revenge

[babydue2011]

I can not stand him. i want revenge! i want to ruin his life like he has mine! i want him to feel the pain/saddness i feel everyday! I want him to be home alone 24/7 like i am. I want him to suffer! Seeeeee i tried to be nice, not telling any of my exs friends or family about baby, even his gf! i tried to be nice and not bother him! tried to be nice when he says he feels guilty and drinks himself away. I tried to be nice and supportive. telling him it was ok and i forgive you. but the moment i need somebody to talk to and go to him, he treats me like a piece of sh**. like i am a nobody!

no matter how sad or how much i still love him .. i also hate him and want revenge. I want to tell his family, i want to tell his gf, and i want to tell his friends! i am his lifed to be ruined! ughhhhhhhhhhhh

but then again i really dont... i dont want him apart of my babys life, i dont want to share and i dont want to go through the pain of him seeing somebody new around my LO. ughh just needed to vent. i just wish he could act like he cared a lil bit

 

[Laura2919]

Dont let him bring you down. Concentrate on you and your baby, I just see pictures on FB for the first time of FOB and his GF and it did hurt a bit but I just let it go because I really cant be bothered to fight no longer, I keep thinking he owes me respect but really I owe myself respect, enough to just leave it alone.

They will get their payback. One day.

 

[babydue2011]

thanks. i know i try but ughhh there is so much anger inside me. maybe once my LO is here it will be a lil easier. i just feel so alone, i honestly have no friends. My mom and thats it. yesterday was my 22nd birthday and would have been our 4 year anniversary. i guess that has made me a lil depressed the last couple of days. i am good some days and others i am just full of anger! i know i should let go but this anger inside me is just always there.

 

[stephanie20]

i feel the same as you! my ex used me for 6 months, got me into ALOT of debt that hes just walked away from, got me pregnant which he said he wanted and then three weeks later he'd walked away, i really don't know how people like that sleep at night :/

if you want my advice i wouldn't tell him about you being pregnant, you and your baby are better off on your own without someone that will just leave you my ex knows i'm pregnant and keeps threatening me with that hes gonna get full custody and stuff and i wish now that he didn't know tbh

it'll be okay in the end, i felt down when my ex left me but i don't care anymore, i just can't wait til LO is born whens your due date? mines 29th feb

 

[mamashakesit]

I know the anger thing. My LO is nearly a year and I'm still going through it. If I understand correctly, none of his friends, family or GF know you are pregnant?

 

[mkm1083]

I'm not sure if the anger ever really goes away. You know what the best revenge is though? Knowing that my kids are going to hate him and I don't even have to say one negative word about him.

 

[babydue2011]

thanks ladies

My due date is Dec 21... and he knows im pregnant but does not want anything to do with baby. which im kinda glad because i dont want to share my LO. im just angry with the whole situation and how i still love him and get sad over it all.

And you are correct, nobody (his family, friends or new gf) knows i am pregnant.

i just dont understand how you can be with somebody for 3 years and then one day just act like none of it ever matter, find a new gf and now love her. like the wtf. i feel like a nobody ( i have only had 3 bfs and have been cheated on by all actually) ... just a self esteem crusher i guess

 

[babydue2011]

I'm not sure if the anger ever really goes away. You know what the best revenge is though? Knowing that my kids are going to hate him and I don't even have to say one negative word about him.

good revenge... i can hope he hates him. me and my brothers grew up without dad but my brothers think he walks on water and treats my mom like crap even tho she has always been there for them and raised all three of us as a single mom. i hope it does not backfire and he hates me.

 

[young_n_proud]

I would say GO FOR IT! but that is my immature selfish angry side talking. The mature part says, sorry about all of your heartache. I know how much it can hurt when you invest so much into a relationship only for it to fail. I know it's easier said than done but you really need to just cut all ties. If he is moving on then so should you. You said that he doesn't want to be apart of the baby's life so go with that. Focus on YOU. When was the last time that you were just hot single and loving it? The answer is RIGHT NOW. Focus on yourself until your little darling comes into the world, because then you will be focusing so much on him. And he will most likely fill a whole in your heart you never even knew you had. Best of luck hun

 

[teal]

He'll regret it one day xx

 

[Laura2919]

I'm not sure if the anger ever really goes away. You know what the best revenge is though? Knowing that my kids are going to hate him and I don't even have to say one negative word about him.

I agree 100% with this.. Its true. When my girls grow up and realise he tore the relationship apart I wont have to do anything.

 

[babydue2011]

I would say GO FOR IT! but that is my immature selfish angry side talking.

that is my side too... i have decided im not going to do anything. i do need to move on just very hard. only 8 weeks till LO is here so i am going to start focusing on that. i know once baby is here and i am back to my old self i will be able to go out, meet peope and actually make friends. the anger is still there but it is best to just let go. I know there is somebody way better out there for me. thank you

 

[Rhio92]

I reckon you should egg his house. Do it when he goes away for a few days so when he gets back, it'll stink and he'll have to pay to get it cleaned

But actually, we're all mature, sensible adults, unlike these stupid little boys.
You have your son, and you do it fine without him. And if you ever see him in the street, give him a smile like everything's ok, that'll really piss him off, knowing you're perfectly happy without him x

 

[babydue2011]

haha i like the egg throwing idea

i know i will be ok .. ughh just need to keep strong. i just have these weak moments. plus all the anger does not help. idk even know why i am so sad.. i know i deserve somebody better. I think we all deserve better than the little boys who have played and tricked us.

Just need to keep telling myself 8 weeks and LO will be here!

 

[Laura2919]

at egging his house.. Lol.. Trick or treat??

But seriously, the best revenge is to sit back and wait for Karma to tear them to shreds cos it WILL happen.

 

[babydue2011]

thanks ladies ... sitting back and waiting is what i will do. boy do i hope he (and all these other no good lil boys) get it ... 10X worse.

 

[Laura2919]

I know how hard it is but it will come... I am still waiting but it will and I know it will

 

[Mally01]

I think we should all buy voodoo dolls in the images of our FOB's and stick pins in their genitals on a daily basis he! he! he!

 

[Laura2919]

I think we should all buy voodoo dolls in the images of our FOB's and stick pins in their genitals on a daily basis he! he! he!

Where do we buy I need me one! ASAP!

 

[Mally01]

I think we should all buy voodoo dolls in the images of our FOB's and stick pins in their genitals on a daily basis he! he! he!

Where do we buy I need me one! ASAP!

Mothercare...in the miscellanous baby essentials section ROFL