sad that kids will be furthe apart in age

[LouLou78]

Its nice to read the varying opinions on age gaps. Our two eldest are 2 years apart aged 12 and 10 and our youngest is 2 tomorrow. My worry is that I don't want to stop at three with my youngest not having a sibling close to her in age, but I certainly didn't want the 2 year gap again like the eldest two, that was hard. This is why when she is 3 we might start trying for another. Its nice to read that 4 year gaps and more, still can offer a close relationship that my two eldest have.

 

[Seity]

Ours will be 3 years apart and I'm worried they will be too close in age. I never wanted more than one, so the idea of 2 close together is pretty much my idea of hell. No offence to someone who actually wants that, but it's definitely not for me.

 

[dimble]

Hiya!
We are trying for #2, and our daughter is 8, going on 13!! LoL .. just kidding. She is turning 9 in November. So if we are lucky to conceive quickly, there will be a 9 year gap between the 2.
I am not that worried. My dd is very eager and have asked for a sibling for 4 yrs now. Since me and my OH decided to GO FOR IT, we have spoken with her to see what she thinks. She is super excited, she said she will share her room and do whatever she can to help. she has asked many times if me and daddy can make me be pregnant tomorrow! LOL.. if only it was that easy we tell her..
Basically, I think a big gap should be ok.
She also promised that she will babysit when she is 16 so mummy and daddy can go out! LoL.. i think i should get her to sign something now Good luck!!!

 

[zennie]

Hi everyone,

My first 2 kids have a year & half gap, they are now 12 & 10 and half.
We also have an almost 4 month old baby girl
My older kids are fantastic with her.
I dont regret the age gap at all.

 

[weebun]

5 years between me and my big bro and we get on great, used to fight like cat and dog as kids but loved eachother dearly too LOL x

My son is 9 from a prev relationship, and we have a 13 month old girl and another on the way in December. My son is the best big bro ever, he is a fantastic little helper and my daughter absolutely loves him, and they have a great bond already, it is so clear to see, My son is just so protective of his sister and loves being with her, and she gets on his nerves sometimes too LOL because that's just kids.

My partner just puts it down to how they are brought up and how much we involve the kids with each other and with us, yet make time for both individually so they get time on their own with us or just mum or dad time.... because we r a family but we are all individuals too with different interests and needs x

no matter what the age, or the little fall outs along the way, they will be brought up to know that family are the ones they can turn to no matter what and to be there for each other and look after each other and to be respectful of each other x

we both work, me part-time and my partner full time, I'll be on mat leave soon though x we just make it work x and love each other dearly, it has its ups and downs but rules and discipline and some kind of routine helps x

 

[jubilee]

There will be 2 3/4 years between by most recent but there are 11 years between my first 2! He is amazing with her and it doesn't worry be as me & my bro are 10 years apart and get o amazingly xxx

 

[binksmommy]

My kiddos will be 8 1/2 yrs apart!! I have a good friend who has 2 girls 10 yrs apart and he are BFF's... So I'm hoping this bean is a girl!! I really want my daughter to have someone she can trust in her life..

 

[Annie77]

I have two girls who are 7&9. They are 27 months apart and they share a room, share toys, play really nicely and also fight really well too.
All my siblings have 2 years between us but I have to say that having two close together had its pros and cons.

When my second daughter got to 15 months the thought of having another with a 2 year gap was not an option; hubby didn't want more and I could not have juggled work with a newborn, 2 and 4 yr old.
Unfortunately DH never changed his mind until an accident last year ended in an ectopic. He saw How distraught I was about losing the pregnancy and how much I wanted one more. He agreed to one more and after a mc in march, I am now pregnant again.
I am a little worried about the age gap - kids really want me to have a baby and make promises of babysitting when older!
I am really keeping my fingers crossed for twins so I don't need to worry about third being lonely!

 

[passion4shoes]

Crickey! My eldest will be 14 when this one comes along. Quite a gap! They will hopefully be close- obviously not as traditional siblings, probably more like an uncle. Especially as my eldest will go off to uni etc

He has enjoyed being an only child but is really interested and excited in this pregnancy. I do plan on having another fairly soon though.

 

[Sal76]

I had my first four in four and a half years so the 8 yr gap will be lovely!!!

Sx

 

[darkstar]

When this one is born my other two will be 13 and 15. My eldest loves babies and will make a great babysitter lol

 

[Bats11]

I really like the gap of my kids! My two older girls adore their little sister

 

[Bumpblessing4]

My older three are all three years apart and love each other and even play together. Of course they fight. All siblings do, but not more because they are three years apart. One of my friends is BEST friends with her sister who is five years older and the older one feels the same way, and then I know two other sisters who are five years apart who can't stand each other. My dad and his younger brother are just one year apart and have nothing in common and really don't have contact with each other except at infrequent family events. He talks most with two sisters who are much younger than he is (one is ten years younger). My mother and her sister are 18 months apart and have never gotten along (my mother can't stand her, and they are very different). So age will not be the factor that really determines how close your children are to each other emotionally.

 

[Bumpblessing4]

And I almost forgot to mention that one of my brothers is 9 1/2 years younger than me and I just adored him growing up! My mother said that I was his other mommy.

 

[Funny Mummy]

I always wanted a 2 and a half year age gap between my kids so when I git my BFP right in target I was so happy. Unfortunately I lost that baby at 15 weeks and now I am 12 weeks pregnant. There will be a 3 year 9 month gap and I have learned to accept it. My daughter will be at a great age to get involved with her sibling and I hope they will be close. There are 19 months between my brother and I am we fight like cat & dog. I am also glad that I had all that time with my daughter. It has been so special and I am so grateful. She will be at school 3 days a week when the baby is 6 months old so I will get plenty of one on one time with this one too. I feel very lucky. I just had to adjust how I viewed it and find the benefits!