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Discussion in 'Waiting To Try' started by lovehearts, Dec 10, 2009.

  1. lovehearts

    lovehearts Well-Known Member

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    So today sumone at worked asked me when i was having a baby! i said id love one now but im waiting on OH to be sure (i dont want people knowing we will be ntnp in may) and then she basically implied that i was to young to have a baby (im 22) and that i dont realise how much hard work it is. She got married at 21 and had her first at 22! i asked her is she regretted it and she said no she loves her kid but wishes that she had waited a bit to enjoy her husband a bit more. I do understand this and have heard a lot of people say it but she was implying that i just want a baby - that i dont realise how hard it is. I know it will be hard and the sleepless nights and having NO times to myself but i WANT all of that - i want to be a mommy. Im fed up of people telling me im too young and i dont understand what having kids is :growlmad: what the hell was i supposed to say to her to convince her that i now all of that! :nope: and why is it that people feel they have the right to say that to me - they dont know me, they dont know what kind of relationship i have with OH and dont know my money situation!!!

    sorry guys to rant

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  2. kintenda

    kintenda Well-Known Member

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    :hugs::hugs::hugs:
    I understand hon, in my job as a carer I have all the old dears telling me not to have children yet, that it's too early :dohh:
    At the end of the day, you're right - they don't know you, your situation or how you would cope with a LO. It's annoying when people say stuff like that, I know they mean it with the best of intentions but they all seem to have v strong opinions that aren't always welcomed!
     
  3. lil_angel

    lil_angel Well-Known Member

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    Well atleast your not 15 and wanting to have a baby! Dont understand what wrong wi havin a baby at 22.....! Just ignor her huni :) youll be a great mummy :)
    :hugs: xxxxxx
     
  4. Boony

    Boony Mummy to 3

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    i had my baby at 21 and he was planned! Yes its hard but its worth it!!

    Good luck
     
  5. EstelSeren

    EstelSeren Married Mum of 2!

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    Aww, hon, that must be so annoying!!:hugs: I'm in the opposite situation at the moment! I keep having people tell me that if I'm so broody I should just have a baby and that of course I should ttc as soon as I'm married! I don't even have a job at the moment so you're in a better situation than me! I'm so grateful for their positivity, but it hardly makes the waiting any easier!!:dohh:

    Beca :wave;
     
  6. lovehearts

    lovehearts Well-Known Member

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    Thanx ladies. Just annoys me when people try and force thier lives on to you and what they wished they had done. We are totally different people, by the time i have a LO me and OH will have been together over 5 year and have enjoyed ourselves loads in that time.

    :hugs: lil - you will be an amazing mommy too :) and ill be a virtual auntie :rofl: xxxx
     
  7. goddess25

    goddess25 Well-Known Member

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    It is amazing how people feel they can comment on anything.... when i was pregnant people asked me how old i was, when i replied 35 i got the opposite. 'Oh do you not wish you were pregnant sooner, are you worried about all the risks (NO BUT I AM NOW!!!)to your getting on a bit aren't you?

    They are all interfering busy bodies, You are 22 and yes your young but your old enough obviously to be in the position to give a child a good home. Go for it I say!
     
  8. fuffyburra

    fuffyburra Hattie Flower's mummy :)

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    Best to do it now when you're not a worn out old hag! :p
     
  9. luckyme225

    luckyme225 Well-Known Member

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    :hugs: All that should matter is that you have the love and money to be able to support a child. I'm 22 with a one year old and I love it.
     
  10. Aidan's Mummy

    Aidan's Mummy Mummy to Aidan and Oliver

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    Your 22 not to young at all

    Maybe she was trying to say you never know how hard it is until your there if ya get me. I thought I was prepared for it all and I used to get annoyed when they used to say I am in for a shock

    And I was a baby is a shock to your system but a good one :D You might not think it when your up at 4 in the morning doing a night feed but its all worth it.

    Just say I may not know the reality fo being a mum yet but I think on a whole I am ready to take that on
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  11. Blah11

    Blah11 ☼ Mummy to Amelie ☼

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    I was 20 when I fell pregnant, 21 when I gave birth and I don't regret it at all. Some people are just born to be mothers :shrug: I don't miss anything about my prebaby life really :\
     
  12. lovehearts

    lovehearts Well-Known Member

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    Thank you girls - you all know how to cheer me up! i know it will be a big shock but im ready for that and thats what i want. by the time i have a bubba i will be nearly 24 so in my mind that is not too young at all!

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