Kristalebear1
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My OH and I are going through a bit of an issue. He has a puppy that IS NOT potty trained and is 8 months old, he has had her for 6 months. I am already at my wits end with the dog but he "loves" her.
He wants to hang with coworkers after work one day, I say no he needs to come take care of his dog as she is not my responsibility and that he cant make plans last minute and expect me to accommodate them. Now I should let you all know I am on bedrest, I am not allowed to work, my OB almost yelled at me for failing a stress test (ooppsie haha). my pregnancy is considered high risk for reasons Id rather not get into.
Last week my OH takes Mon-Tues off because he knew about my appts (Ultrasound appt, and Ob appt) he knew over a week in advance because they called his phone to remind me of the appt. On the night before the ultrasound he says he doesnt want to go, and wants alone time, then changes it and says he took the days off to hang with a co worker (saying he didnt know of the appts even though he TOLD me the appt time HA!) I told him whatever do go. The day of we get into a fight, and I tell him his daughter is more important than Laser Tag. And Im PISSED. He goes to the ultrasound after I tell him not to, saying he "wants" to all of a sudden. (On a positive note we got to see our beautiful baby girl)
Today he texts me and says he wants to go to laser tag tomorrow with his buddies. I say no, telling him he needs to find a dog sitter since he refuses to potty train his dog, and I am not supposed to be going up and down three flights of stairs multiple times a day (My OB told me to limit how often im going up and down them) and she is not my responsibility. I also tell him, telling me the day before is not advance. Not to mention I was planning on surprising him with a movie date tomorrow, and he throws a fit he cant go with his friends. And says he hates surprises and I should of told him etc. (I wasnt mad about the movie thing btw, I didnt expect him to know of a surprise haha) I told him I was trying to be romantic something he has obviously forgotten exists.
My OB gets on me all the time about how much energy im putting into this puppy and how im putting my baby at risk, he doesnt understand that. He doesnt get the dog stresses me out and that I constantly have to watch her so a few more hours really is hard on me. He doesnt get that he has spent no time with me.
He complains we dont have sex, but the reason I havent been wanting to is because he comes home and plays on his phone, makes no attempt to spend time with me, wont help around the house, and then says we see eachother "all the time" when I say I want time together. All the time apparently is the hour he is home on his phone before eating dinner and going to bed. Literally we say 8 words to eachother some nights. And it hurts me, because I feel like he puts me on the back burner. Then when I come to bed he gets irritated when I dont take his pushing his you know what into my behind as he cuddles me as a romantic way to initiate sex and I dont want to.
I feel so neglected, and alone. I spent all afternoon crying! He didnt used to be like this, he used to bring me flowers to surprise me, take me on dates, spend hours cuddling. Now that Im pregnant I feel like a Hippo (I have gained 24lbs and I was already big to begin with) because he wants nothing to do with romantic time, and just expects me to be okay watching his dog while he goes out with friends. I just want to cry! and he doesnt even seem to care how much it hurts me.
He wants to hang with coworkers after work one day, I say no he needs to come take care of his dog as she is not my responsibility and that he cant make plans last minute and expect me to accommodate them. Now I should let you all know I am on bedrest, I am not allowed to work, my OB almost yelled at me for failing a stress test (ooppsie haha). my pregnancy is considered high risk for reasons Id rather not get into.
Last week my OH takes Mon-Tues off because he knew about my appts (Ultrasound appt, and Ob appt) he knew over a week in advance because they called his phone to remind me of the appt. On the night before the ultrasound he says he doesnt want to go, and wants alone time, then changes it and says he took the days off to hang with a co worker (saying he didnt know of the appts even though he TOLD me the appt time HA!) I told him whatever do go. The day of we get into a fight, and I tell him his daughter is more important than Laser Tag. And Im PISSED. He goes to the ultrasound after I tell him not to, saying he "wants" to all of a sudden. (On a positive note we got to see our beautiful baby girl)
Today he texts me and says he wants to go to laser tag tomorrow with his buddies. I say no, telling him he needs to find a dog sitter since he refuses to potty train his dog, and I am not supposed to be going up and down three flights of stairs multiple times a day (My OB told me to limit how often im going up and down them) and she is not my responsibility. I also tell him, telling me the day before is not advance. Not to mention I was planning on surprising him with a movie date tomorrow, and he throws a fit he cant go with his friends. And says he hates surprises and I should of told him etc. (I wasnt mad about the movie thing btw, I didnt expect him to know of a surprise haha) I told him I was trying to be romantic something he has obviously forgotten exists.
My OB gets on me all the time about how much energy im putting into this puppy and how im putting my baby at risk, he doesnt understand that. He doesnt get the dog stresses me out and that I constantly have to watch her so a few more hours really is hard on me. He doesnt get that he has spent no time with me.
He complains we dont have sex, but the reason I havent been wanting to is because he comes home and plays on his phone, makes no attempt to spend time with me, wont help around the house, and then says we see eachother "all the time" when I say I want time together. All the time apparently is the hour he is home on his phone before eating dinner and going to bed. Literally we say 8 words to eachother some nights. And it hurts me, because I feel like he puts me on the back burner. Then when I come to bed he gets irritated when I dont take his pushing his you know what into my behind as he cuddles me as a romantic way to initiate sex and I dont want to.
I feel so neglected, and alone. I spent all afternoon crying! He didnt used to be like this, he used to bring me flowers to surprise me, take me on dates, spend hours cuddling. Now that Im pregnant I feel like a Hippo (I have gained 24lbs and I was already big to begin with) because he wants nothing to do with romantic time, and just expects me to be okay watching his dog while he goes out with friends. I just want to cry! and he doesnt even seem to care how much it hurts me.