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  1. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    As you all know about my niece (2 in November) being jealous of Jayden and she began hitting him and shouting at him well anyways she began getting used to him being here and started enjoying him by cuddling him and constantly asking 'where's Jayden?' but now she has been in ours for the last week and the last few days she has started hitting him again so she has been put on the 'naughty step' but today it went TOO far and Jayden has been unwell so took me two hours!! getting him settled after his bottle so puts him down to go do his bottles and next minute Jayden is screaming at the top of his lungs!! sop i runs in and me mum is cuddling him + rocking him and sky is hiding laughing so i tried seeing what she done to him and then i saw blood by his nose so looked closer and there was bite marks!!!! :hissy: so i smacked her leg, not hard but so she knew it was wrong, very very wrong! but she laughed and ran away!

    what do i do girls .. am scared she will try something more serious because of the jealousy :cry: xxx
     
  2. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    Things i have tried:
    - smacking her lightly on the leg or hand
    - shouting at her
    - letting her help me play with Jayden or feed him
    - telling her to be nice and not hit him
    - putting her on the 'naughty step'
    - not letting her come down
    - threatening to move out

    what else can i do!! :cry:
     
  3. Younglutonmum

    Younglutonmum Mummy To Maya & Bump

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    Omg Rach this is awful

    I really don't know what to suggest as you seem to have done everything!

    Only thing I can say is when she's there it looks like someone will have to keep a constant watch on her when she's near J

    :hug:
     
  4. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    thats just it she is soo sneakkyy .. she goes to play with him so you think ye shes ok and as soon as your backs turned he screams! but ye i usually don't put him down when shes here but then he gets so clingy when shes gone and i get f*** all done :( xx
     
  5. Younglutonmum

    Younglutonmum Mummy To Maya & Bump

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    Yeh it's certainly not ideal to be constantly holding him. I find that with Maya, if I have a few hours where for whatever reason i'm holding her alot then she'll want to be held all bloody day, even for a nap!!

    I really really hope your niece learns soon, it cant be nice seeing little J being hurt!

    :hug:
     
  6. Ell.Bishh

    Ell.Bishh Alex's Mammy & TTC #2!

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    Oh thats so horrible!
    I know its not really the same but when my gran got her puppy (he's only a tiny little thing) my cousin was jelous that the pup was getting her attention, put a cushion on the dog and sat on the poor thing, we only knew because we heard the dog crying and basically screaming, but now the dogss 5 and has arthritis because of it, kids can be cruel when theres someone 'replacing' them, maybe not literally, but in there eyes they are being replaced.

    I dont really know what to suggest, youve done pretty much everything, all i can think of is to tell her that if she does anything to harm him in the slightest once more she is not allowed back and enforce it for afew days or so until she has got it.

    Sorry im not much help, i hope it gets better though and i hope Jaydens alright!
    :hugs:
     
  7. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    i know :( especially when hes sick and he is already in pain, my poor babii :cry: just sick of constantly telling her its wrong to hit him i wish she would just get the picture that he ain't going any were and be nice! i know she is still literally a baby herself but she is told and told but don't listen :( x
     
  8. ellasmummy

    ellasmummy Well-Known Member

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    Oh dear. I dont really know what to say, most children go through this is think and its just a phase that will pass. Although its annoying just keep telling her off and being firm so she never for one minute thinks its ok. This has got me thinking about what Ella is going to be like with Abby, as Abby is due in 3 weeks and Ella is 2 in december. So roughly same age. xx
     
  9. vicky

    vicky Well-Known Member

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    hun does your mum do the same as well as your neices mum???? the only thing i can think off is that she is not getting it cos only one person is doing it and not the rest of the family doing the same???

    I hope that makes sence.
     
  10. nikky0907

    nikky0907 Well-Known Member

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    Oh boy...what about her parents? Do they punish her when she does this?
    It seems to me that the naughty step and light smacking isn't working for her and she could really hurt him!
    I don't know what to suggest in terms of disciplining her I can only advise you keep her away from him as much as possible...
    :hugs:
     
  11. marley2580

    marley2580 Well-Known Member

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    Sounds to me as if she's getting attention for her behaviour and loving it. I'd go the other way and actually put her out the room and completly ignore her (and get everyone else to as well) for a good few minutes, no eye contact - nothing. She may be only 2 but she still knows it's wrong, she's doing it for the reaction. I'd also make it a condition of her being there that if she can't behave she doesn't get to interact in any way with the baby, including playing. If she goes near the baby, remove him. Maybe get a sling or a carrier so you can hold him and still get stuff done.
     
  12. mBLACK

    mBLACK Mother to one & WTT!

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    OMG this is horrible! I'm sorry I haven't got any suggestions. Good luck though.:(:hugs:
     
  13. ColtonsMom

    ColtonsMom Well-Known Member

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    I would probably try this. Maybe get a baby gate and put her behind it away from him when she is mean. Nobody go in that room with her or show her any attention.
     
  14. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    She got sent home today because of the way she was acting with Jayden and will most probably be back down next weekend so will try the baby gate thing, firstly i shall buy one lol. an thanks for asking girls, j is doing fine got little bite marks on his nose but he is as cheerful as ever xx
     
  15. ALY

    ALY spammy sexington

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    sorry i got no idear
    but just wanted to send:hug: for little one
     
  16. oOKayOo

    oOKayOo Well-Known Member

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    Whatever you do telling her off never works , trust me .. carly plays with ella quite roughly and from day 1 of ella being born she still hasnt listened to this day [​IMG] seems nothing wors apart from eyes always watching them
     
  17. Aidan's Mummy

    Aidan's Mummy Mummy to Aidan and Oliver

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    thats horrible hun :hugs:. What does her mum say about her behaviour??
    xx
     
  18. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    because she doesn't see it, she don't believe it x
     
  19. Aidan's Mummy

    Aidan's Mummy Mummy to Aidan and Oliver

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    i really don't know what to suggest to do then hunni. But like the other women said it sounds like she is trying to get attention and she doesn't care if that attention is good or bad. Big hugs to you and jayden hun :hug:. I hope you get it sorted out soon
    xx
     
  20. vicky

    vicky Well-Known Member

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    Your mum should believe you.
     

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