kept quiet after that

I am not sure if it is just to do with bf but I feel I have to constantly explain and justify my choices/decisions to everyone who doesnt agree with me.

 

[Blah11]

I find that people who havent BFd before dont really understand it and the unknown is a bit 'scary' to them IYKWIM?

 

[Mervs Mum]

I think the problem with family, especially mums and MILs, is that if you do anything differently to them be it feeding, weaning, discipline etc they take it as you indirectly saying that they did it wrong or your way is better iysiwm.

My Mum is amazing. I am doing almost everything differently to her and she totally embraces it as a learning process. I'm so lucky. My MIL on the other hand likes to tell me how she ALWAYS listened her her mother's advice and how her mother was ALWAYS right........and then gives her her pearls of wisdom which I think she thinks I will take as ALWAYS being right......YAWN.....

 

[Hope22]

God people are nosey! You stop when the two of you are ready, not a moment sooner. Darwin is six months now and we're also getting the 'you're still BFing?!' comments on occasion. I tell them that the doctor said we should continue until he's a year old, and so far that's worked on everyone - who is going to argue with a doctor? Best part is it's true, she actually did say that. If pressed, I tell people I'll stop when HE'S ready, not when anyone else says so.