Rant... - Just needed to get it off my chest.

[demonmadcat]

It seems my ex OH is trying his hardest to stress me out...

1) I enquired to a manager at work if he had put in for paternity leave. She asked if he was taking any, and that he hadn't put in for it yet (due in 3 weeks......) She asked if he was wanting it, and I said I didn't know..

I text him to ask if he was taking it, and that he should have already let them know. He didn't realise he had to tell them (Although his 2 brothers have both had children in the last year..) and went in the following day to ask them about it.

He's wanting to take 2 weeks off, and expecting to be at mine for that time (!!!) They've said that with it being so close now, they'll have to ask me if I feel that I need his help, and may not grant it...
If I say I don't want him around... I'm gonna look like a right cow now aren't I?

2) He texts me this morning saying he wants to be in the room when I give birth.. I tell him I don't want anyone in the room, and he tells me that it's not fair.. that I'm making him miss the best day of his life...
I think i'm being quite good actually giving my mum his phone number to let him know I'm going in...

3) He tells me that everything so far has been on my terms, and it's all one sided... I remind him that I have not asked for anything so far, I have let him help choose her name, and, to be fair I've had all the hard work to do...

4) He then says that he wanted to come to the midwife with me, and the birthing classes, but didn't kick up a fuss as it wasn't what I wanted.


I ended up telling him that if he wanted, he could go through everything for me, and then I wouldn't need to be in the room, let alone anyone else..

I felt like telling him that if he didn't stop stressing me out, he'd be lucky to get a text saying I was going in, never mind actually being there...

Sorry... needed to get that off my chest... Unfortunately it hasn't really made me feel better, it just makes me think that I really would have been better off not telling him/telling him it wasn't his....

Em
x

 

[brownhairedmom]

First off, when you're actually pushing, its a highly personal time. You do NOT need to be made to feel uncomfortable. If he absolutely needs to, he can wait outside the door and come in when the baby is out.

Just ignore him. He's being an idiot and thinking its his "duty" now to be part of it - probably because someone told him to say that stuff.

 

[Younglutonmum]

Erghhh typical man, wanting to get involved now the hard work is nearly through!!

Don't feel pressured into having him in the room when you give birth, as Rae said it's a highly personal time!! I think having him there would make the situation even more stressful for you

 

[brownhairedmom]

I think if Adam decided he wanted to be in there when I'm as far along as you girls are...I'd be one of those crazy unconsolable women in labour who scream the room down to get him out lol.

 

[Younglutonmum]

Hahaha I can promise you all now, if Stuart walked into the room while i'm in labour I would get the strength to get up & wallop him so damn hard & then scream like a banshee!!!

I'm not even letting him know im in labour just incase he decides to turn up!!