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[xAmiixLouisex]

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[Snowball]

To change his surname it would need both parents consent regardless of if he was on the BC or not. Ignore him hun

 

[Ceejay123]

He has no rights if he's not on the birth certificate, He'd have to take you to court to get Parental Responsibility then put his name on the birth certificate. To change LO's name he'd need a proper reason.. Which he won't have. So courts would dismiss it. x

 

[Snowball]

Oh and don't worry about the possibility of him and his family trying to take LO off of you... I think a lot of them try this tactic.

My ex DH had his life with our kids mapped out. Him going out to work bringing home the money, whilst his mum gave up work to care for them and me never seeing them again... Like The Waltons

Needless to say, 18 months down the line I've never been contacted by a solicitor to put this absurd, delusional order in place

 

[babyoneill]

hes absolutely no rights if not on the birth certificate unless you give him PR (perental responsibility) x

 

[RaRalalala]

He has no rights and he wont get to change LOs surname unless you said so, even if he went for pr courts look at a whole lot of things before considering granting it, like how much he's bothered with the child etc x

 

[teal]

Where I am if you're not married then it's the mother who gets to choose the name regardless of whether FOB is on the certificate or not xx

 

[xAmiixLouisex]

Thanks girls. He's made such a huge fuss over it, he's called me twisted and selfish and all sorts. I'm wondering if there's actually a lot more to it than just wanting his child to have his surname. He said I'd have to add him to the bc then we change his name. I reckon he may just be kicking up a fuss because really, he wants to get on the bc so he has more rights. His mother's been slagging me off left right and centre saying how I can't cook, how will I feed my baby. Of course I'll learn to cook better by then for gods sake. And they've brought a pram for the ONE night a week they have him because 'apparently' I don't take him out enough and he needs fresh air or can develop some skin condition. I do take him out. Not every day, but we go out a few times a week whether it's just to my mom's or popping to the shop or whatever. So all these things are making me think is this the kind of stuff they're thinking of to hold against me in court . Maybe I'm paranoid. But, just wanted to double check about what he can actually do..

 

[RaRalalala]

Thanks girls. He's made such a huge fuss over it, he's called me twisted and selfish and all sorts. I'm wondering if there's actually a lot more to it than just wanting his child to have his surname. He said I'd have to add him to the bc then we change his name. I reckon he may just be kicking up a fuss because really, he wants to get on the bc so he has more rights. His mother's been slagging me off left right and centre saying how I can't cook, how will I feed my baby. Of course I'll learn to cook better by then for gods sake. And they've brought a pram for the ONE night a week they have him because 'apparently' I don't take him out enough and he needs fresh air or can develop some skin condition. I do take him out. Not every day, but we go out a few times a week whether it's just to my mom's or popping to the shop or whatever. So all these things are making me think is this the kind of stuff they're thinking of to hold against me in court . Maybe I'm paranoid. But, just wanted to double check about what he can actually do..

If that's all they have then that's laughable! Don't worry about them at all, my FOB isn't on LO's BC either and she has my surname - what can he do about it? Nothing! Luckily mine is too thick and lazy to realise he now has no rights and is lucky I let him see her. As for your FOB's mother she can just take a hike and tell her that. Would look really good in court that an adult is stooping to slagging you off, seriously they sound like a joke to me.

 

[Dezireey]

I see a lot of posts on this forum about us Mum's worrying about some FOB's wanting to take the baby away from us. I know in the UK, you would have to prove something serious is really going on beyond a shadow of a doubt (e.g Mum is alcoholic, on drugs, mentally sectioned etc!) before a court will take a baby away from it's Mother. To be honest, the mere proof that an FOB left the Mother and not the Mother left the FOB (unless she had to because of violence etc) means a court will always look unfavourably on the Father. I know that good fathers are out there, whose relationships have broken down with the mothers and they fight to see their kids, but even then most of them only get visitation rights, some custody etc. An FOB who wasn't even present at the birth of his child wouldn't stand a chance in hell of taking a baby away from it's mother or getting full custody.

You would have to be doing something pretty damn serious (that can also be PROVED) before anyone takes your baby away from you. I know I am not an expert but maybe the younger mums on here are worrying a lot about this. I think this would apply no matter where you live. So, please stop worrying about this. If you love your baby, solely look after it, are completely responsible for them then you have the upper hand. Sadly even some Mothers who themselves have disappeared from the lives of their children and the Dad has bought the kid up can waltz in and maybe even take full custody in some instances, just because she is the mother.

 

[babyoneill]

omg i would watch them hun sounds like they could be up to something i wouldnt trust them too much, my baby girl is 5 and her dad hasnt had anything to do with her since she was 1 and he is on the BC but i got told that even tho hes on it i can change her name eventually after 2 years of using a diff surname for 2 years by "usage" its good that he is actually wanting to be a part of ur babies life but dont trust them too much xx