Muma22princes
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Hi im new to the forums so bit of background lol Ive have 2 lil boys 4, 18 months from a previous relationship. We were together on and off for 4 years before he decided to join the army and go leaving me and our 1st born. We still 'together' for a while then had our 2nd son and i found out he was cheating etc and things were ended. Hes been in a load of relationships since every time coming back to me blah blah blah. Finally decided i didnt need it anymore especially for the boys so ended it finally. That was quite a long time ago now i was still preg with our 2nd son at the time. Since hes in the army he lives like 8 hours or so away.
Right ok back on track a little bit hee hee In January just gone he decided to 'pop in' and saw the boys for the first time in 14ish months???? Since then weve heard nothing else either. He just doesnt bother. Never has and mever will i guess tbh. Its like since he doesnt live round here he doesnt worry about it. Doesnt bother to ring and check how theyre doing or arranging times/places to see them. I understand since he lives miles away he wouldnt be able to see them like once a week or summat like that but i woldnt care how often it was so long as he kept to it. So every month/2/3 months. Whatever but he just never keeps to his word and months will go inbetween. During all this hes got into another relationship and theyre now 'engaged' ( hes been engaged twice before 2 different girls oooo wonder how long this 1 will last lol) Anyways i had a email off this girl saying 'hi' etc hoping wed be 'friends' and i was just like riiight ok hi. Since then she emailed me again saying how nice itd be to meet up and get to know each other etc That 'he' really misses the boys etc always talking about them??? She said they have a pic of our eldest son up in their living room and itd be nice to get one of the youngest to go up as well. Welll for some reason all this has REALLY got to me!!!! Why does she have to contact me?? What is she on about he misses them/always talks about them. He doesnt even know them!! If he was really worried about them surely hed ring to talk to them/about them or keep regualr contact with them??? As for the piccis this made me livid!! Havin piccis up showing our son off when he doesnt even bother with him?? I kno in theory when i stop and think, why shouldnt he have a picci of them up?? But to me hes not their 'dad' he hasnt seen them properly (for longer than 30 mins which he did in jan) in YEARS As for our youngest i could honestly say if our son was with someone else hes prob walk straight past him not knowing hes his son!! So i dont understand how he gets the right to be alll yeahhhh look at my son isnt he gorgeous etc. She said in the email they have loads of piccis of them, id LOVE to kno where they got these from?? My guess is his sister as up until the past year or so she used to see them regularly but even thats stopped!!!
She said as well shed like to keep in contact so if they have kids one day they could all kno each other??!! Wtf, in an ideal world id love this, sounds perfect!! But when i stop an think WHAT he doesnt BOTHER with them!!! Hasnt seen them/spoke to them/found out how they are in YEARS! What makes her think when they have kids hell suddenley decided to start visiting here just so they can 'play' together??!!!!
Sorry for the long rambling post, its just this has REALLY got to me!!!!!! We Were together for such a long time and we were both young as the time. We have never fallen out or argue we just sorta 'grew' out of each other i guess. I was 14 when we 1st got together he was 16. Ive alwasy tried my best to keep contact with him, ringing HIM to tell him how the boys are etc I have previously sent a picci of them both to try and keep him involved. Ive alwasy just let him in my house when hes turned up expecting to see the boys without arranging anything even if we were busy/about to go out etc as i feel bad that they boys dont see him. Then about 2 21/2 i thought why am i bothering???!!!! Why should i run after him telling him about HIS children when he cant be bothered. So i stopped all the contact i was doing and thats when his TRUE colours showed and he never bothered once contacting me/them seeing how they were?? So all along it was me keeping up the contact not him anyways!!! We've recently moved house and im hoping finally to move on, finally get him out of my head for good. Me or the boys dont need someone who constantly lets them down, doesnt bother with them and i honestly believes he doesnt give a damn! Before when he used to visit, hed have times where i really thought id got throu to him about how the boys need him etc and id really think wed done it. Id try and arrange another time for him 2 see them and hed be like ooo not sure when im down etc and think even though it seems for a split second he realises his responcibility he quickly forgets it??? Arghhhh its just really got to me this. We are all moving on, we have a lovely new house, i have a new job, boys are settled to school/nursery we have a lovely extended family then up comes his new fiancee and crashes it all back down again??!!
