rant rant rant

[lovehearts]

So today sumone at worked asked me when i was having a baby! i said id love one now but im waiting on OH to be sure (i dont want people knowing we will be ntnp in may) and then she basically implied that i was to young to have a baby (im 22) and that i dont realise how much hard work it is. She got married at 21 and had her first at 22! i asked her is she regretted it and she said no she loves her kid but wishes that she had waited a bit to enjoy her husband a bit more. I do understand this and have heard a lot of people say it but she was implying that i just want a baby - that i dont realise how hard it is. I know it will be hard and the sleepless nights and having NO times to myself but i WANT all of that - i want to be a mommy. Im fed up of people telling me im too young and i dont understand what having kids is what the hell was i supposed to say to her to convince her that i now all of that! and why is it that people feel they have the right to say that to me - they dont know me, they dont know what kind of relationship i have with OH and dont know my money situation!!!

sorry guys to rant

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[kintenda]

I understand hon, in my job as a carer I have all the old dears telling me not to have children yet, that it's too early
At the end of the day, you're right - they don't know you, your situation or how you would cope with a LO. It's annoying when people say stuff like that, I know they mean it with the best of intentions but they all seem to have v strong opinions that aren't always welcomed!

 

[lil_angel]

Well atleast your not 15 and wanting to have a baby! Dont understand what wrong wi havin a baby at 22.....! Just ignor her huni youll be a great mummy
xxxxxx

 

[Boony]

i had my baby at 21 and he was planned! Yes its hard but its worth it!!

Good luck

 

[EstelSeren]

Aww, hon, that must be so annoying!! I'm in the opposite situation at the moment! I keep having people tell me that if I'm so broody I should just have a baby and that of course I should ttc as soon as I'm married! I don't even have a job at the moment so you're in a better situation than me! I'm so grateful for their positivity, but it hardly makes the waiting any easier!!

Beca :wave;

 

[lovehearts]

Thanx ladies. Just annoys me when people try and force thier lives on to you and what they wished they had done. We are totally different people, by the time i have a LO me and OH will have been together over 5 year and have enjoyed ourselves loads in that time.

lil - you will be an amazing mommy too and ill be a virtual auntie xxxx

 

[goddess25]

It is amazing how people feel they can comment on anything.... when i was pregnant people asked me how old i was, when i replied 35 i got the opposite. 'Oh do you not wish you were pregnant sooner, are you worried about all the risks (NO BUT I AM NOW!!!)to your getting on a bit aren't you?

They are all interfering busy bodies, You are 22 and yes your young but your old enough obviously to be in the position to give a child a good home. Go for it I say!

 

[fuffyburra]

Best to do it now when you're not a worn out old hag!

 

[luckyme225]

All that should matter is that you have the love and money to be able to support a child. I'm 22 with a one year old and I love it.

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

Your 22 not to young at all

Maybe she was trying to say you never know how hard it is until your there if ya get me. I thought I was prepared for it all and I used to get annoyed when they used to say I am in for a shock

And I was a baby is a shock to your system but a good one You might not think it when your up at 4 in the morning doing a night feed but its all worth it.

Just say I may not know the reality fo being a mum yet but I think on a whole I am ready to take that on
xx

 

[Blah11]

I was 20 when I fell pregnant, 21 when I gave birth and I don't regret it at all. Some people are just born to be mothers I don't miss anything about my prebaby life really :\

 

[lovehearts]

Thank you girls - you all know how to cheer me up! i know it will be a big shock but im ready for that and thats what i want. by the time i have a bubba i will be nearly 24 so in my mind that is not too young at all!

xxxx