RANT!!! arguing about the dog?

[Samantha87]

UGH sorry i have to rant again. This is really bothering me right now. Me and OH were just talking about having children and I mentioned that Im nervous about keeping his dog around the baby...because the dog is very aggressive and snaps and bites at little children all the time, he is also very territorial . He has even bitten me when I was in the car telling him to sit down and stop moving around.So anyhooo on to my point, I said to OH that we would have to do something about the dog, maybe let him stay with my OH'S parents which is where we all live now, and they love the dog... He replies with, the dog is not going anywhere, and of course I was like I dont trust him near children....and I dont want him near mine. OH proceeded to say, well i dont know what to tell you the dog is not going anywhere. So then of course I got mad, And said ok...sooo you would pick your dog over your own child. ........Then he just walked away....
Hence why now Im in another room....I dont really want to be near him right now
Thanks for listening!!!! needed to rant

 

[WTTMommy]

awww

I'm sure if he had a LO and watched him/her come into this world, surely he'd change his mind on this right? Maybe he needs to have a baby to realize how much it means to him..

 

[Aria]

That dog needs some serious training NOW. I am not one who thinks dogs should go just because there's a new baby in the house (we're keeping ours), but a dog that shows aggression is another story. Dogs that are aggressive CAN be taught strict obedience. My dad had a German shepherd named Satan, and the name was appropriate. My dad had to be FIRM in training that dog or he's gladly kill people. The training extended to Satan learning what he was and wasn't allowed to do even with my dad out of the picture. Satan never ended up liking my mom or me, but he wouldn't hurt us.

Your OH's dog CAN be trained, but it's going to take either an expert handler or someone who will be as firm as necessary and take dominance away from that dog.

This may also be your OH's way of saying he's not ready for children yet. He's not willing to make a sacrifice for their safety because he's not ready, and he might not consciously know it.

 

[bigbloomerz]

My In laws have a dog, and they never got it trained and it barks at them whilst they r eating or pulls them along rather than them taking it for a walk! They are getting old and I do worry about them getting knocked over by it or pulled over on the road.
but try telling this to them and they wont take it, Im not really a pet lover myself, for one im allergic to most of them lol, but if you are to keep an animal in your home and let it roam free around people and guests, it should be trained.
Biting people is not acceptable, playing and nipping someone is not acceptable, dogs should be trained from a puppy or sent to a firm trainer when older.
Not only must the trainer do its job but also once its home the family need to go along with it and not just carry on letting it do as it pleases.

I personally couldnt have a pet around my children 24/7, you hear so many stories and it scares me.

Good luck hun with your OH, im sure he wil come round maybe you just caught him off guard and he needs time to think about it. He obviously loves his pet very much and it would be hard to let go of it.

 

[ozbutterfly]

Personally, I would never come between my husband and his dog (if he had one) BUT my husband is a seriously awesome dog trainer and no dog of his would have trouble with children.

I hope your OH will at least agree to training the dog.

 

[Samantha87]

I have no issue with the dog when he is just around us, he is great around adults, when children come around its different. They just lean to pet him and he snaps. The dog rules the roost around here....i have never had my dog think it was alpha over me, but it thinks its alpha over my OH , we have another dog a husky who is amazing with children and older ppl alike! My OH is very mad at me still.....didnt even sleep with me last night...he slept on the couch....ugh,.. I don't want him to have to get rid of his dog...but i will not have children around this animal.

 

[MaryJ]

I don't blame you - the second that dog snapped at me it would be gone. It's sad that a dog would come between you and your OH but personally if it was my OH he'd have had a serious knock upside the head already. What would he do if that dog seriously injured someone else's child or his own for that matter? It doesn't take a lot.

 

[Samantha87]

I asked him ...about that. I was like what if he bit someone you would have to get rid of him if he mauled(sp?) a child. And he said the police would have to make him get rid of it. And he would hide the dog so the cops wouldn't take him. UGHHH im so mad about this right now. I cant believe that he would pick the dog over me and his child.

 

[Drazic<3]

 

[Samantha87]

Thanks!

 

[Jewels]

Have you ever watched Dog Whisperer? Cesar Milan is great. He is able to correct most dogs behavior - even the most aggressive cases.

I agree with strict training now, and it doesn't matter what age the dog, with good training and correction the bad behavior can be stopped. Many people don't understand that the majority of behavioral issues with dogs are because they are not corrected by the owner. When a dog acts out, it needs to be corrected EVERY SINGLE time until the dog learns the behavior is not ok. By correcting I am not talking about hitting or hurting the dog, just something that will snap his attention from the bad behavior. If a dog does not see you as being dominant over him/her, they will definitely have behavioral issues.