Arghhh sorry for the rambly post just needed somewhere to rant i think, it upsets me so much the boys dont have him around anyway then for another new fiancee just to contact me and discuss things like that telling me all about how he loves them/displays them round their house etc its just infruriates me!! Tell me if im wrong i just dont get it???
Well done if u got this far and thanks for reading
Right ok back on track a little bit hee hee In January just gone he decided to 'pop in' and saw the boys for the first time in 14ish months???? Since then weve heard nothing else either. He just doesnt bother. Never has and mever will i guess tbh. Its like since he doesnt live round here he doesnt worry about it. Doesnt bother to ring and check how theyre doing or arranging times/places to see them. I understand since he lives miles away he wouldnt be able to see them like once a week or summat like that but i woldnt care how often it was so long as he kept to it. So every month/2/3 months. Whatever but he just never keeps to his word and months will go inbetween. During all this hes got into another relationship and theyre now 'engaged' ( hes been engaged twice before 2 different girls oooo wonder how long this 1 will last lol) Anyways i had a email off this girl saying 'hi' etc hoping wed be 'friends' and i was just like riiight ok hi. Since then she emailed me again saying how nice itd be to meet up and get to know each other etc That 'he' really misses the boys etc always talking about them??? She said they have a pic of our eldest son up in their living room and itd be nice to get one of the youngest to go up as well. Welll for some reason all this has REALLY got to me!!!! Why does she have to contact me?? What is she on about he misses them/always talks about them. He doesnt even know them!! If he was really worried about them surely hed ring to talk to them/about them or keep regualr contact with them??? As for the piccis this made me livid!! Havin piccis up showing our son off when he doesnt even bother with him?? I kno in theory when i stop and think, why shouldnt he have a picci of them up?? But to me hes not their 'dad' he hasnt seen them properly (for longer than 30 mins which he did in jan) in YEARS As for our youngest i could honestly say if our son was with someone else hes prob walk straight past him not knowing hes his son!! So i dont understand how he gets the right to be alll yeahhhh look at my son isnt he gorgeous etc. She said in the email they have loads of piccis of them, id LOVE to kno where they got these from?? My guess is his sister as up until the past year or so she used to see them regularly but even thats stopped!!!
She said as well shed like to keep in contact so if they have kids one day they could all kno each other??!! Wtf, in an ideal world id love this, sounds perfect!! But when i stop an think WHAT he doesnt BOTHER with them!!! Hasnt seen them/spoke to them/found out how they are in YEARS! What makes her think when they have kids hell suddenley decided to start visiting here just so they can 'play' together??!!!!
Sorry for the long rambling post, its just this has REALLY got to me!!!!!! We Were together for such a long time and we were both young as the time. We have never fallen out or argue we just sorta 'grew' out of each other i guess. I was 14 when we 1st got together he was 16. Ive alwasy tried my best to keep contact with him, ringing HIM to tell him how the boys are etc I have previously sent a picci of them both to try and keep him involved. Ive alwasy just let him in my house when hes turned up expecting to see the boys without arranging anything even if we were busy/about to go out etc as i feel bad that they boys dont see him. Then about 2 21/2 i thought why am i bothering???!!!! Why should i run after him telling him about HIS children when he cant be bothered. So i stopped all the contact i was doing and thats when his TRUE colours showed and he never bothered once contacting me/them seeing how they were?? So all along it was me keeping up the contact not him anyways!!! We've recently moved house and im hoping finally to move on, finally get him out of my head for good. Me or the boys dont need someone who constantly lets them down, doesnt bother with them and i honestly believes he doesnt give a damn! Before when he used to visit, hed have times where i really thought id got throu to him about how the boys need him etc and id really think wed done it. Id try and arrange another time for him 2 see them and hed be like ooo not sure when im down etc and think even though it seems for a split second he realises his responcibility he quickly forgets it??? Arghhhh its just really got to me this. We are all moving on, we have a lovely new house, i have a new job, boys are settled to school/nursery we have a lovely extended family then up comes his new fiancee and crashes it all back down again??!!
Arghhh sorry for the rambly post just needed somewhere to rant i think, it upsets me so much the boys dont have him around anyway then for another new fiancee just to contact me and discuss things like that telling me all about how he loves them/displays them round their house etc its just infruriates me!! Tell me if im wrong i just dont get it???
Well done if u got this far and thanks for reading