In addition, pent up energy intensifies bad behavior or anxiety the dog may have. Is the dog getting any kind of exercise? In general dogs need to be walked for about a 1/2 hour every day. If it is a herding breed, it is likely full of energy that it does not know what to do with. Is it a highly intelligent breed? If so, they need mental stimulation. Possibly spending some time each day to teach or practice tricks could be helpful.

Again, if you can watch some Dog Whisperer, it may help. Good luck.

 

[cath]

it sounds like the dog may be scared of children & this is whats making him snap. We have a german shepherd that suffers from fear aggression and she is worse with children. If dogs havent been socialised with children from an early age then they dont really know what to make of them and can be really scared of them(especially as they tend to make loud noises & sudden movements-things that a fearful dog will hate) and will do one of 2 things-try to hide or try to scare the children away(growl,snap or bite) A snap is a warning to stay away-the next step could be a bite so this really needs dealing with by a professional-speak to your vet about referral to a behaviourist. In the meantime, I would either keep the dog away from children or muzzle him whenever they are around.
I would add that dogs usually accept babies if they are properly introduced(and by the time the child is crawling, the dog has usually accepted the baby as a member of the family) Our GSD is also fearful agggressive with other dogs but accepted a new puppy without trouble and was so gentle with him,even when he was in his play-biting phase and biting her to death.

 

[mandy81]

 

[overcomer79]

What kind of dog is it? What kind of past does it have? These are questions that must be pondered. My parents have a pitbull who USED to be great with children but then two boys decided they would beat on his lot with a big stick and I would not trust my child around him now. Some breeds just aren't great with children. Has your OH had him since he was a puppy? I have a lab/chow mix and he is excellent with kids but I had him since he was 2 months old and he has met every child in our area and even tries to play "mommy" to my 1.5yr old nephew when he fell off the bed.

 

[Samantha87]

The dog is a cross...not sure what it is between. Some think whippet/greyhound crossed with dobermen...I will get a pic to post and show you guys. He is not a big dog. Even just today my OH's nephews were playing with these cars down the hall way, the dog calmly walked my and snapped at them...they did not do anything to the dog, they have been taught not too touch it. My OH just says No! to the dog then walks away...then I look like the bad one trying to discipline it , even tho it doesnt work with me....dog doesn't listen to me anyways. My OH has said that if i get bit its my own fault....ugh . I have told my OH to invest in getting a trainer...or something along those lines...and he just keeps saying that the dog is fine. I dont know what to do...he doesnt listen to me about this topic at all, I fear that I will get bit or my future children. This dog is spoiled rotten and i Think that is the problem that started this. Its past is good from what I know....no abuse history or anything like that. I just want to get something solved....this is putting a big strain on my relationship.

 

[hapimami]

I cant believe that he would pick the dog over me and his child.

Now this needs some serious talking. You mean he is more concerned for the dog than your new born or baby? I hope he realize it sooner rather than later when something happens bad like you or the baby getting sick.


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[Aria]

I asked him ...about that. I was like what if he bit someone you would have to get rid of him if he mauled(sp?) a child. And he said the police would have to make him get rid of it. And he would hide the dog so the cops wouldn't take him. UGHHH im so mad about this right now. I cant believe that he would pick the dog over me and his child.

There are so many red flags in this. If children are very important to you, you might need to rethink your choice of mate. Someone who would put his dog before his children, even if the dog mauls a couple children, is someone you need to think twice about. I have to say that, but I'd be lying if I said otherwise.

 

[Samantha87]

Well here is a picture of him. Me and OH talked a bit more today and I told him how I felt. We didnt really get in to it much more because we have lots of family over, but i will bug him about it later tonight

 

[Aria]

Looks like a doberman/German shepherd mix.

 

[MaryJ]

I asked him ...about that. I was like what if he bit someone you would have to get rid of him if he mauled(sp?) a child. And he said the police would have to make him get rid of it. And he would hide the dog so the cops wouldn't take him. UGHHH im so mad about this right now. I cant believe that he would pick the dog over me and his child.

There are so many red flags in this. If children are very important to you, you might need to rethink your choice of mate. Someone who would put his dog before his children, even if the dog mauls a couple children, is someone you need to think twice about. I have to say that, but I'd be lying if I said otherwise.

I'm so with Aria on this one. I wouldn't be letting people bring their kids over with that dog in the house. If it were me the dog would have been gone the first time it snapped at me.

Unfortunately, in almost all cases a dog is made aggressive and not born aggressive. It is very very difficult to break those aggression tendencies. I wish that weren't the case.